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Neighbour has put political banner on his fence

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IonaJ · 08/07/2025 20:52

Our neighbour’s house has a fence which faces a fairly busy road. He has taken it upon himself to tie a political banner (think ‘vote X’) to that fence.

Before anyone says it, yes I know it’s his property. But said party are divisive and I worry there may be some unwarranted attention as a result.

Do you think we would be unreasonable to politely suggest it is taken down, or to compromise, only put there during election periods?

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WhereIsMyJumper · 08/07/2025 21:48

Fucking hell 🤦‍♀️😂 Stop talking OP, you’re embarrassing yourself

Yep

Middlechild3 · 08/07/2025 21:47

IonaJ · 08/07/2025 20:52

Our neighbour’s house has a fence which faces a fairly busy road. He has taken it upon himself to tie a political banner (think ‘vote X’) to that fence.

Before anyone says it, yes I know it’s his property. But said party are divisive and I worry there may be some unwarranted attention as a result.

Do you think we would be unreasonable to politely suggest it is taken down, or to compromise, only put there during election periods?

If it's in the UK we are a democracy so as long as it's a legal party he can do this.

Fgfgfg · 08/07/2025 21:47

OP I have a large Palestinian flag you can borrow.
I can't lend it to you until next week though because I have to take it to my Farage loving Reform voting mum's house on Sunday. Politically she's an arse but she's still my mum. I blame Rod Stewart.

WilfredsPies · 08/07/2025 21:45

I would like to think we live somewhere affluent enough to not attract those who’d cause damage etc, and whilst we do have some social housing nearby in one of the new build areas, I think they are more likely to be in favour of the sign!

Err, because of this? People who live in social housing don’t go round damaging people’s property because they don’t agree with who they vote for. That’s something that your lot do. Same with Farage; he’s one of your lot.

Eh? I don’t look down at them at all. There’s a lady I speak to on the school run every morning who I get along with really well and she lives in social housing. So I’m more than happy to mix with them Fucking hell 🤦‍♀️😂 Stop talking OP, you’re embarrassing yourself.

WhereIsMyJumper · 08/07/2025 21:45

I have some friends who are Labour voters, others vote greens, others vote reform, and most have voted Tory in the past. I have one that has strong pro-Palestine views, another that is more aghast at rampant anti semitism. I like listening to all of them talk about their opinions and discussing nuance with them all. It’s always respectful and they are all intelligent individuals.

I choose what company I keep based on how open minded someone is. I don’t think you and I would be friends, OP.

TheNuthatch · 08/07/2025 21:44

WhereIsMyJumper · 08/07/2025 21:39

Agreed. Your political views are one tiny little part of who you are. Unless you make politics your entire personality of course. I’ve had some good-spirited debates with close friends on politics! We understand each other better afterwards and can see each other’s POV, even if our own position doesn’t change.

Exactly. It's crazy how intolerant some people are.
DH and I discuss politics regularly. We dont always agree, but we respect each other's views. More importantly, we respect each other's right to have an opinion that doesn't always tally without the other's. I learn a lot from listening to his take on things, and he mine. Funnily enough, we usually agree on the destination, just not on how to get there.

IwasDueANameChange · 08/07/2025 21:44

For me it would be about the typical demographics associated with reform. Older, conservative voters, men more so than women. The vast majority of reform voters voted leave. Studies have shown reform voters think immigration/stopping the boats are the most important issues facing our country.

These aren't neighbours I'm going to gel with.

WhereIsMyJumper · 08/07/2025 21:43

CurlewCelia · 08/07/2025 21:41

Happy to be in an echo chamber.

In that case, crack on.
Its not for me.

CurlewCelia · 08/07/2025 21:41

WhereIsMyJumper · 08/07/2025 21:29

This is how you end up in an echo chamber

Happy to be in an echo chamber.

EasternStandard · 08/07/2025 21:40

ColinOfficeTrolley · 08/07/2025 21:33

Nah not really. It's how you end up with like minded people. That's not an echo chamber. That's just finding your people.

If you think that having the same fundamental views as your spouse and friends, is an 'echo chamber', then that's up to you.

You don't have to agree with absolutely everything those around you believe, but I do believe the importance of how you treat others, can be reflected in the company you keep.

You only surround yourself with people who vote the same? Do you mean everyone must vote Labour

WhereIsMyJumper · 08/07/2025 21:40

bellamorgan · 08/07/2025 21:38

Means you’ve got to ditch your friends each time you vote a different way. Maybe some years you’ll get old ones back

That sounds like hard work 😂

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 08/07/2025 21:40

Londonrach1 · 08/07/2025 21:08

Growing up one neighbour had vote conservative on their fence and next door had vote labour....every Sunday those two neighbours had Sunday lunch together for 20 plus years.. the best of friends...sadly we lost the vote labour one first then the vote conservative one but as a teenager and young adult I loved seeing both posters and knowing that deep down it didn't matter what they voted they still have Sunday roast on Sunday together...yabu by the way.

