Modern nappies & potty training - AIBU to think old terry nappies made it easier?

DS was potty trained at 18 months and had 'modern' nappies.

I'll train twin DD's at around that age too. Too early to argue so the job usually gets done.

By that same token though, it’s wrong to wait until the kid is ready and we should all be doing Evacuation Communication from birth. The overthinking - who do you decide to listen to? I completely agree it’s overwhelming. Everyone doesn’t say you have to wait until they’re ready though.

We used cloth nappies for the first 2 and potty training was sooooo easy. It was easy with the 3rd though too to be fair. My nephew on the other hand wasn’t potty trained until he was 4, summer before he started school. That was plain parental laziness 😬 but all works out fine. It’s not a big deal, unless it actually is and the kid has actual cognitive/developmental issues. Just my preference to get it done. Although IMO there comes an age where a kid in nappies is a bit stomach churning imo, and it’s not cute anymore.

I know I've said this upthread but today's parents are not lazy. We are overthinkers, over analysers, constantly explaining things to children in twenty words when one will do (like No or Stop). We give our kids so much 1-1 time. Constantly with the sword of damocles hanging over us of "traumatising your children". Don't tell them off, don't deny their feelings, give them "quality" time, cook wholesome food etc etc.

Whereas generations before us had bigger families and less present dads on the whole; kids shifted for themselves a lot more from a younger age, parents didn't lose sleep with guilt after raising their voices or serving potato smileys.

Today's parents aren't lazy. We do so so much, probably too much. We're paralysed with fear of getting it Wrong. Everything is informed by Research. So we put things off till children are ready because this or that source says it's better to, and we mustn't get it wrong because otherwise our children will be traumatised and need therapy. Everyone says so

My child wasn’t ready at 3. Believe me, I had eight months of soiled pants and not readiness. It was awful tbh and I do actually think the posts on here that were / are so horrible and scornful about children struggling with potty training affected me quite a lot.

I think a lot of children were put in pants and smacked and shamed for having accidents so yes, they probably did train earlier. Great, let’s go back to those days

Nothing to do with disposable nappies all to do with today’s lazy parents! I used disposable and they were all out of nappies by 2 1/2.

I've not seen much smugness apart from the one poster who was apparently advanced in everything.

Cloth diapers with an occasional disposable, both kids started potty training at 2 and that was that. My second hated if there was one drop of urine in her diaper, so that made it pretty easy.

I do think cloth makes it more uncomfortable to be in a wet diaper, so that makes potty training easier.

If we're all going to be goady and smug on this thread about something some kids take better to than others, I'd like to add that pants/knickers-free is best. Even when you take them out the first few weeks wearing trousers/shorts after they've been left to roam naked in the house/garden, leave this item of clothing off. Otherwise they think the tight material is a nappy.

My mum said I was potty trained at one but she herself hadn’t done it but a family friend who took care of me when I was a baby. Disposable nappies were used and my mum definitely didn’t use terry for my sister who was potty trained at 2 but also had assistance from the Catholic daycare mum had her in when my parents worked.

DS1 was 3 when he was potty trained and is autistic. He caught on really fast and didn’t speak more than two words, but understood. DS2 tried to train him several times (on the waiting list to be assessed for autism) and he got it the summer before entering reception but still struggled to wipe himself but got there eventually. DD1 is only 21 months and I’ve tried sitting her on the training potty that looks like ours and she slides right off. She used to scream and kick when placed on it so progress. She has run off without a nappy, done a wee and then treat it like a puddle and also likes to pour water on herself and has no qualms about being wet, but she is getting better with following directions and constantly watching what we’re all doing so hoping she’ll be easier like DS1. She’s more advanced than her brothers were at her age with many things so we shall see.

Tried reusable nappies and struggled to stick with them especially when they leaked and I was carrying around a mix of both.

Potty training is currently fresh in my mind…
I have 3 DC and I am currently potty training my third.
my two girls were 2yrs 2 months and 2 yrs 6 months when they potty trained. I remember both cracked it pretty much straight away, no accidents, no dramas. One took a few years to be dry at night but again no issue really, the other was dry day and night straight away.
I am around 8 weeks in to potty training my Ds who will be 3 in September. And he is only JUST getting it!!! Seriously, I thought I was a potty training wizard as both my two girls got it. Normal tricks of good weather, naked in garden, praise the success and ignore accidents worked fast with them…. But not with my boy.
soooo my point is I guess that all kids are different and you don’t know what the parents have tried yet.
However I would find it hard to believe that an almost 4 year old wasn’t ready. Maybe Granny could acquire a potty at her house and subtly slip it in that he has used it on his own all day… to give them a nudge?

YANBU.

I used terries and all of mine were clean and dry (day and night) by variously 2 - 2.75

I did the unrecommended night-time lifting when we went to bed too and none of them learned to wet the bed in their sleep as all the experts said they would

Wow, that’s amazing. There was no way mine (in terry nappies) would have been anywhere near ready for that at 18 months. He was about 2.5.

We were a little later to coincide with warmer weather, just turned 1 felt too early, so we went for just after 2. There was no way I was waiting until just after 3 though. 😬

Completely lazy.

Mine were all potty trained at 1 and a half, day and night. It's a skill that needs to be taught.

They were in reusable nappies.

We mostly used a variety of 'real' nappies, only using disposables when it wasn't convenient to use the real nappies - while I only have one child (so don't have multiple experiencs), I will say that he was very easy to potty train, dry (pee/poo) day and night within a week or so of starting training (couple of months after 2nd birthday - timed basically for warmer time!).

I was wondering if the average age of potty training was getting later and later because

• Less people have siblings for peer pressure
• There isn't a stay at home parent any more who can spend a week not going anywhere to get it right

Ds wore modern day reusables. He’s still young so only a few years ago.

They were great. Never had nappy rash. And was toilet trained by 2 years.
From about 18 months I started putting him on toilet after he woke and at each nappy change so he got used to using toilet early to go. Plus it meant he didn’t wee or poop in new nappy 5 mins later.

He couldn’t even talk at all at just turned 2, so waiting until they ask seems bonkers to me. We just took him regularly and in between he took our hand to bathroom if he needed to go.

I suspect there is something in this. The average age for toilet training is getting later and later and this might be one of the factors.

We use reusable nappies and I do think they helped my son tell when he was wet. He was toilet trained a little after his second birthday. Lots of kids I know are well past three before they toilet train.

We've just potty trained at 2.5. How can you know they're ready or not until you put them in little pants / knickers and get started...?

When I was a neonatal nurse in the 80s we used to use this on our tiny premature babies.
We'd lay them on their tummies with a nappy underneath.
We would spread the egg white on and then dry it with oxygen...
Only in extreme cases of nappy rash...

She doesn't have too she could decline if she wanted to. ,she's also gossiping to her friend who has decided to start a thread on mumsnet about it that ,s no being a great ,grand parent

A decade or so ago, I had problems with incontinence - I only had to walk past a ladies', or think about doing a wee, and I'd lose a bit of urine. Yes, it was surreal. I couldn't feel it coming out, just when I felt the wetness on my clothes. Until it was cured, I wore pads when out and about; and they are so good at what they do that I didn't know I'd wet myself until I looked. I think it would be a frustrating uphill battle trying to train a child who's wearing disposables, because they won't be aware they've urinated.

It would piss me off if I had to change shitty nappies and my grandchild's nutrition was being neglected