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Weird first date ?

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Clarkeroyce · 11/07/2025 06:08

So I went on a first date with this man that I’ve been talking to non stop for two weeks. He’s been literally calling me everyday. We had a few words a couple years ago but I ended up not following through with him.

anyways we get on the date, and it was awkward? He was staring at me the whole time but no complements, who was staring in space a lot. He even wore sunglasses, I asked him to take them off which he did but put them back on right after….?

Its just very disappointing because we have such good chemistry over FaceTime and phone calls, just for him to show up and he awkward and distant ? Was he just not attracted or into me ?

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fckedupsituation · 11/07/2025 06:33

He was probably on coke or something else. Weird but I know a lot of people who do this when using something. Maybe was nervous about face to face so he’s took something.

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Clarkeroyce · 11/07/2025 06:32

Thingyfanding · 11/07/2025 06:26

@Clarkeroyce During the day I take it? How old are you guys?

He’s 29 I’m 24

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Mulledjuice · 11/07/2025 06:27

Well yes ask him about it, but unless you want a relationship conducted via the medium of instant messenger then this probably isn't the one for you.

Thingyfanding · 11/07/2025 06:26

@Clarkeroyce During the day I take it? How old are you guys?

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Clarkeroyce · 11/07/2025 06:22

Thingyfanding · 11/07/2025 06:19

Regarding the sunglasses - was the date outside?

No we were in side a smoothie place when he had them on

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Bobbie12345678 · 11/07/2025 06:22

If you have been getting on really well before the date then maybe ask him about it before cutting and running.
My first thought reading it was did he have a migraine?
If you don’t get a good answer or he does it a second time, then ditch him.

FourLove · 11/07/2025 06:21

Clarkeroyce · 11/07/2025 06:16

Why was he wearing sun glasses?

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We can’t know why. What we do know is that you disliked him wearing them and disliked the way he stared and spoke to you. So he’s not a match for you although he seemed like it on Facebook.

Thingyfanding · 11/07/2025 06:19

Regarding the sunglasses - was the date outside?

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Clarkeroyce · 11/07/2025 06:16

GRex · 11/07/2025 06:15

Lots of potential relationships won't be right for one or both of you, and that's OK. It's easy to get a bit over-invested when you've decided to start dating. You've unfortunately gone soaring away on your imagination with this one, and the reality is that you don't connect in the way you dreamed. Pop him back, keep trying. Next time keep a firmer grip on your emotions before a proper relationship develops.

Why was he wearing sun glasses?

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GRex · 11/07/2025 06:15

Lots of potential relationships won't be right for one or both of you, and that's OK. It's easy to get a bit over-invested when you've decided to start dating. You've unfortunately gone soaring away on your imagination with this one, and the reality is that you don't connect in the way you dreamed. Pop him back, keep trying. Next time keep a firmer grip on your emotions before a proper relationship develops.

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