Crap friend

What country were you in ? Different cultures can sometimes be incredibly polite and take responsibilities for people's friends/families very seriously. While you were there she felt like it was her responsibility to make sure you were happy/cared for.

It sounds like, from what you've said, you might have been hard work and stand offish due to your concern that she was attracted to you and once her responsibility to you while you were in her country was over, she saw no need to continue contact. Especially as you yourself admit you did not get on that well despite this women going out of her way to offer you hospitality.

You are way over thinking this. It sounds like you don't have many friends, so perhaps you have the wish/expectation that every social interaction might lead to a friendship. That's not usually the case. Only a few of our interactions lead to lasting friendships. The majority are as you describe, ie you will have a perfectly pleasant time together but don't have enough in common to sustain a lasting friendship.

I think this is the issue. Most people don't want to be in someone's social circle just for the sake of it and because they're 'better than nothing'. Maintaining friendships takes time and effort and is only really worth it for someone you actually like. You and this woman didn't really like one another. For her that means she's not interested in bringing you into her social circle, whereas you were still wanting to do that because you want more friends.

I think you're right that you need to focus on people you have a real connection with and actually like.

Kindly, I think you need to work on yourself. It sounds like you feel rejected by this person but rather than just accept that not everyone wants to be friends with you but can still be polite and friendly, you have turned quite nasty about her.

You sound very difficult to put it mildly. You didn’t like her, you’re criticising her for doing a nice thing (showing you round and inviting you to stay) you didn’t get on very well and found her “too full on”, but you’re now annoyed she doesn’t want to remain in contact? Make it make sense! She gave up her time to show you around and offered for you to stay with her because, oh I don’t know, she’s a generous person. But you seem to resent that. Now you feel like this person you don’t seem to respect or like owes you friendship. It’s all very skewed.

If you feel you’re lacking in a social circle, I mean this nicely, but have you had a real examination of your own behaviour because the way you’re coming across here (critical, entitled, resentful) doesn’t scream “person people want to be friends with”.

Do you often get social signals mixed up OP? The way you're talking suggests reading social signs and situations is difficult for you? I'm wondering if that's played a part here.

It just seems a bit of a non event OP. You met through circumstance, she showed you around a place but you didn't really gel very well, you sent a few texts when you got home and it's fizzled out. These things happen. It wasn't like she was a close friend who ghosted you, it was just an acquaintanceship that never went any further.

I'd stop fretting about wasted time. How long did sending a few texts take you anyway? Stewing about it is just giving it headspace it doesn't deserve.

OP you don't seem to be taking on board anyone's comments.

She was nice to you, you found her too full on, but you want to en friends. Why? It's okay that she doesn't and I'm assuming she doesn't live near you anyway.

But it’s still not clear why you’re annoyed she doesn’t want to keep in touch?

Why expect a complete stranger to spend their time on WhatsApp keeping you entertained?

What effort do you feel you put in after the trip? I thought it was only a few WhatsApp messages.

I think you’re feeling a bit stung, she seemed to like you because she put herself out and complimented you whilst you were there…but now you’re home she’s not actually that bothered.

Just a thought Op, how did you thank her for her time and effort whilst you were on holiday? Did you say thank you, but her a meal or a gift? If not she may feel that you went to a lot of effort and you didn’t say thanks 🤷🏽‍♀️

But you didn’t like her. You said she was too much. Why are you bothered? She has clearly go the message. Move on.

Did you go in the trip to exclusively make friends with this person. I really don’t understand your upset. She isn’t a friend. She is an acquaintance.

I agree with the person that said she's not a crap friend, she was a really great acquaintance for the time that it was useful.

Why are you trying to pursue a friendship with someone that you don't really like all that much? (Evidence: you don't have that much in common, you thought she was a bit full on and you think her replies were cold).

Sorry op, she's just not that into you. She did a nice thing for you, but she doesn't want to be your friend or your lover. And that should be ok! She doesn't owe you friendship.

Yes. She was just being polite and welcoming but doesn't want to develop a friendship by the sound of it.

Do you fancy her? Is that the real issue here?

She wasn’t a friend, you thought she was full on and gay and now pissed off she isn't being friendly enough 🤣 okay

She was being friendly because since her friend likes you she thought you might be fun. It turns out, she doesn't like you much. She fulfilled her obligations by showing you around but she isn't interested in friendship.

It's not difficult.

@PerkyOchrePeer is anything else wrong? It seems like you were expecting too much.

Try not to take it out on the friend who introduced you

I’m not sure what the problem is or why you feel annoyed by it.
You were brought together through circumstance, namely the holiday, not because you gel naturally.
And you give the impression that you were merely tolerating her, so maybe she picked up on that.
I’m really not sure as none of us were there.