Invisible at 60.

And me!

Right you are. Invisible means less harassment as well.
I don't give a shit what men think about my looks. I slob around in tee shirts and hoodies with no make-up and I never wear heels. It's great.

Yes I'm invisible. And I'm bloody delighted about it!

Why would I want random men eyeing me up? I'm not 15.

I love it - I find it absolutely liberating. And I’m single.

Yes, same.

FWIW my bug bear is the ubiquitous shoulder/chin length bob haircut that's everywhere for us 60+'s, lol.

I don't feel invisible.

I mean, I obviously don't feel lusted after by strange men - but I'm far from invisible. I get lots of cheerful conversation from strangers, folks in shops, people you bump into, etc. Why does not being eyed up by blokes make you invisible?

I don't understand it. Plenty of men and women, young and old, talk with me on a variety of topics.

I hate to give you this revelation, but if men only gawped at you for what you looked like on the outside, you were always invisible.

I too am invisible, though not quite 60. I find being invisible to females more annoying than males tbh. Younger women tend to exclude older women from gossip, work dos etc (from my experience) which took some getting used to!

Sometimes though, it's useful to be invisible as a post menopausal, forgetful and sometimes bewildered woman. Yesterday, at the end of the day I realised I had my cotton dress on inside out ALL DAY! I'd been to work and everything and never noticed and clearly no-one had either. Invisibility has its uses!

I have more attention from men now than I ever did in my twenties, thirties or forties. I feel seen now like never before.

Yes i agree with this.
I'm actually in my 70s and retired but when I was working in my 60s in an environment where I was much older than the rest of the staff the ageism was dreadful.
Also when dealing with workmen it's bad enough having them take you seriously as a women but as an older women it's a nightmare.
I can't understand all this nonsense about " male attention". It's like being carried back to the 1950s.

Take advantage and start shop lifting, or as my Mother called it, using her five fingered discount. It started because she was completely ignored in shops. Either way, most security guards/police are male, so problem solved. Excitement and attention all in one.

I’m 66 and never felt invisible. Maybe you feel inferior because you don’t like being old and it messes with your head. Just be open and friendly (where appropriate!) and people will talk to you

I the only bit about invisibility I don’t like is when men literally walk into me because they don’t seem to see I’m there at all. I loathed being ‘found attractive’ and still hate it when it happens. I find it insulting rather than flattering when men chat me up. I still get harassed occasionally in the street - what on earth is flattering about some random bloke giving you a compliment? It’s creep behaviour

@pinkglitter12

It is always a choice. It is perfectly possible to be young and beautiful but still not get attention if that is what you choose.

I'm 65 and absolutely loved the invisibility

Why would you want to receive attention if you’ve been happily married?

Get your colours done professionally. Seriously, totally changed it for me when I turned 40 and felt invisible.

No, don't do that!

Embrace life and enjoy the noisy and colourful liberation of being invisible.

I'm more concerned at my age, 60, at being invisible and have been for several years in a professional work environment. That bothers me a lot. Ageism is dreadful. Attention from men - not worried about that at all in a relationship or friendship sphere , but it still impacts in the workplace and that remains concerning.

I am 57 and I love it. I want to be left alone in public with it being my choice if I wish to interact with someone. Dont get me wrong, I am friendly to all but I love being able to glide along unnoticed and unbothered.

Youre not unreasonable at all. Its crazy how people treat you when youre young and attractive. You constantly feel eyes and heads are turning. So it is strange, unsettling and hard to adjust to when people blankly walk past you. People aren't smiling and extra helpful. Or they stare right through you to ogle the 19 year old behind you.

I read somewhere that its warped behaviour the way people treat young and beautiful women and actually that peace and invisibility that happens as you get older is how it should be.

Its not even about wanting other men to look at you, or being unhappy with your marriage, its accepting how the world sees you differently now, dealing with feeling less seen and valued and letting go of your youth.
Its hard.

I love being invisible. Glad to have men ignore me.

Mid 40s, single and I'd say totally invisible but am ok with it currently.

46 here and still have men tripping over me (joke!!), it's not sad or desperate to enjoy attention, particularly if you are used to the social game. Similar to banter, you are just used to it, it's not some personal failing to enjoy it or miss it. Anyone labelling someone as desperate is a poo faced mysogynist!

Being a sexy woman is a powerful tool in life, sorry but it's true.