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To be confused why DP didn’t tell me he had a drink with our neighbour?

54 replies

MellowSar · 08/07/2025 11:22

This may be me over thinking things but I’d welcome a second view.

My DP had a night out on Saturday and got home just after midnight. Yesterday, I saw one of our neighbours, a lady who lives across the street and she said hello and that my DP was a bit merry on Saturday and did he have a sore head the next day. I was in a rush and said he was a bit groggy.

When DP got home from work, I relayed her comments and he casually said ‘oh yeah, I bumped into her just as I was about to get a taxi so we shared one to split the cost and she invited me in for a night cap’.

AIBU to feel confused why he didn’t tell me about this himself? It’s not a neighbour we have socialised with before beyond pleasantries in the street!

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Bottleflag · 08/07/2025 11:25

Hmm. Maybe I'm a cynic, but I think she knew very well you didn't know...

FrenchandSaunders · 08/07/2025 11:25

seems a bit odd!

ToKittyornottoKitty · 08/07/2025 11:24

Do you think it’s inappropriate that we went in her house assuming they were both alone? Does he normally tell you who he drinks with?

ObtuseMoose · 08/07/2025 11:23

Are you confused or are you angry?