Feeling defensive, but is she right that I need a reality check here?

That’s what I wondered. OP is taking 3 days annual leave to be with her child while DP works but OP is working remotely for the rest of the time? Is DP
then looking after DC while OP works?! That’s what 3? 4 days?

I can understand you’ll find3 days on your own with your dd a lot in one go.Most mothers can find looking after a child easy, some of us don’t.
Maybe plan trips like swimming,
a shopping trip for her,Primark is good for this,soft play etc.Some time watching a Disney film with popcorn and treats like the cinema.
You can do it, you’ve just not had practice.

But you’re not doing it all week- your child goes to nursery! That’s what parenting is.

I am a solo parent actually.
EOW that the father has the children, I usually spend working at one of my 3 jobs that I do around my children. So no, time to myself happens once in a blue moon. My annual leave is usually used during school holidays to look after the children. I also spent a couple of years helping my very poorly mum. I didn’t get nursery fees paid, and during those years I worked from home as well as looking after the children with the exception of 1 day that I paid for so I could work. CM is minimal so 1k a month would be a godsend in honesty. But I don’t complain because I’m grateful for what I do have and know as tough as it is some days, things could be worse.
People I know (and who I was talking about in my original comment) don’t have the father looking after their children. They don’t get any CM for whatever reason. They struggle money wise and they certainly don’t get a holiday every couple
of months. Like another poster said, it’s not uncommon.
OP having a good job isn’t my problem at all, I’ll champion any woman making her way in the world, good on her in that sense. And I applaud the DP for providing the additional money for her. That’s not my problem at all.
My point is, OP is unhappy with what many people would give their right arm for! Come on, it’s 3 days looking after your own child. Hardly a lot when you think of what some people have on their plate!

When I was single with the girls their dad never had them and not did he pay CM. It's not uncommon

He's living with them so wouldn't pay CM

Aren’t you?
You dint get time for yourself EOW?
You dint get CM too?

As for the ‘help from the father’… what is it? Him looking after the child every Saturday. Or is it him taking his partner and child away ‘fur a break’?

Im struggling to see what’s the difference between you and the OP tbh.
Ah yes… she has a good wage and him even more so.
is that the problem?

Where the money to ‘spend in themselves’ exactly?
She works. She has a good wage that she spends in herself, her dc like anyone else. Exactly like you do.
She gets some money from the father as it should be.

So Where is that ‘significant sum of money to spend on herself’???

I remember this OP. IIRC, OP was considering relocating to where her DP lived and wanted him to pay her a monthly amount for the inconvenience of relocating.

People thought the OP was entitled then and I think most seem to agree, she is being entitled and unrealistic now.

OP seems to think her DP owes her for the inconvenience of being pregnant and having a child so soon.

Struggles?

Me, me, me. Are you in touch with reality. You have to pack four times a year!

Tricky one. I can see it from both sides. As a parent with young children then lm lucky to get a day to myself, it's not even once a quarter so one day a week feels a lot! I would love that and l have toddler twins. On the flip side how much solo parenting and packing / organising etc does your partner do?

fell not feel pregant!

I think the real problem is you appear to be with your partner because you feel pregnant. You've not said once what you like about him.
I think you need to have a little think if this relationship has a future.

Your sister is right. You really don’t know you’re born! When my DD was born her dad worked 12 hour shifts, a mixture of days and nights so I can assure you I was doing the majority of caring for her. As the main earner, I also worked full time, so it was tough. There certainly wasn’t any £1k pocket money, childcare being paid for or trips away.

You have a very unrealistic view of how much having a child impacts your life. I also think it’s really sad that you don’t want to spend time with your DD. I split from DDs dad when she was 3 and did it all myself and whilst it was hard, I loved spending time with her. You seem to resent having to spend 3 days with your DD and your DP will be there morning, lunch, dinner and bed time. I can’t see what the issue is.

I don't think you're a brat. Entertaining a toddler singlehandedly in a strange place is not a holiday. If your partner wants to spend time with you why not do it at home like a normal family? It is a lot of work packing and settling a child into accommodation, checking it's all safe etc. And of course he should be paying for nursery, he's got a good job and rental income on top. Does he pay half your housing costs as he's living with you?

If it is, if I were the OP would I fuck be coming back to answer.

There are people on here with utter miserable lives they can't stand a whiff of someone fortunate in any way and having a complaint. Everyone has to be dragged down to their misery.

It's sad really.

That sounds really tough...not

We have a non-verbal, profoundly disabled child who requires 24/7 care. The holes in care provision mean we shell out most of our monthly income to meet his needs. I haven’t had a full night’s sleep in 9 years, or been on holiday anywhere that isn’t a carefully juggled few days at Disneyland Paris or a respite centre for 10 years. The last time I had time to myself was three years ago so I could go and have major surgery. Would you like to swap…?

I cant believe you have it THIS good and still dont want to cherish quality time with your child. You are spoilt.

LOVE the term cocklodger 🤪

Try being a single parent. They don’t have the luxury of what you do, both with money, nursery paid, time to self, and at least some help from DP. At least not the ones I know anyway. Some people would love to be in your position.

Ohhhh where's the laugh emoji gone.
Sweet child. Yes, most parents do more than a couple or nursery drops and bedtimes, they also don't get given extra money and bought holidays, plus one set in stone child free day AND family day out. You are spoilt beyond belief. And ungrateful. I assume you're also an adult. So if you don't want to go away as frequently, because it's too "hard" for you, then just tell your boyfriend you want a week at home instead.

Your sister is right and you are BU. 100%

I find it hard to believe and quite sad that you can't look after your child for three days
My husband worked away Monday to Friday when our children were young and our youngest was a baby. I was the sole carer for two young children.
And there are many single parents with mom support.

Bloody hell. I had three four years and under and looked after them on my own five days a week from seven am until 6pm. I breastfed them all so nights were all me too though h did bring them to me, wind and put back. Honestly, you do sound like you have no understanding about parenthood and life. It is irrelevant you had her quickly, I am sure you'd feel this way if you'd been together two years before getting pregnant.