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To be the only ones with open windows

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Doncarlos · 09/07/2025 06:57

From my bedroom window I can see the rear windows of 7 houses. All houses are the same style 2 up 2 down so I know some of the rooms I can see most be used as bedrooms but not a single one has a window open. I’ve noticed this for the past couple of weeks.

It’s similar at the front. Larger houses so I wouldn’t know what’s a bedroom, but still only the odd window cracked open.

We have pretty much every upstairs window flung open all night, and even when it’s colder we still like our bedroom window open a bit.

I get keeping them closed through the day when it’s hot, but at night?

Am I the odd one here?

OP posts:
Newmeagain · 09/07/2025 10:10

I am in London and open my windows during the day but close them at night as there is always some noise late at night or in the morning. Would love to live somewhere where I could keep them open.

Cattery · 09/07/2025 10:01

Windows open all year round. Couldn’t imagine not. As a pp said to feel the breeze on you during the night is lovely. Neighbours over the back from us windows never open nor the curtains. I don’t get it. Must stink in there.

Nannyfannybanny · 09/07/2025 09:58

During Covid we were encouraged to open the windows, and because of damp etc. my nextdoor neighbours, don't open windows or blinds or curtains, both of them. They don't have air conditioning or even a fan. I find it very bizarre.This time of year, open all the time we're in, definitely at night.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 09/07/2025 09:50

Mine are open all day every day but closed at night. I live by a wood and would get all sorts of beasties and bats in otherwise. The house is well aired as windows are open all day.

Yesterdaytodaytomorrowagain · 09/07/2025 09:44

Can’t imagine the smell from not having a window open! I love the fresh air coming in. Not exactly scorching here in Scotland today and all my windows are wide open!

Londontown12 · 09/07/2025 09:38

I keep my windows closed and blinds because it keeps the heat out !
And as a hayfever sufferer it reduces the pollen inside the house !
I will open when it’s cold and I can get a wind tunnel of air blowing thou .
i do have a positive air unit so I always have fresh air despite no open windows though 😊

Doncarlos · 09/07/2025 09:21

Not a northerner, lived south all my life.

I will admit that it's taken me a while to accept that windows being closed on hot days is for the best. I begrudgingly conceded and now they're closed until early evening when it's really hot outside with the curtain drawn enough to block the direct sunlight in some rooms, but I'd leave them open all the time otherwise.

I totally get some of the reasoning now, with severe hay fever, etc. That must be horrible.

It did also occur to me that those seagulls are in full protective parent mode at the moment and making an absolute racket from pretty early on. I was awake at 5 this morning and recall hearing them before that, so maybe that's why.

OP posts:
Swapozorro · 09/07/2025 09:10

I’ve noticed this too! When it’s a scorching hot day I keep the windows and blinds down that are directly in sunlight but everything else is wide open. At night when it finally cools down all my windows and doors get flung open yet the other houses are either closed or only open a crack?! Maybe they all have air con.

Deadringer · 09/07/2025 08:40

My windows are open all day every day but closed at night. I am a light sleeper and between cars going by and seagulls squawking I wouldn't get a wink of sleep with the window open.

popcornpower2025 · 09/07/2025 08:37

I do if it's really hot but when the window is open the dog will bark at a fox fart a mile away so it's easier to keep them closed. I'll have them open all evening though to cool the room down then open them in the morning for a bit

SleepingisanArt · 09/07/2025 08:35

Bedroom window closed at night when it's hot - aircon on. One side of the house gets the sun in the morning so windows and curtains closed and then swapped in the afternoon so the house remains at a bearable temperature (it's very well insulated!)

Doggymummar · 09/07/2025 08:32

We are in a bungalow but I still have the windows open at night,

JaninaDuszejko · 09/07/2025 08:30

I'm Scottish living in Northern England. All the windows are open at night, then closed if on the sunny side and the velux windows are open all day because heat rises and cold falls. Curtains shut if sun shining on that side.

I'm another that likes the bedroom window open all night even in the winter. DH grew up in a windows shut house, MIL grew tomatoes in her kitchen window once and was confused why she got no fruit, it was because no insect was allowed in the house.

DayInTime · 09/07/2025 08:28

I always have as many windows as possible open during the day.

Night time, I hate the thought of insects and frequently get bitten.

CandidRaven · 09/07/2025 08:25

I can't have the windows open because me and my younger children have very bad hayfever and it's absolutely miserable when none of us can breathe because of the pollen so we keep them closed and have a fan on instead

Padamae · 09/07/2025 08:20

I’d love to sleep with all the windows open but my husband and daughter really struggle with hayfever if we do. We have a fan instead.

BeamMeUpCountMeIn · 09/07/2025 08:19

I've tried to have my windows open but either the birds (who I love) or an alarm wakes me up. So I sleep in a hot room.

MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 09/07/2025 08:18

I have my bedroom windows open pretty much from February until oct/Nov. I only shut them on very high pollen days as I have horrific hayfever or during a heatwave when I close windows and blinds to keep the warm air out.

I'm a southerner (well, south east, about 50 miles outside london) and everyone here also opens windows.

bellamorgan · 09/07/2025 08:17

Bedroom open all year. Our neighbour has suddenly closed theirs though as they are a light sleeper and I swear about 10 cockerels have moved in across the green.

pushthebuttonnn · 09/07/2025 08:12

We can't open ours at the moment due to dh and dd 's hayfever. It's stuffy but not worth opening them due to their symptoms.

SoftLass · 09/07/2025 08:11

Bikergran · 09/07/2025 08:00

Are you a Northerner who's moved South? I have to have some source of outside air in the bedroom all the year round, and in the summer open lots of windows, but my Londoner husband only opens windows grudgingly. The cheapest air freshener to my mind is fresh air!!!

Funny you should say that, I'm a northerner living down south and I'm the only person who ever opens windows in my house!
i can't have bedroom windows open at night though otherwise I wake up with horrendous hay fever so I have them wide open all evening to cool the room. If I ask DH to open the windows he'll open one a crack and then close the curtains over it.

Wilfrida1 · 09/07/2025 08:08

Bedroom windows open all year round here, too. But I wonder if noise affects some more than others, or they have air conditioning?

ByLemonFish · 09/07/2025 08:07

I open all my windows every morning, unless it's windy or very wet they stay open until late in day . My bedroom window is never closed
I've noticed neighbours rarely or never open windows

MiddleAgedDread · 09/07/2025 08:06

Oh I was wondering the same too! I assumed they were away as all windows have been closed in the glorious weather but he was outside washing the car yesterday so clearly not! I hate stuffy rooms that haven’t been aired and it’s forecast to be 27 degrees here today so I’m getting the house as cool as possible early.

MrsSethGecko · 09/07/2025 08:06

My bedroom window is open all year round. Every window open all day at the moment- I live in a second floor flat so perfectly safe. It's lovely.

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