Using a plate or bowl when eating yes or no?

I'm sorry but your family sound like animals.

How easy would it be for you to insist that all meals are eaten at the table off of plates, or bowls, using cutlery? Like normal human beings.

Are you not in a position to insist on this? If not, why not?

Eating without a plate, on the sofa. Arrrrgh.

Yes, my DC were never allowed to walk around eating their meals. They sat down with a plate or bowl. I don't understand how it's become a 'thing' to walk round eating.

This your DH is gross and lack basic manners,.my DC, gc would not be allowed to eat unless they are sitting at the table using plate, bowl, cutlery.

I haven’t been on MN for very long but I think this is one of the stock phrases…..

Tell me you do all the cleaning and laundry without telling me you do all the cleaning and laundry.

Lock all the food away, nobody eats unless they sit at a table eating with mouths closed, off crockery and with cutlery, unless it’s obviously finger food. If they bring their own food indoors and throw it/crumbs all around or wipe greasy hands on clothing or bedding then they do the cleaning and/or laundry until you are satisfied they can be trusted to be civilised hoomans.

I wouldn’t clean up after slobs.

No you are not the weirdo. Couldn’t stand crumbs all over the floor or side. Such an easy way to keep place clean and tidy. Always will use bowl/plate or whatever, otherwise you are just making more mess you are going to have to clean up later when your crumbs get everywhere (as you say also - ants/mice etc as well don’t want). My mum I remember used to get on at us (USE A PLATE!!) and now completely understand why 😂 And same with crumbs etc. - would brush hands off in sink or wash them otherwise to me it just feeling littering getting your crumbs everywhere. Probably doesn’t help I am also coeliac so crumbs for me is stress (no gluteny crumbs thank you! 🙅‍♀️)

Honestly I think this is weird.

We are v crap with food, tend to eat in front of our own individual screens like hermity weirdos but we always always use a plate or bowl. I thought the vast majority of people did (and also that most people eat at a designated place like a dining table).

Not surprised you have had ants

Animal! Massive ick. How does he expect his kids to function in the world if he lets them behave like this?! Massively disrespectful behaviour all round. Food should be eaten from a plate, preferably at the table. Or no food.

That would do my head in OP.
Lazy arses not using plates. 🙄

Buy a load of cheap paper plates. No washing up and if you get compostable ones they can go in food waste

🤣🤣🤣 OP I genuinely cannot believe he was eating a crumble out of his hands 🤣🤣🤣 I also thought this was going to be about what foods you eat from a bowl versus a plate

My ex didn't even bother to sweep them onto the floor (and we had a robot hoover) - he'd just leave them all over the side.

Luckily I have a significantly greater influence on my children, and they use a plate and prefer to sit at the table. My youngest even chooses to use a fork to eat things like cake, because he doesn't like getting sticky/greasy fingers.

It would never occur to me not to use a plate or bowl when eating! My kids do too. I guess because they have never seen anyone not use a plate!

You have crumbs with a dog?? Our dog cleans up crumbs quicker and more effectively than any hoover could

He is disgusting. Who eats like this? Even a dog eats from a bowl. I can’t believe anyone walks around just eating like that unless it’s in a wrapper?

He takes hold of the toast and then can't decide whether he wants to actually eat it or not? What is he wondering? Which spread to put on it? How long does this indecision last, and why does it create so many crumbs?

Your post made me rage OP. I hate crumbs with a passion. Seems like no one else cares though, so I have to wear ballet flats in the house to avoid trodding on them, and sweep floors constantly 😫

Gosh OP that sounds awful, don’t know how you dealt with this for so long.

We are firm on plates, sitting in the kitchen to eat and table manners. Table manners are much overlooked in many households. I know which of DCs friends haven’t been taught them.

I don’t know if people just don’t eat out or with others much anymore. I suppose if you’re just guzzling solo it doesn’t matter, but if you are ever going to eat in public, with friends, at a work event, in a nice restaurant you must have a basic awareness of table manners.

Tell him he can either wash a plate or clean the floor after each time he's eaten, his choice but what he won't do is leave it for you to do. I know what I'd rather do. Put consequences in place for the kids when they do it.

I ate tonight's dinner with my fingers. It was on a plate, just easier to pick stuff up. I actively enjoy walking around with a piece of toast or a biscuit - this is because I live alone, am solely responsible for my own mess, and never did any of this while living with other people!

Get them to at least USE KITCHEN PAPER, for god's sake.

Talking with a full mouth is incredibly bad manners because nobody wants to see the chewed-up mush in there. Maintaining conversation while eating is a finely-tuned skill that takes years to perfect: first you have to learn NOT to open your mouth while chewing. It's unwise to let children get away with it, as it'll reflect badly on them (and their parents) when they're older.

As kids, we'd have to point at our (full) cheeks if someone spoke to us while we were chewing. It's ungainly, but a useful step in learning good manners. The correct response - at home - to someone displaying/spraying the contents of their gob is "Eeuuww! 🤢"

Could he eat off of a paper towel? Or I think you might call it kitchen roll? I know it's not the best for the environment but if he put the food on the paper towel to eat it then he could use the paper towel to wipe his hands when he was done and throw it in the trash.

I'd make sure his job is laundry and hoovering.

I haven't RTFT so apologies if this has already been mentioned.
Though your family should use plates obviously, a robot vac may both help keep your floor clean and your sanity intact .

This is absolutely disgusting.

Cancel all upcoming holidays. Replace with trips to Paris (or possibly elsewhere in France)..

Ban snacking. Eat only meals seated at the table with a table cloth nice delph, table settings and candles.

Eww nope! One of my pet hates is kids wandering around with food.
DH and my teens occasionally try to get away with it but I’m having none of it.