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How do people in hot countries continue to populate?

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dontcomeatme · 10/07/2025 21:43

Honestly, even just the thought of having sex in this heat has me running away in sweat drenched disgust. I have under boob sweat, arsehole sweat, my knickers are gross, my hair is wet, I feel disgusting and I am far far too hot! How do hot countries manage? I couldn't think of anything worse than sex right now! Thankfully my OH is in complete agreement 🤣 we can barely tolerate our clothes touching our body never mind sharing heat 🤣
What's the consensus? Does the heat affect your libido? Or are you lot all lying in a pool of combined sweat and continuing as normal?
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KnittyNell · 11/07/2025 12:12

I’m dreaming of dark, cold nights under the duvet, hot chocolate and buying new winter clothes.
Stuff Summer.

RealEagle · 11/07/2025 11:59

Do it under a cool shower

YesMyAirConditioningUnitIsOnToday · 11/07/2025 11:53

Central Scotland here and yes it is hot today. Took dog out for 10 mins this morning and was desperately trying to stay in the shade as I was burning even for the 10 mins I was out at 9am.

Livingroom is 25 but thankfully running the air con unit I bought from Argos a few years ago which is taken it down to a comfortable 19-20.

I used to live with an Australian who was from Melbourne. He said UK heat is different to Melbourne heat. It is much 'hotter' in the UK at lower temps than Melbourne. He thought it might be due to our humidity and our island being surrounded by water. Anyway just thought that was an interesting fact.

We're staying in today and the dog won't be going out again until tonight when it begins to cool with darkness. (He can have a quick pee in the garden but that's it). Livingroom is east facing (currently in the sun) and I usually enjoy the morning sun. Today however I am counting down the minutes till it goes round the back and we get some shade.

I bought 2 portable air con units about 4 years ago when we started to have this really warm weather in the summer. I know it's only about 20 days per year but it's really unpleasant and the dog can't cope either.

For those without air con wet a dishtowel and put it on your bare legs or stomach. I promise you will cool down immediately. Trick learned when I was stuck in a hotel in London during a heatwave with a room above the kitchens and was desperate.

NaeRolls · 11/07/2025 11:45

We do it late at night and in positions that require the least physical contact 😂

GreenGully · 11/07/2025 11:31

AC. Wouldn't be without it.

ConcernedOfClapham · 11/07/2025 11:15

dontcomeatme · 10/07/2025 22:39

This is the response I was looking for 🤣

Posting for updates 😇

Aaron95 · 11/07/2025 11:13

dontcomeatme · 10/07/2025 21:47

The UK most definitely needs to invest in air conditioning!

No it doesn't. We get temperatures above 30°C for what 2 weeks a year on average. Hence why aicon is not standard in homes in the UK.

SerendipityJane · 11/07/2025 11:11

GoldDuster · 11/07/2025 11:03

Architecture/shade provision and lifestyle, immersing self in cold water at strategic points, and knowing which doors and windows to open and when.

It's now that security grilles over front doors (very common in US) make sense.

GoldDuster · 11/07/2025 11:03

Architecture/shade provision and lifestyle, immersing self in cold water at strategic points, and knowing which doors and windows to open and when.

asrl78 · 11/07/2025 10:44

IMissSparkling · 10/07/2025 21:53

Oh yes, great, let's make a boiling planet even warmer by using MORE power.

Get solar panels with battery storage, the air con is needed when the solar cells are at peak power generation.

FigTreeInEurope · 11/07/2025 10:38

We have a quick swim before bed, and sleep under the stars on the roof terrace.

Sharptonguedwoman · 11/07/2025 10:29

dontcomeatme · 11/07/2025 09:46

No we just moved into our new home, loads of windows and huge glass doors. It's like a greenhouse 🥴 beautiful views, but my oh my! The heat is unbearable

Hadn’t thought of that, completely see the problem. Sister has large SW windows too, curtains shut in her house currently. My cool N facing room is proving useful!

SerendipityJane · 11/07/2025 10:24

dontcomeatme · 11/07/2025 09:46

No we just moved into our new home, loads of windows and huge glass doors. It's like a greenhouse 🥴 beautiful views, but my oh my! The heat is unbearable

Canopies

HellonHeels · 11/07/2025 10:23

Tartantotty · 11/07/2025 08:46

Sounds like you're overweight if you have all these sweating issues.

Ive been both slim and fit and fat and unfit in my time. Still hated the heat and got unpleasantly sweaty either way.

HellonHeels · 11/07/2025 10:19

SheSpeaks · 11/07/2025 00:04

I feel like I’m in a microclimate. It’s 14 degrees, I have my pyjamas on, I’ll be under the duvet in a few minutes.

Can I please move in with you?

UrbanFan · 11/07/2025 10:16

Try not limiting sex to the bedroom. LIven it up a bit. Sunshine makes people horny in my experience.

Dweetfidilove · 11/07/2025 10:13

Gardenbumblebee · 10/07/2025 22:09

Doggy style, nothing too energetic, share the workload, and whatever you do don't touch each other.

You know what? Imma try this out 😅😅😅

DrJump · 11/07/2025 10:10

I live in Australia. We do not have A/C. We live In a poorly insulated, I'll positioned house.

Morning sex. Before everything heats up. Or late evening sex after the sun is down and you've had a sparkling drink in the evening breeze.

CraigElwell · 11/07/2025 10:07

I still have my electric blanket on for bed for an hour😅

crunchybiscuitandtea · 11/07/2025 10:05

Lived in Greece and Cyprus for many years.

All the floors are tiled so stay cool, small windows with shutters, at least one room with Air Con, you get used to doing physical stuff early morning or evening, you learn the art of shade hopping when out and about, and its dry heat which is much easier to deal with.

Give me a Cyprus 40+ rather than the humid Scottish 22 any day

spoonbillstretford · 11/07/2025 10:05

People in sub saharan Africa and quite sweaty, humid parts of Asia have the highest birth rate. I know there is a lot more to it than heat, but it's not stopping them.

Grainsandgains · 11/07/2025 10:04

People need to stop saying UK heathwave when they mean South of UK heathwave 😂 Hasn't hit me 30 where I am during any of the heatwaves yet. 26c max so far

Grainsandgains · 11/07/2025 10:02

You’re basing it on your experience of living in a country in which homes are generally not set up to deal with extreme heat.

Or cold, or humidity... 🙈

k1233 · 11/07/2025 10:00

dontcomeatme · 11/07/2025 03:47

See the UK is hitting 30°s recently but our buildings are so well insulated for the cold weather and zero AC. Its like a horrendous sweat box every day.

That really doesn't make sense. Insulation is insulation. It doesn't matter if hot or cold.

You're probably doing all the wrong things. When it's hot, doors and windows closed in the morning, sun blocked out with curtains/blinds. Come night, once sun is down, open doors and windows to get a breeze in the house and cool it down. Shut everything up before it heats up the next day and trap the cool inside.

Ceiling fans are amazing up to low 30s. That's all you really need. 34 and over outside and aircon is good. I usually set my aircon to come on around 1pm so my long haired dogs are comfortable. We get full western sun and, when I put a mercury thermometer out the front one day it maxed out at 50°C, despite daily reported temp being much lower.

My place is nicely insulated and I'm usually about 10°C different to external temps once the sun is up. My mum hates everything being shut up and tries to open the sunblock curtains but it's close up or boil.

Anything under 25°C inside I'm under a blanket. Once inside hits 30s then it's aircon time.

Internal temps in winter can get down to about 17 overnight (outside temps 8 or 9 or lower) but warm up with doors opened and the afternoon sun.

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