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Screen free children

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screenfreemum · 08/07/2025 23:25

Are there children who are screen-free? Ours mostly are (DD nearly 7 and DS 3) we don't have an ipad or a telly, which makes it a bit easier, I reckon. We do go to the cinema once every couple of months with 7 yo and she is allowed to watch films on my laptop on sick days, on a longhaul flight, and occasionally a programme if she's had a long day after school. She does get some screentime at school under the guise of education but that is also limited. 3 yo hasn't had any appreciable screentime, except for a glimpse here and there if his older sister is watching a film whilst ill. DH's sister lives abroad so we Facetime with her once a month. And of course if we're at a pub dinner or something they might see a football match on the telly, but otherwise don't have any screentime.

But it feels increasingly like we are outliers, I reckon everyone we know has much more screentime for their children. Friends sometimes talk about wanting to have less screen time for their children and I keep quiet as I don't want to seem precious about it.

Obviously this has been a conscious decision as I do worry about the impacts of screentime on DC (and later social media) but also I don't feel we've had to be too extreme to avoid it. Are there others who have kept their children (mostly) screen free? What happened as they grow older?

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complicated2 · 08/07/2025 23:32

I think you're doing the right thing tbh.

My son had screen time all day every day for a long time and he's now chosen to stop completely because he saw a lot of nasty stuff on screens that he can't unsee now. It gives him terrible anxiety and panic attacks. They strange thing is that this is memories of computer games and youtube videos that he chose to watch at the time. I asked him not to because I could see that they were bad but at the time he acted as though I was a terrible mother and stopping him from doing stuff that he needed to do to be in with the crowd. But now, with hindsight, he realises it was a terrible idea.

He no longer watches youtube and doesn't play any video games at all. He has started a small business doing a screen-free trade job that helps him to meet people in the local community and life is much better. I think your kids will thank you in the long run.

mikado1 · 08/07/2025 23:31

Smurphy99 · 08/07/2025 23:27

You’re going to have very strange, very socially awkward children. How bizarre.

Why would screen use make children more socially able? It's the opposite. At these ages they're not missing out on anything and do watch movies etc. They have more time to play, explore andnsoend time with their oeers without screens getting in the way. The way too much early screen use has hindered language and social development is v apparent for anyone working with children.

Later on OP, you might decide to allow gaming or phones with safety features etc as, as teens especially, they do tend to use these platforms for communicating (unfortunate but almost unavoidable).

Gffbjjgfddbjkkm · 08/07/2025 23:30

Keep doing what you're doing.
It's a sad state of affairs when people associate screen watching with having good social skills.

ZZTopGuitarSolo · 08/07/2025 23:29

I was a screen free child - we had no TV, and there were no computers then.

I waste half my life on screens now 😂

EvolvedAlready · 08/07/2025 23:27

Poor kids. So very unnecessary and strange.

Smurphy99 · 08/07/2025 23:27

You’re going to have very strange, very socially awkward children. How bizarre.