To keep DS off school tomorrow after classmate’s seizure?

Huge overreaction. I can’t believe this is an actual issue tbh. It didn’t happen to him. There is an actual child that experienced this. Why is he making this about himself?

What does he want/thinks he needs? It’s up to him really. He might want go just go in and keep on keeping on.

Back to school tomorrow. Life throws shit at us and as parents we are here to guide them. No pandering.

If he stays at home, it makes it a bigger deal than it is.

If he goes into school he'll see everyone getting on with work just as normal.

FWIW my best friend at school, not known to have epilepsy, had a seizure in front of me at school. It was very upsetting but we all turned up to school the following day and she was back a day later too, perfectly OK.

Honestly, the longer he’s off the bigger deal going back will become. Reassure him that he was brilliant, and encourage him to go in tomorrow.

My Dd is the classmate. She would be back in school the day after a seizure. If her friends had time off every time she had a seizure they’d be missing a lot of school. From experience he’ll process better if he goes and has his friends to talk it through with.
I read an article in a rag newspaper recently about a woman who had been told she had to work from home because her epilepsy was ‘traumatising’ her colleagues. It made me simultaneously furious and so deeply sad.

My DS's classmate suddenly died (leucemia) when he was 8. The teacher asked for all kids to come back to school the day after. They drew pictures to the boy's mum, talked, cried. It was really helpful. You need others when in pain. My son got over it pretty quickly thank god. But he understood that even children can die and asks if he's going to die everytime he's sick😔. Fortunately he still believes that mum knows all so it's enough that I say no for him to be reassured.

Sounds like your son did well, he used his training, jumped into action and helped his other child. Plenty praise and back to school tomorrow.

if you keep your son off you are making it a bigger hing that it needs to be.

Sounds like he did an amazing thing, encourage him to go to school to keep him occupied, i would however advise the school of your concerns, i would also contact his unit lead at SJA, they will be happy to debrief and support, sounds like he is a credit to the youth team and will be a valuable cadet/volunteer in the future. He won’t be the first to doubt himself after a traumatic experience. Well done to your son.

I think it will become an even bigger issue in his head if you keep him off school and let him go over and over it in his head. Try to reassure him tonight that he did a wonderful thing and couldn’t have done more. Then let him go to school and chat about it with his friends if he wants.

I think it’s a big overreaction

He will process it for a bit, it’s a big experience for a teen, but he can do that and go to school at the same time. The ability to compartmentalise is a key skill.

😂😂

This.

Mental helicopter parenting. I thought before I opened the thread that her son was going to be about 5 years old. Sounds like the boy done well, no need to wrap him in cotton wool at home like he’s made of glass.

I agree with this. If issues arise it should be possible for the school Welfare team to manage them. If HoY is aware they can check in with your DS.

I hope he feels better soon; he should feel proud of what he achieved as those situations are really tough when you have to face them.

Let him go back to school. At home he will spend the whole day thinking about this. He needs normal now.

You’ve had some real snarky comments OP, please ignore them - you are worried about your son, that’s all.

sounds like he did a brilliant job. All you can do is reassure him, keep lines of communication open so he knows he can talk to you if he’s struggling.
I wouldn’t suggest a day off, but I’d keep an eye on him in the morning and gauge his mood.
emailing his tutor/year head is a good idea, as is suggesting he talks to someone at his St John’s meets for a debrief

Your son did great. Well done to him. Talk to him and see how he feels about going in tomorrow

What an amazing young man 👏 sounds like he done a fantastic job

A kid at my school had a seizure once when I was about 14. She cracked her head open on the concrete tiles as she hit the ground - I’d have been torn a new arsehole if I’d have asked for a day off because of it 🙄 this isn’t about your kid

NO day off necessary. Don’t make this bigger than it was
He will experience multiple other events in life and need to be resilient
Cannot take a day off school or work or uni every time you’re a bit rattled and you should not set the precedent

Sounds like he kept his head in the heat of the moment and did a brilliant job.
I think it's natural that after such an event you do question yourself, your actions, should I have done....what if.....
Personally I'd just really praise him in and mention how he stepped up and did the right thing and that he should also be proud of himself.
Tonight I'd go about his normal routines etc ams wake him im the morning.
As a pp has said ask school that someone checks in on him, and maybe also give further reassurance on what he dud was correct. Coming from a teacher is different to a parent!

He will be fine and may miss out on being hero of the moment if you keep him off.

What an absolute trooper your son is. I think keeping him home is the worst thing you could do actually, his normal routine among his friends would be much better for him imo.

It sounds like your son acted really well in helping the other boy but I can’t see any reason to keep him at home tomorrow. No doubt the school would mark this down as an unauthorised absence.

YABU he needs to go back in and see how everything is ok and normal.

If he’s stays at home his mind could go in overdrive.

When our friend died we all carried on going in and lessons were as normal. There were lots of tears and it was very surreal but that normality and being together really helped.

Well done to your son.