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Partner got really funny about swimwear I wore to work away day

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JadeHoliday · 09/07/2025 11:30

We had a two day work ‘away trip’ last week where one of the bonding things was going to an indoor swimming complex with slides etc. Really fun!

When I got back from this, my partner said ‘you didn’t wear a bikini did you’- which I said I obviously did.

He thinks that’s disrespectful and I should have worn a swim suit ‘rather than have my arse out in front of colleagues’(!)

I told him he can’t control what I wear and he got the hump. He thinks I was trying to make myself attractive and impress colleagues..

Would you say I should have ‘covered up’ or is he being unreasonable

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Wheezygonzalez · 09/07/2025 12:13

holysmokee · 09/07/2025 12:12

Me either, the thought makes me shudder though 😭😂

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I did post the rear view of Borat in a mankini but MNHQ haven’t approved it 😂😂😂😂

Holiday24 · 09/07/2025 12:12

I wouldn't wear a thong bikini to a work event..!

holysmokee · 09/07/2025 12:12

Wheezygonzalez · 09/07/2025 12:10

I can’t get this out of my head 😂😂😂

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Me either, the thought makes me shudder though 😭😂

mrsbitaly · 09/07/2025 12:11

If i was going down slides with a bikini it would end up a thong anyway so makes no difference Hmm

Richiewoo · 09/07/2025 12:10

I agree he can't tell you what to wear. Wearing a thong ro a work event is attention seeking.

Wheezygonzalez · 09/07/2025 12:10

holysmokee · 09/07/2025 12:08

I’d be horrified if my husband was parading around in a thong speedo too, not because it’s attention seeking but because it sounds horrific to look at (even though he’s pretty).

Do men’s thong speedos really exist? I don’t want that image in my google history or my brain.

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I can’t get this out of my head 😂😂😂

Partner got really funny about swimwear I wore to work away day
GreenWriter · 09/07/2025 12:10

MauraLabingi · 09/07/2025 11:37

Crikey OP. I wouldn't want my office colleagues seeing my bum cheeks in a thong either. That's just too far. I'd wear a non-indecent swimsuit or a tankini top with shorts.

But if YOU are happy sitting at work knowing that Jim, Dave and Darren are all thinking about your thong bikini, that's up to you. Nothing to do with your DH.

Agree.
OP’s DH is male, so has an innate understanding of the male psyche of his wife’s work colleagues.
OP you can wear what you want obviously, but your DH is allowed to dislike, and express that dislike, of the thought of Jim, Dave and Darren perving over you, his beloved wife, in a thong bikini.
Did you notice if anyone else wore a thong?
How would you feel if the roles were reversed and your DH wore a thong to a work swim?😅
Also unless you all work for Thongs R Us or are actors auditioning for Love Island, I wouldn’t class a thong bikini as appropriate work-jolly attire!

zanahoria · 09/07/2025 12:10

your arse, your choice

zeibesaffron · 09/07/2025 12:09

Thong bikini for work - I am with your DP!
I don’t need to see your arse or anyone else’s I work with!

101Alsatians · 09/07/2025 12:09

I got second-hand anxiety just from the prospect of a work swimming event 🤣

Ilikemymenlikeilikemycoffee · 09/07/2025 12:09

A bikini is one thing, a thong is another and weird!!

holysmokee · 09/07/2025 12:08

Poetnojo · 09/07/2025 11:53

Ugh, I would hate if my husband was parading around in a speedo thong type thing in front of colleagues, I would see it as a bit desperate for attention and exhibitionist imo.

I’d be horrified if my husband was parading around in a thong speedo too, not because it’s attention seeking but because it sounds horrific to look at (even though he’s pretty).

Do men’s thong speedos really exist? I don’t want that image in my google history or my brain.

Deadringer · 09/07/2025 12:07

Your body your choice but personally I think that a thong bikini is not appropriate for a work related day out.

GaspingGekko · 09/07/2025 12:07

How many of your colleagues had a thong bikini on OP?

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · 09/07/2025 12:07

I wouldn’t have thought a thong bikini was the ideal thing to wear on water slides.

EstherGreenwood63 · 09/07/2025 12:07

Well he is a dick but you are a knob for wearing a fucking thon bikini on a work junket... 😂 PS they look gross.

FiveShelties · 09/07/2025 12:07

I just love how posters respond to absolutely absurd threads. Too funny😂

mindutopia · 09/07/2025 12:06

I wouldn’t wear a thong to a work event. 😳 And Dh would probably be horrified if I did (just like I would be if he wore similar). But he would never say anything and make me feel bad about what I was wearing.

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 09/07/2025 12:06

JadeHoliday · 09/07/2025 11:33

Yeah it was but I really don’t see the issue

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🤣🤣 so you wore a thong bikini in front of your colleagues at a work away day and don’t see there could be anything wrong with this? But you’re tying it up with your partner being controlling around what you wear?
Not sure I entirely believe you .

Champaganesupernova · 09/07/2025 12:04

He has a point , nobody wants to see your full arse out !

ItsCalledAConversation · 09/07/2025 12:04

Oh lord a work swimming event with (or indeed without) arse cheeks on show? Hard no.

ItsStillWork · 09/07/2025 12:03

I actually don’t believe this thread. No one would attend a work event in a thong bikini, I’m not buying it 🤔

But on the off chance this is a real scenario, the fact you did wear a thong bikini in front of work colleagues and you can’t see a problem with that shows that you have boundary issues.

FrenchandSaunders · 09/07/2025 12:03

Bonding with colleagues in a swimsuit .... I feel quite faint thinking about this going on at my workplace 🤒

MsCactus · 09/07/2025 12:03

Oh God - imagine if everyone you worked with wore a thong bikini. So grim.

I think a thong bikini to a work function is pretty gross tbh, whether you're a man or woman. But no your DH shouldn't control what you wear

estrogone · 09/07/2025 12:02

Usually I would be 100% team bikini. Then you fessed up to flashing your arse at a work event in a g string.

Completely inappropriate and if I was your partner, I'd probably also be a bit weirded out.