Partner got really funny about swimwear I wore to work away day

What kind of work bonding away day has staff in their swimming costumes?

Your body, your choice so he's unreasonable to think he even gets a say. But while I defend your right to choose what you wear, a thong bikini to a work event is rather a bold choice. Showing your ass to your work colleagues really doesn't scream professional.

TBH if the OP can’t understand why a thong bikini was inappropriate in such circs, it won’t be much use anyone trying to tell her.

A thong bikini to a work event? Unprofessional, inappropriate and attention-seeking.

In my case it would be the colleagues suffering

@JadeHoliday what would your company have done if there were people who didn’t want to wear a swimsuit etc in front of others due to cultural / personal reasons?

Cannot believe people are acting like a man has the right to decide how a woman dresses because he somehow has rights over her arse.

Your arse, just like your boobs, face and fanny, are yours alone.

Insecure little prick.

Oh god, the dreaded "Canoe and Mars Bar" weekend. Where you learn that half of the senior managers are macho idiots, and the receptionist has better organisational skills than all of them put together.

This ☝️☝️☝️
And to be honest, a pool involving slides and activities would call for something rather more robust than a piece of fabric smaller than a handkerchief surely? I’m no prude but if I were on a water slide I’d defined want to be confident that I wouldn’t lose my bikini on entering the pool at speed.

I didn't vote. I don't think a thong bikini is appropriate for a work event but I don't think its your partner's business either.

Agree. Blimey. A thong bikini.. 😬😮

@FoxtrotOscarFoxtrotOscar
I totally agree, I would never ever do this! It’s absolutely terrifying.

Attention seeking of course.
I can't imagine why anyone would want to show their actual buttocks to their colleagues unless they wanted those colleagues to look at them. It's not as if there are no normal bikinis available to buy. Tbh I'm with OP's husband, I'd have worn a swimsuit at a work event.

If this was suggested in my office, I'd have to feign illness.
Stuff of nightmares.

Let’s be honest, anyone wearing a thong bikini is looking for attention. Even if you have the best arse in the world thong bikinis are not flattering.

All of those are an hour or two. This was two days. If those were working days then that would need senior management signoff for the working time as well as HR for the various interpersonal issues that might arise (e.g., leering at arse cheeks in thongs).

I can't swim and I am quite afraid of water, so if I was asked I would have declined to go. If I was forced to go (because "The whole company will be there, there will be work as well as FUN™®©!!!!") I would be standing at the shallow end with a forced grin, and I would be judging the managers by how they dealt with colleagues who for whatever cultural, religious, or personal reason did not feel able to join in.

So glad I'm self employed because I won't have to deal with a work show us all your arse trip. Why does anyone need to show their arse on these work do's anyway, do they get paid extra for being an exhibit?

I'm in my 30s and think wearing a thong bikini to a work event (even a fun one) is really weird.
Apart from anything else doesn't having your arse cheeks out
A) hurt
B) slow you down
While going down water sides?

What a load of cobblers

A thong bikini sounds inappropriate for a work trip. Another sort of bikini would have been fine, of course.

I’m early 30s. We went on a walk up a hill for our team building event and I wore wide leg trousers because I didn’t feel comfortable in leggings in front of colleagues! Can’t imagine wearing a thong in front of them. I don’t know what planet you’re living on OP 🤣

You are entitled to wear whatever you want but I would suggest working on your own worth if having your arse out at a work event is the only way you can get attention.

I’m not normally a pearl-clutcher but a WORK event at a swimming pool is all kinds of wrong!! I wouldn’t want to see my female OR male colleagues in any form of swimwear and I wouldn’t want them to see me either. I’d feel really vulnerable and I can’t think of anything less professional.

Oops.

Pressed YANBU before I read the follow up that it was one of those grim thong bikinis.

1. What's being in your 30s got to do with anything?

1. What was everyone else wearing ?