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To not be interested in men or sex?

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PinkCottonClouds · 11/07/2025 13:19

I’m 37, I’ve been in a turbulent with the father of my children for 13 years. We split up a few years ago and got back together, and split up again about 6 months ago after I suffered a mental breakdown and he couldn’t or didn’t want to deal with it, long story short. Both times myself and children came to live with my parents. Children are settled here as am I.

ex is always messaging about sex and how attractive he finds me. I’ve also got a couple of men asking me on dates, to meet etc. But really, I’m just not interested. My youngest is only 4 and I just want to spend what time I can with them, and when I haven’t got them I’d rather watch Netflix, chill with my parents or read than bother the time and effort of going on dates! I don’t know what it is, if I’m messaging a man and they make a sexual comment it just gives me “the ick” at the moment. I suppose a drink with a man might be nice and an intellectual conversation, but urgh when someone has barely met you and say they’d love to kiss you or see you naked or just turns me off.

i don’t even crave the company of a man really, id rather get into bed with my children on a night than a man. Maybe mid cycle sex enters my thoughts a bit but other than that it doesn’t bother me.

After almost being “man mad” since I was a teen I don’t know what’s happened to me!!

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PinkCottonClouds · 11/07/2025 13:28

@toomuchfaff not but a lot of men are

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Dweetfidilove · 11/07/2025 13:24

Why would that make you unreasonable? Many perfectly reasonable people choose singleness and celibacy.

If you don't crave the attention of men but always attract men who only wish to get sexual, it may be worth spending less time with them.

toomuchfaff · 11/07/2025 13:23

Do you have the idea that most women are rampant sex fiends?

PinkCottonClouds · 11/07/2025 13:20

That was meant to say turbulent relationship

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