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Clarkeroyce · 2025-07-11T05:08:57+00:00

So I went on a first date with this man that I’ve been talking to non stop for two weeks. He’s been literally calling me everyday. We had a few words a couple years ago but I ended up not following through with him. anyways we get on the date, and it was awkward? He was staring at me the whole time but no complements, who was staring in space a lot. He even wore sunglasses, I asked him to take them off which he did but put them back on right after….? Its just very disappointing because we have such good chemistry over FaceTime and phone calls, just for him to show up and he awkward and distant ? Was he just not attracted or into me ?

cherish123 · 11/07/2025 17:32

Clarkeroyce · 11/07/2025 06:16

Why was he wearing sun glasses?

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Maybe it was too sunny. If you've known him for a few years, you must have seen his eyes before. How often have you met before the date?

pinkyredrose · 11/07/2025 16:54

ObtuseMoose · 11/07/2025 07:41

Was it Bono?

😂

Ladybyrd · 11/07/2025 16:45

You’re coming at internet dating all wrong. Take it from someone who wasted 10 years dating absolute schmucks.

Don’t get into texting back and forth like this is your best friend. The person you’re texting is a total stranger. Do not waste your time with this “Hey, how was your day?” crap. If you meet someone you fancy in a bar, are you so familiar 5 minutes in? It’s a false sense of intimacy and the serial POF interlopers thrive on it as a ploy to reel women in.

Use the platform as it should be used. As a means to MEETING new people. You don’t want a penpal, do you? You want a partner.

Don’t invest your time in people you’ve never met. Set up a date, set up 2 dates. Heck, set up 10 dates with 10 different men in a week. MEET THEM!!! Don’t peg your loyalty on any of their profiles. Meet them and decide from there.

And cast the net wide - meet people you’re not sure about from the profile. Especially people you’re not sure about from the profile, because the serial lurkers have got their patter down to a fine art!

You know full well this guy was a plonker. Shades indoors, right? So no more “Hey, how’s it going?”s.

NEXT!!!

Yellowpingu · 11/07/2025 16:39

Clarkeroyce · 11/07/2025 16:19

You guys his glasses were not prescription they were Versace glasses

You can get Versace prescription sunglasses….

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Clarkeroyce · 11/07/2025 16:19

You guys his glasses were not prescription they were Versace glasses

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Clarkeroyce · 11/07/2025 16:13

ShallIstart · 11/07/2025 08:53

Ok the sunglasses at age 24 is forgivable. He probably thought he looked cool.
I wonder if he was shy OP, did he seem a confident person otherwise. He might have been overwhelmed and shy, hence the awkwaedness and sunglasses.
Maybe another date is needed to proerly assess if he is shy or just odd.
I dated some guys jn my 20s who were just a bit odd at the time but they have grown into respectable nice men since, with families. 24 for guys is young, they are still very immature.
My husband didnt mature properly until age 50 when he turned a corner and finally enteres adulthood😂he still makes some weird fashion choices.he has one t shirt that is so out there that I refuse to be seen with him in it.

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No he’s 29 im 24

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JLou08 · 11/07/2025 15:22

You say he was staring at you the whole time, you also say he was staring into space a lot and wearing sunglasses. I don't know how he can stare at you the whole time whilst also staring into space a lot or how you see where he is looking with sunglasses on.
Anyway, he may have had a migraine, I wear sunglasses when I have one. He may be sensitive to light, it can feel like being in the blaring sun in some indoor areas when it's very sunny. He may have an eye issue. He may be autistic. He may struggle with eye contact. He may have just been really nervous. Your not going to find the definitive reason on here. Just ask him.

HelenHywater · 11/07/2025 15:09

This is why you don't spend 2 weeks talking before a date - it builds up all kinds of (false) expectations.

It sounds as though you're waiting for him to contact you OP- what do YOU actually want. I think you just need to move on (the sunglasses are a red herring, but yes, it's weird).

