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How do people in hot countries continue to populate?

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dontcomeatme · 10/07/2025 21:43

Honestly, even just the thought of having sex in this heat has me running away in sweat drenched disgust. I have under boob sweat, arsehole sweat, my knickers are gross, my hair is wet, I feel disgusting and I am far far too hot! How do hot countries manage? I couldn't think of anything worse than sex right now! Thankfully my OH is in complete agreement 🤣 we can barely tolerate our clothes touching our body never mind sharing heat 🤣
What's the consensus? Does the heat affect your libido? Or are you lot all lying in a pool of combined sweat and continuing as normal?
Shamelessly posting in AIBU for traffic.

OP posts:
Sharptonguedwoman · 11/07/2025 07:53

dontcomeatme · 10/07/2025 21:43

Honestly, even just the thought of having sex in this heat has me running away in sweat drenched disgust. I have under boob sweat, arsehole sweat, my knickers are gross, my hair is wet, I feel disgusting and I am far far too hot! How do hot countries manage? I couldn't think of anything worse than sex right now! Thankfully my OH is in complete agreement 🤣 we can barely tolerate our clothes touching our body never mind sharing heat 🤣
What's the consensus? Does the heat affect your libido? Or are you lot all lying in a pool of combined sweat and continuing as normal?
Shamelessly posting in AIBU for traffic.

If you're at home, shut the curtains and open the windows. If you have to commute, that's trickier and all sympathy. Find the cool side of your house if there is one. Back of my house faces north so we're fine, really. I quite like a bit of sun and it'll be raining soon enough. Are you in a flat, OP? They can be like ovens.

LimitedBrightSpots · 11/07/2025 07:36

The heat with AC and swimming pools is entirely different. If you can keep cool for much of the day, you can put up with a few hours in temperatures which would otherwise be uncomfortable.

I felt heatwaves a lot less when I worked in an airconned office for much of the day. My flat was a little uncomfortable but I slept better at night even so, then now when there is no chance to cool down.

JustGoClickLikeALightSwitch · 11/07/2025 07:31

Have sex in the shower?

dontcomeatme · 11/07/2025 07:25

StMarie4me · 11/07/2025 07:12

This is at the heart of our discomfort.

Literally the whole point.

OP posts:
Dogaredabomb · 11/07/2025 07:23

I have ceiling fans (UK), I don't know why everyone doesn't. It's not much more expensive than fitting a ceiling light. I have some portable air cons which I haven't needed since leaving London.

StMarie4me · 11/07/2025 07:12

Octavia64 · 10/07/2025 21:55

UK houses are mostly built to keep heat in.

it’s not a massive surprise they don’t cope well in the heat.

This is at the heart of our discomfort.

Laserwho · 11/07/2025 07:11

Allywill · 10/07/2025 21:56

We have air con in the bedroom and living room (in uk) - it didn’t cost a fortune (3k) and can also heat which was v useful at new year when our central heating pump broke and we had to wait 2 days for a plumber. Honestly don’t know why it’s not more popular (and recently an estate agent calculated it had added 5-10k on the value or our house.

3k is alot to most of us.

Clafoutie · 11/07/2025 07:00

Boreded · 11/07/2025 03:57

There is always one

They are not wrong though.
I agree that we need AC but it is concerning. The thing that cools us down is ultimately making heatwaves worse. 😯

WaldoPablo · 11/07/2025 06:59

IMissSparkling · 10/07/2025 21:53

Oh yes, great, let's make a boiling planet even warmer by using MORE power.

This is absolutely right. Not sure why some posters are making snarky comments?! Air con is very bad for climate change

Katemax82 · 11/07/2025 06:51

IMissSparkling · 10/07/2025 21:53

Oh yes, great, let's make a boiling planet even warmer by using MORE power.

🙄

Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 11/07/2025 06:47

It's what you're used to, as well.

I don't find 30 particularly hot. 40 is hot, but I'd just slow down a bit and stay out of direct sun, I wouldn't be banging on about sweaty arseholes.

You probably tolerate cold a lot better than I do.

babyproblems · 11/07/2025 05:24

Air con!

Anonnanon · 11/07/2025 05:20

Boreded · 11/07/2025 03:57

There is always one

There should be more...

Mumtobabyhavoc · 11/07/2025 05:17

Ownyourchoices · 11/07/2025 04:56

An Australian here - and yep, we have airconditioning and some states, its a model that switches to warming. Nothing stopping people in the UK doing the same.

