Childless houseguests-AIBU to keep my child quiet and out of the way?

I wouldn't want you to do this either.

Id be up early out of courtesy to my hosts rather than wanting you to tiptoe around me. Id be up and ready maybe 8am to give you time alone with your child and the child some peace.

I think the DH is digging in because, even if he is not there, his children are still there in their, he doesn't want his kids to be treated like 2nd class citizens in the house which they live in.

and he's right.

I am with the not noisy before 7.30am camp- I impose it on my child whether anyone is on the house or not
If someone needs a lie in- I normally if it's nice take her for a breakfast picnic in the park- fruit, croissants, peanut butter sandwich and some juice type affair.... She can be noisy and gets some fresh air!!!

Firstly, someone who isn’t a friend is staying for free?! Nip that in the bud for next time.
Secondly, this is your child's home, continue as normal. If they want a peaceful childfree holiday they can pay for it like everyone else.

People visiting our home deal with how we live our lives.

That's especially so for people who invited themselves imo

Oh god no. They need to fit into YOUR life, house, noise. Sorry maybe 6am is a wee bit early for most folk but defo not 7am, at the weekend, and this is only for fiends and family, like they are cheeky as hell to ask to stay, I would defo have unexpected plans for the next time. Let ur child do his thing. It’s his home. When you go to their house for the weekend when they return the favour you can keep him quiet then

HOW? just how do people you don't like force themselves on you like this.

They sound like major pains in the arse and I would be encouraging a musical activity with the children at 8am in the morning. Something with lots of percussion.

Well that's not true - there is no way these people would have entered my home.

I’d keep them quiet for an elderly relative but these are essentially freeloaders. They should buy you wine/ takeaway/ a gift for the kids and be grateful for the free bed tbh.

Seriously, you have self imposed non paying guest!

If I had children, I wouldn't be silencing them. I would probably give them a drum and a whistle to discourage these CFs staying again.

They knew you had children when they opted to stay.

Your DH is right.

Would they also like you to lock the child away until they leave? Of course YABU.

A view thoughts:

You've accepted them into your home so they deserve some grace. However 10am lie ins where there is a child is something they probably haven't realised is unfeasible.

You child ahould have a proper breakfast, even if this disturbs guests. Most can sleep through a bit of noise. DC would prob enjoy some morning cartoons so I'd be looking to get up with DC at 630, make breakfast (maybe even in bed as a treat) and watch a movie. Quietly get ready from 8am, then quiet but normal activities. 9am for louder stuff is fair game.

Also, why is your DH being so uptight about digging in on how you should all.carry on as normal when your post implies that he is anyway I.e. he isn't doing anything with DC so what's his problem? Does he just not like your colleague?

Think harder about abundances nd accepting people over in the future.

Unless your child is walking into their bedroom or tantruming right outside the door, then I'd just get on with your normal routine.

It's also good for children to learn not to be people pleasers, i.e. to not twist themselves in knots to accommodate other peoples wants/choices. Basic politeness from your children, yes, but your visitors are guests, not paying boarders and no one is forcing them to stay with a family with children.

I agree with a PP that not getting up until after 10am is rude of them.

if you had invited them then yes not unreasonable to ask child not to run about, jump or shout. I wouldn’t tiptoe around or not make breakfast though, however as they invited themselves make as much noise as you normally would- they can book a hotel if they do t want to fit in with your family life.

I honestly can’t believe you fed your young child cookies for breakfast because you didn’t want to make normal noise while someone visiting you was having a lie in.

You’re prioritising these people well above your own children. Are you really happy to make bad choices for your child just to please other people?

If they wanted a quiet life then they should have booked a hotel!
Do not pussy foot around them or they’ll be inviting themselves again!

I’d also be telling them that I’m busy for the other times they have planned to come to your house. How dare they. And you let them.

People I am not particularly friend with have trird to invite themselves to my house after I moved. Slyly with "would be lovely to visit where you live". Yes it would, I sent them links to local hotels.

Why would you host someone you barely know now and someone you never met who invite themselves...

I don't see anywhere in the op that the guests have demanded this. I believed this was real up until the "I didn't have any coffee" bit. This is either a wind up or the op is seriously weird.

I think you are 100% missing the real issue.

Why are these freeloaders who you dont know staying with you.

Your husband is 100% correct.

This is really weird, I would never be keeping my children from playing in their own home until 10am because someone who had invited themselves didn’t want to be disturbed by children.
Being childfree is irrelevant.
They can’t live childfree lives while staying in the home of children.

Yes do not let them stay they are taking the piss. In fact get your kids to make as much noise as possible so then don’t want to ever see you again.

It's your child's home, not theirs.

Absolutely not! Why are you pandering to these uninvited and frankly, rude people. Your husband is completely right. You have a child, they know that. Tough shit if they get woken up at the crack of dawn.

I think I would try to keep him quiet till 7.30 or 8, no longer than that.

No no no. If they want quiet till 10am they can book a hotel, the cheeky fuckers.