Minimili · 11/07/2025 15:05

Fastingandhungry · 11/07/2025 08:39

Subscription sunglasses ? Although what does it matter?

Subscription sunglasses? What do you get, new shades every month and a free trial of better vision?

I can see this being useful for the one month of the year we get some sun but unless you travel a lot or live in a hot country I don’t see the point 😂.

FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar · 11/07/2025 15:00

Someone once said:

Only two kinds of people wear sunglasses inside. Blind people and arseholes.

Imperfectpolly · 11/07/2025 14:57

Sounds like my behaviour when I have a migraine - spaced out, trying to block out light and trying to get away quickly.

tuvamoodyson · 11/07/2025 14:54

Clarkeroyce · 11/07/2025 06:16

Why was he wearing sun glasses?

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I’ve no idea…did you ask him?

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 11/07/2025 14:40

He was on drugs.

TwistedWonder · 11/07/2025 14:09

I think sitting for an hour on a date and not saying a fucking word is a far bigger red flag than the sunglasses to be fair

lalalalalady · 11/07/2025 14:02

Maybe he’s married and thinks he looks more incognito in sunglasses?

LittlleMy · 11/07/2025 13:48

@Clarkeroyce re wearing sunglasses - personally I’d hazard a guess isn’t a medical condition given how odd yiu find the rest of his behaviour. If I were in your place, I’d be thinking he already has a GF and doesn’t want to be recognised by someone he knows! But that’s just me, either way, gutting I’m sure to make connections digitally then a let down in real life. It’s more common than you think unfortunately.

Treeleaf11 · 11/07/2025 13:24

RO died in 1988!

Flashout · 11/07/2025 13:14

Lins77 · 11/07/2025 08:35

I don't think either of them could pass for 29 😅

Especially as I'm fairly sure Roy Orbison is dead.

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Fucking hell Roy Orbison is dead? I haven’t got over Keith Harris yet!

mumda · 11/07/2025 10:17

Clarkeroyce · 11/07/2025 08:34

He hasn’t texted me

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That sounds like a good thing.

Littleredraincoat · 11/07/2025 09:47

Meet early to weed out these types of people. Don't get too invested just in chat or fall into the trap of becoming penpals

dontcryformeargentina · 11/07/2025 09:45

Socially awkward, love bombed you as per pick up artistry manual at the initial stage, got nervous and anxious during the date. Forget and move on.

MemorableTrenchcoat · 11/07/2025 09:12

ObtuseMoose · 11/07/2025 07:41

Was it Bono?

My money's on Jeff Lynne.

ObtuseMoose · 11/07/2025 09:09

Why are people encouraging another date? It was weird and uncomfortable for OP, why should she put herself through that again just in case the guy was shy, high, Roy Orbison's ghost or multi millionaire and all round douche canoe Bono?
She owes him nothing.

Hardlyworking · 11/07/2025 09:05

ShallIstart · 11/07/2025 08:53

Ok the sunglasses at age 24 is forgivable. He probably thought he looked cool.
I wonder if he was shy OP, did he seem a confident person otherwise. He might have been overwhelmed and shy, hence the awkwaedness and sunglasses.
Maybe another date is needed to proerly assess if he is shy or just odd.
I dated some guys jn my 20s who were just a bit odd at the time but they have grown into respectable nice men since, with families. 24 for guys is young, they are still very immature.
My husband didnt mature properly until age 50 when he turned a corner and finally enteres adulthood😂he still makes some weird fashion choices.he has one t shirt that is so out there that I refuse to be seen with him in it.

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He's 29. Perfectly old enough to know wearing sunglasses indoors makes you look like a twat.

Definitely don't do a second date. Why would you waste your precious time?!

sonoonetoldyoulifewasgonnabethisway · 11/07/2025 09:04

Clarkeroyce · 11/07/2025 06:22

No we were in side a smoothie place when he had them on

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Could they have been prescription and he did not bring his normal glasses with him?