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Crap friend

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PerkyOchrePeer · 07/07/2025 22:43

I went on holiday last year and met up with a friend of a friend. I didnt really know her but was grateful that she offered to show me around. We didnt have much in common but rubed along ok. I thought she was a bit full on with her behaviour and wondered if she was gay. After the holiday, we went our seperate ways and i sent her the odd fìendly wassap message to which she replied to but in a cold polite but not that friend manner. The last couple of messages she totally ignored so i have now deleted her from my phone and wont be messaging her again.

I was annoyed at first because i have made an effort to remain on friendlý terms

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PerkyOchrePeer · 24/07/2025 15:43

KimMumsnet · 24/07/2025 14:38

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KimMumsnet · 24/07/2025 14:38

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CalicoPusscat · 24/07/2025 14:34

It really won't help her staying?? She doesn't like the idea of going through things in a professional setting

FlipFlopShopInHawaii · 24/07/2025 14:33

PerkyOchrePeer · 24/07/2025 14:08

Dear all in this thread. I am sick of your snide comments. You are all bullies who nèd to watch how you treat people. You think this affects me, well it doesn't. I. Having a good laugh. I feel soŕy for you all. Good riddance

I'm sorry you feel that way.

I think if you re-read the thread again in a calm manner, you will see that most people are only trying to help. But first of all you need to help yourself. Calling people names and stropping off isn't helping at all.

OriginalUsername2 · 24/07/2025 14:24

Mumsnet can you remove this thread pls.

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PerkyOchrePeer · 24/07/2025 14:08

Dear all in this thread. I am sick of your snide comments. You are all bullies who nèd to watch how you treat people. You think this affects me, well it doesn't. I. Having a good laugh. I feel soŕy for you all. Good riddance

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FlipFlopShopInHawaii · 24/07/2025 13:57

PerkyOchrePeer · 24/07/2025 13:52

What about my dad and his mugno that was posted by someone else. My dad died 14 years ago and my mum died 8 years ago

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See to me, this is a weird way to answer.
Rather than say someone else was posting about your dad and good mugs.... surely the reply is... That's not me. Someone else has a similar user name.

I don't think you and that poster are one and the same person. I do think you both need therapy to discuss issues with social interactions.

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PerkyOchrePeer · 24/07/2025 13:54

Also my parents never used mugs. Only cups abd saucers

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PerkyOchrePeer · 24/07/2025 13:52

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What about my dad and his mugno that was posted by someone else. My dad died 14 years ago and my mum died 8 years ago

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PerkyOchrePeer · 24/07/2025 13:34

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What about my dad? I don't recall writing about hin

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PerkyOchrePeer · 24/07/2025 12:37

It's not a wind up. It's what I genuinely think of the people who give so called advice and think they know enough about the person to suggest they are lonely 🙁

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And all the great advice you have had that people have taken time to post, which you've ignored?

You've taken none of it on board, you are extremely frustrating and it's really not hard to see why you struggle with friendships. Harsh? Yes. True? Also yes

CalicoPusscat · 24/07/2025 12:39

You said you were going to leave. Then you came back.

It's confusing about which 'friend' you are on about. You don't listen to anyone on this thread. Apparently we're 'bullies' for not validating your way of thinking, whatever it is as it's not clear to me.

Do you not think you would benefit from a professional environment to go through everything?

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PerkyOchrePeer · 24/07/2025 12:37

Idontjetwashthefucker · 24/07/2025 12:32

Really? That's what you've taken from this thread. You seriously have got to be taking the piss now and on the wind up

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It's not a wind up. It's what I genuinely think of the people who give so called advice and think they know enough about the person to suggest they are lonely 🙁

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Idontjetwashthefucker · 24/07/2025 12:32

PerkyOchrePeer · 24/07/2025 12:27

I will say this for the last time..I am not lonely.i think mumsnet is full of patronising bullies and if I met amy of you in real life,i would not give you the time of day

Really? That's what you've taken from this thread. You seriously have got to be taking the piss now and on the wind up

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PerkyOchrePeer · 24/07/2025 12:27

I will say this for the last time..I am not lonely.i think mumsnet is full of patronising bullies and if I met amy of you in real life,i would not give you the time of day

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PerkyOchrePeer · 24/07/2025 12:17

TwinklyNight · 24/07/2025 10:37

She was just showing you a pleasant visit while you were there out of courtesy and she probably had fun herself. But for a good time not a long time. If she was hoping to hook up with you but didn't, that could be why she isn't interested. Don't worry about it you just are differant in you had expectations of a friendship that would continue, her expectations were you'd go back home and that would be that.

I'm no longer talking about her. I'm talking the second person I met in Australia who also showed me rpund

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Wellwater · 24/07/2025 10:56

WaitedBlankey · 24/07/2025 10:23

Absolutely!
@PerkyOchrePeer , no, Mumsnet is not an advice platform although sometimes it is used that way. Your rigid thinking is creating obstacles that don't need to be there.

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Yes, this. OP, you’ve decided Mn is a certain thing, therefore the people on it should respond to you in a certain way that you have decided is the correct one, given your very rigid idea about what an ‘advice platform’ should do. This is another example of your incredibly rigid thinking and lack of theory of mind.

There are millions of users on Mn with their own priorities and preferences. Some do use it as a source of parenting advice, but there are huge numbers of people who only post on chicken keeping, creative writing, weightloss, who enjoy watching people start fights on AIBU, or complain about bad grammar in Pedants’ Corner. I’ve been on here since 2011, but think I’ve only ever posted once asking for advice, when my toddler became ill when we were somewhere remote on holiday.

But you’ve in fact had good advice from many posters on here. You’re simply not ready to listen to it.

TwinklyNight · 24/07/2025 10:37

She was just showing you a pleasant visit while you were there out of courtesy and she probably had fun herself. But for a good time not a long time. If she was hoping to hook up with you but didn't, that could be why she isn't interested. Don't worry about it you just are differant in you had expectations of a friendship that would continue, her expectations were you'd go back home and that would be that.

OriginalUsername2 · 24/07/2025 10:24

WaitedBlankey · 24/07/2025 10:23

Absolutely!
@PerkyOchrePeer , no, Mumsnet is not an advice platform although sometimes it is used that way. Your rigid thinking is creating obstacles that don't need to be there.

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She can’t help it. We can’t help here, it’s going round in circles.

WaitedBlankey · 24/07/2025 10:23

Wellwater · 24/07/2025 09:53

There you go again. You’ve decided Mn is primarily an ‘advice platform’. Fair enough. But that doesn’t in any way mean that the advice won’t ever be ‘You need to see a professional.’ And if you came on here looking for advice, why not take it?

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Absolutely!
@PerkyOchrePeer , no, Mumsnet is not an advice platform although sometimes it is used that way. Your rigid thinking is creating obstacles that don't need to be there.