Careful. Next you'll be suggesting window screens to keep the bugs out. 🤣

SamiSnail · 11/07/2025 05:14

The UK is very backward in many respects. Most first world countries have air conditioning throughout the house. Split cycle - so it is heating in winter, and cooling in summer. Their hospitals are fully air conditioned and their public transport.

CarolinaInTheMorning · 11/07/2025 05:06

Our system also provides heat. It's all electric operated by one thermostat. In Florida it's not all that uncommon in the winter to run both heat and air conditioning in the same day. Cold mornings can sometimes turn into uncomfortably warm afternoons, especially when different weather fronts are moving through.

itsgettingweird · 11/07/2025 05:06

I had marble floor. Ceiling fans. Bedding designed for heat.

Morningsleepin · 11/07/2025 05:05

What a shame that the old forms of architecture are being lost and replaced with air conditioning. In Mexico we used to have Adobe houses that were warm in winter and cool in the summer, while on the coast you could find houses built of bamboo or reeds that would let the air waft through them

Ownyourchoices · 11/07/2025 04:56

Samas · 10/07/2025 21:47

You’re basing it on your experience of living in a country in which homes are generally not set up to deal with extreme heat.

My dsis lives in Australia and her home has full air con etc. it’s really lovely and cool no matter how hot it is outside.

An Australian here - and yep, we have airconditioning and some states, its a model that switches to warming. Nothing stopping people in the UK doing the same.

Dustyblue · 11/07/2025 04:55

Another Australian here.

Very hot weather (and I mean high 30's and beyond) tends to be followed by a break in the weather cycle. So, air flow through the house is important. When the temperature drops you open front & back doors to flush the heat out.

Air con air con air con.

Meanwhile it's winter here. I'm in the southernmost part of Australia's mainland & wearing 3 layers, listening to howling wind and contemplating a wood fire. 😆

Can't help you on the sex issue. Cold shower or bath first?

Playdoh45 · 11/07/2025 04:50

We have refrigerated aircon!
I also had my son in the Aussie summer , it was a heat wave the week he was born. Average 42 degrees!

Muffinmam · 11/07/2025 04:41

British homes are not built for hot weather - they are built to keep the heat in.

I’m in Australia, most homes are built with double brick. We have a reverse cycle air-conditioning unit downstairs and upstairs is ducted reverse cycle air-conditioning. We also have ceiling fans in every room and blinds help to keep the sun out.

When I lived in a house that wasn’t air-conditioned I bought a portable refrigerative air-conditioner and ducted it to the window. It was about $1,200.

I also bought a large ice pack/blanket from the pet store that you put in the freezer and then under your pet bedding to keep them cool in the summer. I put this under my pillow and it cooled me down so I could sleep.

I don’t understand every year when it’s summer in the UK people complain on mumsnet about the heat - but do nothing about it.

You could get a box fan which you put in your window to remove the hot air. You could install a wall mounted refrigerative air-conditioner in one room of your house so you can sleep. You could even do what I did and get a pet ice blanket and a portable air-conditioner. The pet ice blanket really worked. It’s probably the cheapest thing I bought to keep me cool.

Fans also really work but you need to ensure you create a draft by venting the hot air out of a window with one fan and having another fan positioned somewhere else in the room (some distance from the window) to create the draft.

InWalksBarberalla · 11/07/2025 04:07

I think you just adjust to the temperature. I went to the UK years ago and was surprised to see people sunbathing in parks etc on what felt like a pretty average day to me - only to discover in the papers it was a heatwave!!
Then recently went to Vietnam and it was the other way around - I was struggling in the heat and locals were wearing jeans and hoodies.

Passwordsaremynemesis · 11/07/2025 04:02

IMissSparkling · 10/07/2025 21:53

Oh yes, great, let's make a boiling planet even warmer by using MORE power.

We have aircon and solar panels too, I bet I use less non renewable power than you!

Boreded · 11/07/2025 04:00

dontcomeatme · 11/07/2025 03:47

See the UK is hitting 30°s recently but our buildings are so well insulated for the cold weather and zero AC. Its like a horrendous sweat box every day.

@MadCattery the aircon in our villa went out one day, we had to sit in the car to cool down and work out where the best place for an air conditioned day out would be. Brutally hot without it there

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