Childless houseguests-AIBU to keep my child quiet and out of the way?

I was going to say the same thing. No way would I let a virtual and complete stranger stay in my house with my children.

How many weekends are they around? They would not be back in my house.

Free accommodation means I would be up early, helping with everything including your child etc.

What a pair of chancers.

Wow! I’m with your DH. This is your DC’s home too. As you said, the couple invited themselves and aren’t even there to see you. If they are uncomfortable (from noise etc) they can go to a hotel.

Well, no, it's your and your children's house.
On the other hand, as a child free person, I would not visit and become your house guest, other arrangements would be needed to suit both sides.
Basically, too much effort. 😆

This is completely bonkers, why are you martyring yourself and your children for what sounds like random people who you don't particularly even know?!?

Another people pleasing story where the ego puts strangers ahead of their own child.

Unbelievable.
I avoid people pleasers in life, they are all about their ego and ingratiating themselves with randomers ahead of their own close family.

Putting an acquaintance colleague's boyfriend ahead of your own child is a new low for me.

Unbelievable.

Must be a wind up.

No definately not, unless your child is an out of control screaming banshee! Maybe I'd be slightly more sympathetic if I had invited them, but even then unless you threatened to harm them if they refused to stay with you...not really!

Hasn't it just? Totally fucking ridiculous!

Cheeky fuck wits!
Cookies for breakfast? What ?

Tell them to find their own accommodation pronto. Do they have a hold over you and DH by any chance?

Cancel any more visits. You are putting an aquaintance and their unknown bf ahead of your family and letting them dictate what you do in your home . That's nuts.

You didn't feed your kid a breakfast. WTF.

Your people pleasing and lack of ability to say no to freeloaders and fawning over acquaintances and strangers is so extreme as to be dangerous. You've allowed a conplete stranger to stay in your home with your kid there. You fed your kid crap.

Get help.

I think teaching them to be mindful very early in the morning is fine but I wouldn't stress about it. It's your home and their own home and there should be no eggshells because of guests.

If you had invited them that’s different but they imposed themselves on you. Frankly I’d let the kids run riot 😁

I’m sorry but you sound unbelievably wet!

I can’t believe you are putting them up for free. If you were a paid for B and B then fair enough keep the children quiet. These aren’t guests the6 are cheeky fuckers of the highest order!

Gotta be a wind up

I'd be getting the saucepans and wooden spoons out to play drums.

You should perhaps have your child medically sedated so he remains asleep all day.

Do the same to your obviously unreasonable husband.

You are allowed to get up, but only if you wear special noise-reduction slippers, and do not eat, drink, or use the loo,

Surely this is what any decent host would do?

OP, I’ve never heard anything so bloody ridiculous. Is this a wind-up? 🙄

I wouldn’t go out of my way to make their stay pleasurable at all. In fact, I’d have my children make as much noise as possible in the hope they’d bugger off and find their own accommodation. You sound like you barely know them, and don’t particularly want them there.

YOU DIDN’T INVITE THEM, remember?

Why on earth are you letting people that aren't even friends, just former colleagues, invite themselves to your home, not to spend time with you but as a base for sight seeing in a tourist city? And then, to top it all, you make your child keep quiet and out of the way.

You must be the most ridiculous people pleaser I've ever encountered on Mumsnet. No wonder your DH is pissed off!

Cancel the other visits as they aren't working for your family.

They have to fit in with you 100%. If they want a long lie and peace they can pay for a hotel.

I have to agree with your DH.

You have no obligation to adapt to their lifestyle while they are staying with you, even if they hadn't invited themselves. And absolutely no way should your child have to adapt their normal child like behaviour while they stay.

Carry on as normal, make your morning coffee, let the child play, it's the self invited guests who must adapt.

As a staunchly childfree woman I wouldn't expect my friends with children to do this. It's their home.

For friends or family visiting, yes I'd absolutely be courteous and reasonably quiet (but that wouldn't extend to feeding my child cookies for breakfast, or not making myself a coffee!)

I'd warn them in advance that the child gets up early and tell them to bring earplugs.

But for people you're not even close to who have invited themselves for their own convenience - of course you shouldn't worry - just go on with life as normal.

(I'm not even sure why they're there in the first place - but each to their own).

I’d cancel their additional visits and say your plans have changed and it’s not convenient. I’m sure they can afford an Airbnb!

The worst thing that could happen is the couple decide your home is too noisy and decide to book somewhere else for the future. Any remarks from them saying they didn’t realise how noisy children were, just say tell them that’s how children are!

Don’t let them come back for the other visits you agreed! They are cheeky fuckers! They can get a hotel.