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Will this dress suit a plus size bridesmaid?

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Genok · 08/07/2025 08:03

I’m getting married next summer. Hoping to have that eclectic look for my bridesmaids - different colours but all cohesive. I’ve chosen tones of pink as I think that is romantic.

Im buying the dresses. I have one bridesmaid who is plus size (12). She has an hour glass figure. Will this dress suit her in your opinion?

I know not everyone likes the material but I do, thanks in advance for your input

Will this dress suit a plus size bridesmaid?
Will this dress suit a plus size bridesmaid?
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Jonesboot · 08/07/2025 09:17

I'm a size 8 and honestly, I don't think it would flatter me. The material is going to show every line of underwear, and even the slightest bit of belly. I looks as if it's going to crease horribly too. As someone said above, if you're going for eclectic think about something more floaty, which will also be more likely to flatter different body shapes.

Leapintothelightning · 08/07/2025 09:16

As a size 12/14 with big hips/bum, that would look horrendous on me and I’d feel very self conscious in it, even with shapewear. I’d ask your bridesmaid but if she’s anything like me it will be a no!

Clearingaspace · 08/07/2025 09:11

Genok · 08/07/2025 08:39

I misspoke. I have apologised.

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Yes, you have apologised several times so best to ignore the comments about plus size and reply to those giving actual advice now. You haven’t replied to anyone suggesting you ask your friend their thoughts.

Your friend needs to try the dress on - that’s the only way to know if it is flattering. Also depending on your friends skin tone is, a pale pink fitted dress might make them look like they aren’t dressed from a distance or like an uncooked sausage given the straight design.

Kurkara · 08/07/2025 09:11

BriefHug · 08/07/2025 08:33

Are you doing that bridezilla thing of encasing your bridesmaids in shiny pink satin in order to make yourself look like a serene Cinderella attended by a pack of hefty creased sausages?

😆😂😅

OP, IMO the eclectic bridesmaid dress thing isn't usually done with these sorts of clingy satin dresses. You want boho floaty lawn in different prints or something.
I think a row of women in different coloured slinky dresses will look like a high school formal. It wouldn't make me think "eclectic."

MooFroo · 08/07/2025 09:08

If you’re getting married next year don’t buy dresses yet - other bridesmaids may get fatter, or thinner, or pregnant or whatever….

there will be plenty of other sales on before then so I’d wait to closer that time

Flamingoknees · 08/07/2025 09:06

Only get it if it can be promptly returned OP. If your friend has an iron board abs she may look fantastic. If she has any other type of abs her tummy will be highlighted, as per the skinny model. Will the colour suit? My friend put me in this colour and I looked awful (olive skinned brunette).

FanofLeaves · 08/07/2025 09:05

Wouldn’t be surprised if a bloke wrote this.

‘the dress is flattering and feminine’ 🤔

Westfacing · 08/07/2025 09:00

The promotional video shows the dresses to be hideously creased.

It's not a nice dress for anyone really.

Unorganisedchaos2 · 08/07/2025 08:57

A size 12 isn't plus sized, we've moved on from 2002 🙄

Unless that dress is lined or she wear's a slip it'll probably look awful, you'll be able to find a cheap dress that looks better than that.

Heronwatcher · 08/07/2025 08:55

Ask your friend or just give her the money instead of buying something for her. Personally I think it’s hideous and I’d look like an uncooked Richmond sausage in it but I’m not your friend.

KPPlumbing · 08/07/2025 08:54

The dress looks cheap and will be a crumpled mess in minutes.

SoManyDandelions · 08/07/2025 08:52

I'm a size 8 and would feel very self conscious in a pale satin dress.

PersephoneSeethes · 08/07/2025 08:52

Cosyblankets · 08/07/2025 08:41

In what language is size 12 plus size?

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In Asia size 12 is plus size. My school friends from Japan would diet like crazy at the end of term so they wouldn’t be fat for their return home.

elfendom1 · 08/07/2025 08:51

BriefHug · 08/07/2025 08:33

Are you doing that bridezilla thing of encasing your bridesmaids in shiny pink satin in order to make yourself look like a serene Cinderella attended by a pack of hefty creased sausages?

😂

4naans · 08/07/2025 08:50

Genok · 08/07/2025 08:09

But I think the second model who is bigger than my friend looks stunning

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That's edited and she'll be wearing spanx. The dress is incredibly clingy and a fabric and colour that will show bumps.
I don't really know many women that would be comfortable in a dress like that whether they are plus size or not.

PersephoneSeethes · 08/07/2025 08:47

Here are the dresses : billyj.com.au/products/selma-maxi-dress-dusty-pink

Morgenrot25 · 08/07/2025 08:46

Genok · 08/07/2025 08:42

Ok I have to leave thread. I made a mistake. I was hoping for on advice on good options to share with friend. Thank you to people who gave useful advice

You're getting advice -

  1. 12 isn't plus size in the UK
  2. the dresses aren't actually that nice
  3. the bridesmaids need to have more input
Could you ask each of them to find something they like - shape wise, not necessarily colour wise, and then see if there is a common thread among them/something that could work together, and then see about whether they'd come in some nice pinks that flow together - darker pinks may also be more flattering and slightly more structured/better quality dresses. Good luck!
pinkdelight · 08/07/2025 08:44

Morgenrot25 · 08/07/2025 08:38

OK, they are on clearance for a reason.

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Exactly! Not the best place to go for a nice bridesmaid dress.

EveryOtherNameTaken · 08/07/2025 08:43

Satin is not a flattering material on any size. It will show underwear lines and will cling.

Tantomile · 08/07/2025 08:43

You look at your size 12 friend...does she look plus size? Pink satin in a clearance sale - likely not to match the colour in photos and stick to every lump and bump.

PersephoneSeethes · 08/07/2025 08:42

Blurrywateryeye · 08/07/2025 08:39

I think your issue was calling a size 12 plus size rather than the dresses. Unusually reaction to have to a dress .

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Im deducing that the OP is Australian-Asian, and therefore size 12 would be plus sized for them.

Morgenrot25 · 08/07/2025 08:42

It is perhaps a plus size in American sizing, though they mostly speak English too (or Spanish).

Blondebrownorred · 08/07/2025 08:42

Samiloff · 08/07/2025 08:33

Size 12 absolutely is slim unless the woman is very short. If you think it isn’t, you have a warped sense of reality.

The average size of UK women is size 16.

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Size 12 definitely is not slim regardless of how many other people are bigger. I agree size 12 isn't plus size but in no way is it slim.

pinkdelight · 08/07/2025 08:42

That material is bad, sorry, and going to look cheap and crumpled on most women whatever size. The haven't even managed to get to the creases out for the promo pix.

Lafufufu · 08/07/2025 08:42

The dresses are flammable cheap and horrible looking. It’s even crumpled in the advertising photos with the tanned women

you should also give your bridesmaids input not just present them with a dress

what’s your budget?