To be super anxious at going on hols without teens.

I also left home at 17 and can’t see an issue with this at all.

Me and brother were left at 15 and 14, we were fine, loved it

I also moved out at 17

I’m surprised by these responses. But then again, I left home at 17. My parents left me and my brother (just turned 16 and 17) for a week and we were absolutely fine, could have easily had done another week. And this was when I was in the middle of doing my GCSEs and I still got myself up and got to my exams

They will be fine and have plenty of support around them if needed.
Course you were going to get comments saying no etc. But they are your children and you know them best.
Enjoy your honeymoon

@JustAnotherManicMomday does your 15yo have SN, you talk about it being safer if he is at home

One of my happiest teenage memories is the summer when my mum and dad left me and my sister at home for 2 weeks in the 1980s. We were the same age as your DC. We did not have any close family nearby checking up on us, but I suppose we did know friends’ parents locally that we could have asked for help if needed. My parents definitely didn’t call us while they were away. We both had summer jobs and I could drive, so I gave my sister lifts and we did a couple of supermarket shops together. We rented loads of videos, ate whatever we wanted and hired a suntanning bed for 2 weeks! We had a great time and the cat didn’t have to be miserable at the Cattery.
Enjoy your lovely holiday!

I’d have mum anxiety too. A weekend or maybe a week at a push. Any longer is a lot.

I would probably put some kind of condition in that they have to leave the house for at least an hour a day. No idea how to monitor that though.

Don't stock up the fridge or freezer. Let them shop for themselves.

Then maybe they won't turn out like the ones I see in my local supermarkets every September, wandering aimlessly round in groups, gazing gormlessly into the chiller cabinets, as if they have never been in a supermarket before. And getting in everyone's way.

I think you know your boys best and you have responsible gps who will check up on them . I assume you have smoke alarms installed and the boys are sensible. Two weeks is a long time but there are two of them do not an empty house. Just make sure they know they have gp support when needed. Maybe they can cook a meal and invite their gps round one evening (as if ha ha).

I moved out and lived alone from 18 and my DP did from 16. We are still alive and healthy. This arrangement sounds fine to me! The GPs will keep an eye and that way they won't starve!

Is this a joke? 18 year olds go off to uni, hundreds, sometimes thousands of miles from home, sometimes in foreign countries. They have to cook and clean and launder and lock the door at night and get themselves up and out to lectures, and budget, all in the presence of complete strangers, with no familiar person around to support them. How on earth can they do this, if they have parents who think they can't survive in their own home for two weeks, with friends and family members very nearby?

My one and only concern would be that they will spend the entire time just gaming and not eating properly or socialising with anyone. I would probably put some kind of condition in that they have to leave the house for at least an hour a day. No idea how to monitor that though.

I would let them try on their own and if 15yr old is not happy have grandparents on standby.

For those clutching their pearls please let your children take chances and grown up. The lack of problem solving and grit in 15-18 year olds is shocking.

Spend all their time besides meals gaming...and you allow this?

These comments alarm me. One is an adult. One is almost an adult and in many cultures or in recent times in our own, would be considered an adult, capable of going out to work etc. I honestly think it is fine, if they don't have SEN. Double check that grandparents are around and can be with them in a crisis. Maybe organise a sleep over with a friend for a night or two for the youngest one, or ask grandparents to invite them over for Sunday lunch and to spend the night, or grandparents come and stay over a couple of times, to check how they are.

But if they have no SEN or MH issues, I can't see why not. If it's in the summer holidays, maybe set them a simple project each to swim every day and increase their total lengths or speed, or similar in running or cycling or weightlifting if they belong to a gym.

We really need to stop treating this generation as if they are utterly incapable. Learned hopelessness is a real issue these days. A lot of very resilient teens are allowed increasing time on their own to cope, and to learn to trust themselves to handle small incidents.

Chat with them. Make sure they have plenty of easy to cook food and money for take outs. Put your and your grandparents telephone numbers in several prominent places. leave spare keys with two or three neighbours and the parents of their closest friends.

All will be well. Enjoy your holiday.

I’m usually the one on these threads saying no don’t do it, but I thought this sounded fine from your opening post. I must be going soft.

No I wouldn't do it and I do have an 18yo DS and almost 15yo DS too. Just stuff like would they remember to lock front door at night etc. They probably wouldn't.

It's an almost-adult with an actual adult.

The amount of babying on here is insane.

Might they make bad choices/argue with each other - sure, part of being a teen.
Is it unsafe? Highly unlikely.

Should they, by these ages, have been brought up such that they are adequately aware, resilient and able to cope with 99% of events that might occur? Yes, and they most likely massively are able, and the typical parental anxiety is a function of how overprotective society is rather than any lack of competence in the teens.

You don’t need to defend yourself about why you’re having a holiday together alone. You don’t stop being a couple just because you have children and being able to holiday alone is a great luxury and privilege that you should take advantage of.

Did you misread the op and think they’re toddlers?

What a ridiculous post!

As long as you trust your 18 year old to be the responsible adult and for the 15 year old to not be a dick about things then they will be absolutely fine! It's a lovely thing to be able to trust them.

Theyll be fine.

As you’ve said, there are two sets of Grandparebts on hand and very close.

You’ll be in contact every day and to be honest they’ll probably enjoy the peace and quiet and just slobbing around!

I have 18 and 15 year old girls. My 18 year old would be fine, but some disaster would befall my scatty youngest. So this isn’t something I would do. Sorry OP! Hope you find a way around it and have a great time.