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Will this dress suit a plus size bridesmaid?

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Genok · 08/07/2025 08:03

I’m getting married next summer. Hoping to have that eclectic look for my bridesmaids - different colours but all cohesive. I’ve chosen tones of pink as I think that is romantic.

Im buying the dresses. I have one bridesmaid who is plus size (12). She has an hour glass figure. Will this dress suit her in your opinion?

I know not everyone likes the material but I do, thanks in advance for your input

Will this dress suit a plus size bridesmaid?
Will this dress suit a plus size bridesmaid?
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Genok · 08/07/2025 08:30

My friend has big bum, big booms and defined waist (I say this as a good thing)

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Genok · 08/07/2025 08:29

The dress is not sticking to any “bumps” on the second model. I think she looks wonderful

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Coffeeishot · 08/07/2025 08:29

Doidontimmm · 08/07/2025 08:05

A size 12 is not plus size?

This a 12 is average size, yes I think your dress will suit a 12.

TheFairPoet · 08/07/2025 08:28

It’s an ugly dress and if you think your friend is fat when she’s only a size 12 then you are not her friend.

Beeloux · 08/07/2025 08:28

I’m a 6-8 and dresses like the second one that synch in just under the boobs do nothing for me. If she’s an hourglass shape you want something that will be fitted at the waist. The first one should be fine.

Pottedpalm · 08/07/2025 08:28

Clingy satin is very difficult to wear. Any bumps, bulges and bones are highlighted. I have seen similar dresses on many sizes and they are universally unflattering.

BeachPossum · 08/07/2025 08:27

Why not just ask your friend if she likes it? I certainly wouldn't highlight the fact that she's plus size (which a size 12 isn't tbh) but you could send her the link and see what she thinks.

I wouldn't mind that cut or colour but I do really hate that fabric. It clings everywhere, and it creases instantly. I don't think they'll look nice if the bridesmaids have to travel in them at all, and as soon as they sit down it will be game over.

RhaenysRocks · 08/07/2025 08:27

Genok · 08/07/2025 08:16

But it looks amazing in the second photo. My friend is smaller than that model. Carries weight in an hour glass

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I don't think she does. If that was a photo of me I'd not be happy with it. That's the thing, adult bridesmaids should not be asked to wear a dress they dislike so really, regardless of what you ,I or any other person thinks, you need to ask the person who will be wearing it.

badwithnumbers · 08/07/2025 08:26

That material will be cheap and clingy. Don’t do it (for anyone!).

DrowningInSyrup · 08/07/2025 08:26

Genok · 08/07/2025 08:11

I personally thought the dress is flattering and feminine

I think it's absolutely beautiful.

Bboy1234 · 08/07/2025 08:26

Im plus size , it would be a cold day in hell before I would step out in public in that dress. I would honestly stand down as bridesmaid if it was expected of me.

The fabric, the colour, the fit are all so unflattering and it even looks a bit wrinkled on the models

notsochattysue · 08/07/2025 08:24

It’s annoying you think 12 is plus size. I bet she doesn’t know u think that!

Dontlletmedownbruce · 08/07/2025 08:23

That material will show up cellulite and every lump, definitely not for anyone not slim.

Have you met this bridesmaid or do you plan recruiting her online? Surely you ask her?

This thread is ridiculous. Any of us could post any pictures and ask if it suits us.

Sayshesheshe · 08/07/2025 08:23

I’m an hour glass size 12 and I’d hate that material as it shows every lump and bump

Regularmumandfriend · 08/07/2025 08:23

Hi OP
I would ask for this to be deleted as its triggering so many people. You won't get dress advice as the plus size comment is derailing everyone.

Magenta82 · 08/07/2025 08:22

Genok · 08/07/2025 08:09

English is my second language. Apologies

In what language or even universe is 12 plus sized?!

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Genok · 08/07/2025 08:21

PersephoneSeethes · 08/07/2025 08:20

You really hate all your bridesmaids, don’t you, OP?

The reason it’s on sale is that it looks shit on everyone who isn’t super thin and toned, with zero cellulite.

The whole company had a sale (I saw myself).

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dailygrowl · 08/07/2025 08:21

Genok · 08/07/2025 08:03

I’m getting married next summer. Hoping to have that eclectic look for my bridesmaids - different colours but all cohesive. I’ve chosen tones of pink as I think that is romantic.

Im buying the dresses. I have one bridesmaid who is plus size (12). She has an hour glass figure. Will this dress suit her in your opinion?

I know not everyone likes the material but I do, thanks in advance for your input

Are you using American sizing? UK size 12 is not plus size (quite slender in fact) unless the person is under 150cm tall. American size 12 is UK size 16 and although different brands vary in their sizing, according to statistics and the retail sector data, that is within normal sizing (and not plus size) in the UK too.

It's best to send your bridesmaids the photos and ask if they would like to wear the dresses. If you forward the pictures to them as photos on your phone, you will get quicker answers than waiting for Mumsnet. There's no point asking readers here as we aren't your bridesmaids, and they are the best judge of what they will look and feel good in.

IanStirlingrocks · 08/07/2025 08:20

Your bridesmaids are supposed to be the people closest to you. Why are you asking strangers on the internet rather than them?
Talk to them, they will have opinions on what suits them and what they feel comfortable in.

PersephoneSeethes · 08/07/2025 08:20

You really hate all your bridesmaids, don’t you, OP?

The reason it’s on sale is that it looks shit on everyone who isn’t super thin and toned, with zero cellulite.

TeenLifeMum · 08/07/2025 08:19

Genok · 08/07/2025 08:17

we are in the UK

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How on earth do you “accidentally” think UK size 12 is a plus size? Such a weird thread. Unless she’s 4foot tall, size 12 is a healthy size.

Blurrywateryeye · 08/07/2025 08:19

HolyPond · 08/07/2025 08:16

Still not ‘plus size’.

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Size 14 is considered plus size, when I was young most shops only ever went upto a size 16/18 then you had to go to places like Etam if you were bigger. Some clothing brands stop at size 14 now. Size 14 is not slim.

CarrotVan · 08/07/2025 08:18

It looks like a different dress in the second picture. The waistline hits at a different point and the cut of the bodice is different

but shiny satin is very unforgiving on most people

Everybodysinthehousetonight · 08/07/2025 08:18

That fabric and colour is unflattering on most people. I doubt any of your bridesmaids would like it. You cannot buy a dress for someone else to wear without them trying it on so suggest you buy them for all bridesmaids and ensure you have a return option.

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Genok · 08/07/2025 08:17

WhistlingStraits · 08/07/2025 08:16

I assume OP means US 12, which is a UK 16?

Anyway, that dress would highlight a large belly and arms, a less shiny material would help.

we are in the UK

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