Love it. DH and I are members of different parties and we’re considering putting posters for both in the window together with some sort of art to make look like they were having a sword fight. My poster didn’t arrive in time. Maybe next election.

WhereIsMyJumper · 08/07/2025 21:39

TheNuthatch · 08/07/2025 21:37

This is bonkers. I find your view bigoted and intolerant.
I'm on the right, my DH is on the left. We've been married for decades and even managed to produce children, gasp! We hold hands on our way to the polling station and everything.

Agreed. Your political views are one tiny little part of who you are. Unless you make politics your entire personality of course. I’ve had some good-spirited debates with close friends on politics! We understand each other better afterwards and can see each other’s POV, even if our own position doesn’t change.

CurlewCelia · 08/07/2025 21:39

IonaJ · 08/07/2025 21:00

Yes it’s a Reform banner. Each to their own in terms of politics, but being the first thing you see when turning in to our street is not great. I feel sorry for any residents who are thinking about selling their house soon.

That would put me off buying, but I guess plenty of people vote Reform without advertising the fact.

bellamorgan · 08/07/2025 21:38

WhereIsMyJumper · 08/07/2025 21:36

So you think it’s impossible for a Tory voter and a Labour voter to be friends? That’s wild!

I have voted for both in my time - have also voted Lib Dem. Where does that leave me? Must I only select my friends by first checking with political party they align with?

Means you’ve got to ditch your friends each time you vote a different way. Maybe some years you’ll get old ones back

IonaJ · 08/07/2025 21:38

Lmnop22 · 08/07/2025 21:35

Why do people think that it’s ok to be vocal about things they agree with but not things they don’t?

Your neighbour is entitled to support whichever political party they like and be as vocal and or visual in this case with that as they like on their private property.

I’m afraid you’ve rather given yourself away by looking down your nose at those who live in social housing as some generalised “lessers” than you and I suggest you climb down from your high horse!

Eh? I don’t look down at them at all. There’s a lady I speak to on the school run every morning who I get along with really well and she lives in social housing. So I’m more than happy to mix with them.

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TheNuthatch · 08/07/2025 21:37

ColinOfficeTrolley · 08/07/2025 21:28

I loved seeing both posters and knowing that deep down it didn't matter what they voted they still have Sunday roast on Sunday together

You r ally think people who have morally fundamental differences can be besties? Have to disagree with you there.

I could never eat Sunday lunch with a Farage loving Reform voter.

This is bonkers. I find your view bigoted and intolerant.
I'm on the right, my DH is on the left. We've been married for decades and even managed to produce children, gasp! We hold hands on our way to the polling station and everything.

JazzyJelly · 08/07/2025 21:37

I wouldn't think anything of their neighbours.

IwasDueANameChange · 08/07/2025 21:37

Tricky one. I think a mainstream poster goes unnoticed, especially at election time, but i definitely wouldn't buy a house if the next door neighbour had a big reform banner year round.

WhereIsMyJumper · 08/07/2025 21:36

ColinOfficeTrolley · 08/07/2025 21:33

Nah not really. It's how you end up with like minded people. That's not an echo chamber. That's just finding your people.

If you think that having the same fundamental views as your spouse and friends, is an 'echo chamber', then that's up to you.

You don't have to agree with absolutely everything those around you believe, but I do believe the importance of how you treat others, can be reflected in the company you keep.

So you think it’s impossible for a Tory voter and a Labour voter to be friends? That’s wild!

I have voted for both in my time - have also voted Lib Dem. Where does that leave me? Must I only select my friends by first checking with political party they align with?

CohortandCahoots · 08/07/2025 21:36

IonaJ · 08/07/2025 21:00

Yes it’s a Reform banner. Each to their own in terms of politics, but being the first thing you see when turning in to our street is not great. I feel sorry for any residents who are thinking about selling their house soon.

Unfortunately, the way things are going, it's not reprisals you need to fear.

Lmnop22 · 08/07/2025 21:35

Why do people think that it’s ok to be vocal about things they agree with but not things they don’t?

Your neighbour is entitled to support whichever political party they like and be as vocal and or visual in this case with that as they like on their private property.

I’m afraid you’ve rather given yourself away by looking down your nose at those who live in social housing as some generalised “lessers” than you and I suggest you climb down from your high horse!

WhereIsMyJumper · 08/07/2025 21:35

And a little cautionary tale from a politically homeless poster… be very careful with your stereotyping of Reform voters. The more you call them racist and thick, the more they’re likely to vote that way.
You won’t win hearts and minds by speaking to people like shit.

SteakBakesAndHotTakes · 08/07/2025 21:34

My neighbour has two giant Palestine flags outside. It's their choice on their property ultimately.

ColinOfficeTrolley · 08/07/2025 21:33

WhereIsMyJumper · 08/07/2025 21:29

This is how you end up in an echo chamber

Nah not really. It's how you end up with like minded people. That's not an echo chamber. That's just finding your people.

If you think that having the same fundamental views as your spouse and friends, is an 'echo chamber', then that's up to you.

You don't have to agree with absolutely everything those around you believe, but I do believe the importance of how you treat others, can be reflected in the company you keep.

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