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Some toddlers are just calmer than others?

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Leahjx · 10/07/2025 22:01

I just seen a tik tok and I always see them where its like "what i do to help tantrums" etc and its just stuff like saying basic statements etc

I used to look and think whats am I doing wrong. Why wouldn't this work with my now 3yo who has been prone to tantrums and meltdowns since he became a toddler. Ones that were so hard to work through and now his speech is getting better (he's 3.5) its getting slightly easier. But if he's tired / little bit hungry its a major one and I just go through them with him I cant stop them in the tracks

Am I silly to think some kids are just calmer than others? I feel like i see so many laidback toddlers but I know I'm not alone. Some are just more emotional and my son had a speech delay which must've frustrated him more

But when I see videos saying they tell their toddlers "squeak squeak mouses quiet voices on" - most likely would not work when my toddler is flipping out

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AuntMarch · 10/07/2025 22:13

100% agree. Mine was quite an easy toddler and as much as I hope I am a good parent, I'm certain that was just his personality!

Octavia64 · 10/07/2025 22:13

Oh yes.

I had twins.
completely different personalities.

alexalisten · 10/07/2025 22:10

Toddlers are humans all humans have different temperaments and personalities

Jollyjoy · 10/07/2025 22:10

Oh, definitely. Some babies and infants are naturally more intense and emotionally expressive than others, temperament of both child and parent is a huge part of the experience. Of course how they are parented is important but it’s daft to apply the same advice to every kid.

legoplaybook · 10/07/2025 22:08

Children are born with different temperaments.

My first born was an easy baby, never had a tantrum as a toddler and is a delight as a teenager.
If I'd stopped with the first I could have written a parenting book 😂

MuffinsAreJustCakesAtBreakfast · 10/07/2025 22:08

This is why I left mainstream social media.

it's total bolloks, mostly made up stuff for clicks and views and is not representative of the poster's reality.

Delete TikTok. Trust me on this one!

TwinTantrums · 10/07/2025 22:07

My daughter would cry at the drop of a hat. She would scream and act like we were hurting her. My son, her twin, was the calmest baby ever. It’s crazy how different they can be

Bryonyberries · 10/07/2025 22:06

I had calm, easy going toddlers that rarely had a tantrum. Start work in early years was a real eye opener on how some toddlers behave. There is definitely a difference how they all behave. Consistency and boundaries really help in a lot of cases, even though it can be hard work initially.

StevieAnnSENMum · 10/07/2025 22:06

My 7 year old has always been a hyper, higher needs child.

As a baby, he ALWAYS cried. As a toddler, he was always shrieking and running around. As a 7 year old, he's constantly vocally and physically stimming. He rarely sits down for longer than 5 minutes.

Some kids are calmer than others, and it's hard, but it's also okay. It's okay for them to not be calm and it's okay for you to get overwhelmed. Be gentle with yourself, if you're not already being. ❤

Bitchesbelike · 10/07/2025 22:04

i think you’re right. But some parents of those calm children will be sure it’s their superior parenting skills