So last month we went on holiday with the kids and my parents and my DH was in a FOUL mood the whole time because my parents are older, would offer to help with GP duties but in reality struggle.
We ended up having no time together without the kids and I did the nights on my own so was tired the whole time. He kept bad mouthing my parents saying they should get up in the mornings to help. They did but couldn’t help much.
Now fast forward to now. We’re on holiday with his parents who are able to help and more than willing. but for some reason he would rather they have a nice time than accept the help. And he is getting annoyed with me if I speak out against him. As an example, they said they don’t mind getting up early to help. But when our toddler wakes up at 5am, he tells me to go through and start the day, and let his parents sleep.
his parents said they will take the kids so we can go on a date. My DH says to me no no, we can do everything together with them. I said I was a bit upset by that and he said fine, I can plan a date and he will come.
We were going to go swimming and he would have the kids while I did some lengths and then switch over. However he then said I should take the kids on my own and then it means his mum can do lengths.
yet his parents are literally being SO vocal about wanting to give me and us a break! Yet he still refuses and puts their comfort first. His dad is literally planning out things for me to have a nice time more than my actual DH. It’s the only break we get because both sets of GP live far away.
AIBU? Has anyone experienced this before? Did it get better?
I just called him out on it and said he had double standards with my parents and he went in a massive huff and walked out the room.