Going on holiday and feeling fat

There are people of all shapes and sizes in bikinis where I am currently. No one bats an eyelid. I've embraced bikinis with high waisted bottoms the last few years despite never being as slim as I would like. In fact, I'm bigger now than quite a few years ago when I would only wear tankinis and most of the time I would refuse to take my shorts off too. You just have to sort of push past it to realise it's okay.

OP - I can assure you that 95% of the women on holiday have some kind of issue with their body and things they would change. Years of magazines with ‘circle of shame’ features tearing apart celebrities for having a few dimples on their thighs or a half inch of skin sticking over the top of their bikini bottoms have destroyed women’s confidence. That and social media with carefully selected pictures shared - you never see those photos that didn’t make the cut.
You are absolutely not a failure! Your body is just that - a body. Maybe treat yourself to a few new bikinis or swimming costumes. But please don’t think you are less of a person because you look a certain way.

People won’t care honestly. The only thing I really notice is when people look sad, wthidrawn and self conscious. People look fantastic when they’re laughing and smiling ans having a great time.
the only advice I have that makes a difference looks wise is wear clothes that fit - soooooo important - and tanned skin looks better on larger sizes so consider a spray tan/home tan whatever. But only if you want to x

I felt like this going on holiday too. I bought a swimdress and felt fabulous in it. Not worn a bikini in years and even though I have lost a bundle of weight, I'd still not be comfortable in one.

Enjoy your holiday and make memories. It makes not a jot of difference what weight you are. No one will be looking or judging. X

Do you have a good selection of appropriateclothes in good condition that fit you properly?

that’s my main tip. I feel fat if I’m wearing clothes that are a smidge too small. As soon as I size up everything looks better so I feel better!!

Even a quick supermarket sweep for crisp new t shirts / vests / linen shorts would make the world of difference

Exactly this. Honestly, no one will be caring about what you like - just about themselves. Enjoy the holiday and don’t let it bring you down x

Imagine your best friend had said all this to you. You'd tell her how well she had done to lose a stone and a half, how much healthier she was, how great she looked, how her insides mattered more than her outsides, how she should have an amazing time and give no shits what people thought about her arse anyway.
Be your own best friend, don't give all that love and kindness to someone else, give it to yourself.
A) nobody cares, and you'll never see these people again
B) there's so much flattering swimwear around with various ways to cover bits up or suck bits in - take yourself shopping, buy things that fit and make you feel good (loads of mid sized influencers you can follow like styling with Rebecca who will show you what that shape/size looks like in holiday clothes)
C) 12 stone is not that big, nobody is creating a documentary about the size 14 woman going to the beach because its very very average and normal and boring and nobody wants to watch that - ergo nobody will be looking or judging at all
D) pat yourself on the back for what you've achieved so far, you're not 13 and a half stone anymore, enjoy your slimmer body and feel proud, not ashamed of your progress
E) have a nice time, sunbathe, eat, drink and be merry!

Buy a different swimsuit and enjoy your holiday.

You don't need to wear a bikini if you're going to worry about your belly.

Buy a different swimsuit and enjoy your holiday.

You don't need to wear a bikini if you're going to worry about your belly.

5ft 6 and 12 stone is not big!
I am considerably shorter and heavier.
i understand your feelings, but believe me no one cares what you look like in a costume, swim dress or bikini! Only you.

you will not be a sight people write home about!

just enjoy your holiday!!

& if you’re trying to avoid drawing attention to yourself, I’d avoid swim dresses, because I’ve done double takes at those in the past wondering why there’s so much fabric in the water and are people fully clothed!
id not notice a bikini or a swimming costume.
… just my person reaction.
I also wouldn’t be judging your body having a second glance, just checking you hadn’t fallen in & in difficulty!!

Sorry harsh but true.....When you're dead no-ones going to remember what weight you were or what you looked like in a bikini. Life is too fucking short to waste energy caring about stuff that means you dont live life to the full.

See my post..lose the one piece

Get a well fitting bikini particularly if you've a larger chest. Like underwear it makes all the difference.

Personally I think people stand out more in a swimsuit than a bikini ie..everyone knows you're covering up so it draws more attention to you.
I've just got back from Greece, I couldn't tell you one thing about anyone else and how they looked! I'm a bit nosey at the time but no one remembers

This
OP you’ll probably be one of the smallest

I’m 5ft 7 and 12 stone and I’m slim.

9 stone?!? Just wear a bikini!

It’s all individual perception and our own feelings are valid. I hear you.
I’m 5’5 and 9 stone. Three kids have trashed my body. I might not have big numbers on the scales but I’m unbelievably untoned and everything is squishy.

Im going abroad this weekend and dreading being in a tummy control one piece.

How is that harsh 😂

You will never see the people you see there again.

It is highly unlikely that anyone else will so much as notice.

Just relax, you are on holiday, you are not hurting anyone,

Don’t let it ruin your holiday. The beach will get whatever body we give it! Enjoy your holiday and make memories. It’s too late to do anything or worry about it now. In the same I go in 2 weeks.

Sorry if this comes across harsh but I don’t mean it to.

Nobody cares what anyone else looks like whilst on holiday!! I am 18st (lost 3 and a half so far and still going) and I will be going and loving every minute with my family.

Don’t be so hard on yourself! You have done amazing and you just need to put this to the back of your mind and love every minute!!

Really don’t worry. I could do with losing a stone and I’m over 50 but I still wear my bikini. I have a few little wrap skirts to put over when I get up.
once you have a bit of colour everything looks better anyway x
have a lovely holiday!

It will be a cold day in hell before I ditch bikinis. I hate swimsuits they feel so restrictive and a pain going to the loo. You are stuck with wet material on you. Plus no brown tum!

50 and bmi 24 so hardly supermodel statistics but sod that!