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To be the only ones with open windows

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Doncarlos · 09/07/2025 06:57

From my bedroom window I can see the rear windows of 7 houses. All houses are the same style 2 up 2 down so I know some of the rooms I can see most be used as bedrooms but not a single one has a window open. I’ve noticed this for the past couple of weeks.

It’s similar at the front. Larger houses so I wouldn’t know what’s a bedroom, but still only the odd window cracked open.

We have pretty much every upstairs window flung open all night, and even when it’s colder we still like our bedroom window open a bit.

I get keeping them closed through the day when it’s hot, but at night?

Am I the odd one here?

OP posts:
Goddessoftheearth · 09/07/2025 20:49

Born and bred southerner but have to have windows open all the time! Can’t sleep in a room with closed windows, or feel really unwell the next day!

Whatshesaid96 · 09/07/2025 20:32

I never see any windows open next door apart from a small bathroom window that opens only at the top. They don't have an air conditioning unit that we can see or hear. They dry their washing on airers inside. They must have damp on the walls or stagnant air surely?

Sadworld23 · 09/07/2025 20:16

Maybe they are not at home, or house is empty?

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 09/07/2025 19:12

I can’t sleep without the window open either.

restingbitchface30 · 09/07/2025 19:11

Not odd at all I’ve thought this same thing! Im in a terraced with around 15 other houses, I’d say I’m only one of 3 or 4 that has our windows open. I have wondered for a while how they are coping in the heatwaves. Don’t get me wrong on really hot days I keep them shut so I don’t let the heat in. But these other windows are shut all the time. I think I’ve got too much time on my hands tbh, it’s not something I’d have noticed before being a SAHM!

envbeckyc · 09/07/2025 18:59

If the bedrooms are for children then I can understand why parents wouldn’t open the windows! Trying to get rid of six flies on the ceiling at bed time to get your kids to settle down is the work of the devil!

Chinsupmeloves · 09/07/2025 18:39

A friend is scared of insects and moths so never opens her windows and shuts the back door quickly. I'm the opposite, I walk through the house opening every window and the back door.

Almostwelsh · 09/07/2025 12:06

There are lots of reasons not to open windows
Noise. Some people are light sleepers
Insects. If I open windows at night I often get bitten to death.
Security. I have a flat roof below my bedroom, so it would be easy access for a break in.
Hay fever. Luckily I don't have this, but I close my window overnight for all the other reasons I've mentioned.
I do open the window in the morning for a while.

TheOriginalEmu · 09/07/2025 12:01

I couldn’t tell you who opens their windows on my street or when.
I don’t tend to open my windows because I sleep in the dining room at the front of the house and the noise from people and cars and the birds and whatever would wake me up every 5 minutes.

TemporaryCatSlave · 09/07/2025 11:56

StMarie4me · 09/07/2025 07:24

We have indoor cats so can’t have windows wide open. They are all on that open just a crack and latched setting! I would love open windows but not worth the risk for the cats.

Have a look at FlatCats mesh screens. Not too expensive, quite strong and cat has never managed to pull it off or climb up it.

On OP's point, I can only have windows wide open in a gentle breeze as my casement windows don't have proper stay/hooks, only some tension in the hinges. A stronger wind and they slam shut and on one occasion the glass smashed. Would never risk having them open overnight in case the wind got up whilst I slept. So they are on the latch.

BerolDryWipe · 09/07/2025 11:14

I can't open mine as much as I'd like to at the moment, as we have a Maine coon kitten, I am planning on getting cat flats but haven't got round to measuring up yet.

Changing the subject slightly, but do any of you still peg out washing? I seem to be the only one in my village that hangs clothes on the washing line.

StripyShirt · 09/07/2025 11:13

Most people seem to enjoy being hot.

Every office I've ever worked in is full of people who will happily sit and roast, rather than open a window, and my house is often the only one on my row with any windows open.

StripyShirt · 09/07/2025 11:13

Most people seem to enjoy being hot.

Every office I've ever worked in is full of people who will happily sit and roast, rather than open a window, and my house is often the only one on my row with any windows open.

Becs258 · 09/07/2025 11:03

I open mine all evening, but don’t feel safe sleeping with them open, and I’d be woken way too early by the birds.

Luckyingame · 09/07/2025 10:59

Yes, it's crazy. Especially people with "Ddogs" at home are shut firmly in.😁
I my country of origin, fresh air seems very important, almost part of the culture! 😉

halfpennypocketwatch · 09/07/2025 10:57

Every window flung open all night would leave a lot of people feeling quite vulnerable. I close my windows at night for security reasons. I have them open in the day.

Poonu · 09/07/2025 10:52

I have my car windows cracked open slightly as well I stopped yesterday, some cars had got broken into.

Lurkingandlearning · 09/07/2025 10:51

I open mine at the crack of dawn when it’s cool. Once it gets hot outside, it’s cooler to keep the windows and blinds closed. Maybe your neighbours are doing the same.

TallulahBetty · 09/07/2025 10:47

My window is always open at night - even in winter, although it's only on the 'latch'/nightlock. I can't stand a stuffy bedroom

BallerinaRadio · 09/07/2025 10:46

Some people sleep with their windows open. Some don't. I can't believe you'd even begin to think there was anything unreasonable about this

YourOnMute · 09/07/2025 10:46

pushthebuttonnn · 09/07/2025 08:12

We can't open ours at the moment due to dh and dd 's hayfever. It's stuffy but not worth opening them due to their symptoms.

I'm always opening windows and drilled the same into my children. Adult DD developed hayfever this year and was told to shut the windows.

Ormally · 09/07/2025 10:38

Love a window open, and do not enjoy temps over about 24, but when it's really hot, like recently, it's become more of a case of opening the windows on the side that is in shade, in the morning, and mostly closing blinds or curtains on the other side, or the air that comes in will be simply warm or hot. There is a glass side panel next to the front door; although I have never had to do this before, I have added some sugar paper to it on the inside as a temporary/desperate measure and even that has had a clear effect on reducing the heat that can warm up the hall.

In the evening, there can be noise and often barbeque smoke, and sometimes traffic hold-ups nearby which give a petrolly feel to where I am, so that can affect air quality then.

RareMaker · 09/07/2025 10:35

I do open in early hours and morning though. Till the sun moves around

RareMaker · 09/07/2025 10:35

Mine are shut as have aircon on.

Modernme · 09/07/2025 10:32

All my windows are open all year round 24/7.
Day and night.
I cant stand them closed.