Childless houseguests-AIBU to keep my child quiet and out of the way?

You stay somewhere that has kids living there, you deal with it. My neighbours kids wake me fairly often. Not their fault. I am in my own home too, but I dont complain because what are they supposed to do? I think you need to relax and just get on with business as usual.

I wouldn’t even dream of having a former colleague and her partner to stay in my house, YABU to do that in the first place, let alone have it dictating your daily life.

And why isn’t this junior colleague worried about keeping in your good books??

Why are you unilaterally worried about upsetting her???

OP you sound far too nice but that is a BAD thing!

You need to stand up for your child’s comfort and your family for goodness sake. Stop being so weak and a pushover!

Your child is being made uncomfortable in their OWN home, by these people who have barged into your space!

Tell them it’s not working and they will have to stay elsewhere. They are so rude. They can pay for a hotel, not your problem.

This is really unfair on your child and husband. I’m sorry, please grow a backbone for the sake of your child.

If I have actually invited someone I'd have kept my DC playing quietly in the morning until the guest woke up or 9am whichever came first, but that's about it. But at mealtimes? Not unless they were screaming, banging utensils, and throwing food but that wouldn't be acceptable behaviour at any time.

But someone who actually invited themselves? Nah. Let chaos reign. Hopefully they won't invite themselves back.

It is absolutely mental to me that you allowed the boyfriend you had never met before stay overnight in your house where your young ch old lives. Aside from the annoyance factor, this guy could have been violent, a paedophile, a druggie…. Anything! And you just allowed it because his train ticket was already bought. The mind boggles

Childless houseguests you didn't actually invite.

The work colleague was bad enough inviting herself, and then inviting her boyfriend without your permission, and then repeatedly inviting herself and her boyfriend to stay at your place. But the fact you are arguing with your husband and tying yourself up in knots trying to hush your children so as not to disturb these shameless freeloaders is really something.

Yabu. I wouldn't make my child be out the way in her own home for anyone. If they are upset they can go elsewhere. But honestly OP if shes a former college and not one you are mates with why on earth are you allowing her and her boyfriend to stay in your home? There is such word as no, in fact if a former college who wasn't a mate told me they was coming to stay in my home, free of charge and with me doing everything and paying for them to live in my home I'd laugh and not let them through the door not even for a cup of tea.

Good lord... grow a back bone.
No I don't ask my child/ren to behave differently in their own home for any guest. Never mind a CF cocklodger who I don't even consider a friend.

Tell them that you had a change of plans and wish them well but you can't accommodate them again and move on.

Life's too short

Your poor husband. I would not put up with my partner doing this. How disrespectful to your husband and to your child. Wow.

They are CFs. You literally told them it wasn’t convenient and they still didn’t care. One is a complete stranger which is very risky.

Please don’t struggle through the next visit/s. Cancel all further stays; if not for yourself, do it for your DC who should not have to tiptoe around their own home. You need to tell them it doesn’t work for you. Don’t start explaining why. They won’t accept any reason you give anyway. As before, any reasons will be treated as merely problems to help you solve. Like telling them your son wakes early, “oh I’m a morning person” problem solved so now you feel unreasonable not letting them stay. Just tell them it doesn’t work for you. When they ask why, just repeat. “…because it doesn’t work for us” that’s all they need to know. No details, no further explanation. You don’t owe them anything.

I can't get over the cheek of them looking at you expectantly when your child is disturbing their dinner!!

For a guest who wasn't cheeky, it might be reasonable to keep your child quiet until 7am. But apart from that, no. It's your child's HOME ffs! He should be able to play and enjoy himself and move about freely in his own home.

They should be aware of their obligations as (uninvited) guests. Their sense of entitlement is off the scale. I'm sure you were a lovely and supportive manager when you worked together but you are just letting them walk all over you if you don't cancel the future visits. Put your child and husband first.

This, this, this!!!

She wouldn't have got the chance to look at me twice to keep my child quiet while they had a leisurely dinner. That's what adult only restaurants are for. Cheeky mare wouldn't be coming back. Either tell her somethings come up and they can't stay next time or tell her the truth that it's unfair on your child.

Buy your dc a drum kit, they may cancel the planned weekends.
Win, win.

They are incredibly rude and I hope they have shouted you a meal and brought a gift.

Are you mad? This is your home, not a hotel. They take you as they find you.

Before I retired, I was in a role where I managed many staff, often much younger than me, and was responsible for their training. The likelihood of any of them inviting themselves to stay with me, and then turning up with their boyfriend was zero.

They are in their twenties, but they aren't children. They should be aware of their obligations as (uninvited) guests. Their sense of entitlement is off the scale. I'm sure you were a lovely and supportive manager when you worked together but you are just letting them walk all over you if you don't cancel the future visits. Put your child and husband first.

Absolutely the fuck not.

This is on you. You are behaving like a doormat and they are treating you as such. I can’t understand why this is something you would even consider doing? I would be very angry with you if I was your dh.

You need to tell them having them stay didn’t work for you and your family. Be honest that it wasn’t relaxing for you having to keep your child quiet, the different mealtimes etc, so they need to make alternative arrangements for their planned stays.
4 nights is so cheeky, my Sister and her family don’t stay with me for that length of time.

Checking I habe this right - someone you know, but are not particularly friends with and their previously unknown boyfriend invited themselves for several summer weekends, but are sightseeing not there to see you?

Heck, I would just be carrying on as normal which includes making noise.

Is this some sort of reverse? I can’t really understand why you’re hosting the cheeky freeloaders at all but I certainly wouldn’t be making any concessions for them. Why on earth would you? You sound way too people pleasing.

I can't figure out if this is a troll post. Who would feed dc cookies and tip toe around their own house for ppl they hardly know. Who would also let random people sleep in the same house with their child , not enough stories of SA out there for you OP.? Honestly and it's not even 1 Weekend it's several ! You've put your dc at risk and for a really shitty reason

They are CF's. Def start living normally and ignore their pointed looks (WTF) and with any luck they'll find an alternative for their next stay. The entitlement is deeply annoying just reading this, so I'm not surprised your DH is cross.