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'Use your words' GET TO FUCK

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partyetiquette · 07/07/2025 16:51

Directed at the twats on here who patronisingly say it to posters
"Why did you not use your words"
"Use your words"
Use my foot up your arse you patronising twat

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Hankunamatata · 07/07/2025 17:10

partyetiquette · 07/07/2025 17:04

But when you take the option to admonish someone and treat them like a child because you are making a point which you think is very clever, it just makes you look like a cunt

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And sweary posts make people look like ignorant twats...........

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partyetiquette · 07/07/2025 17:04

Hankunamatata · 07/07/2025 17:02

Because some people act like children in their posts and expect people to be mind readers

But when you take the option to admonish someone and treat them like a child because you are making a point which you think is very clever, it just makes you look like a cunt

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Hankunamatata · 07/07/2025 17:02

Because some people act like children in their posts and expect people to be mind readers

KillerMounjaro · 07/07/2025 17:01

Candlemidnight · 07/07/2025 16:57

So why dont people use their fucking words?

"My DH doesnt read my mind and know that I like roses and hate violets. I've never told him I feel this way"

Use your fucking words and tell him

Why are they “their” words or “your” words?

It sounds so infantile - is that meant to be the point - that it’s a really patronising thing to say - as if the person you’re saying it to is a 2 year-old who only knows a few words and they should have a go at using them?

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partyetiquette · 07/07/2025 17:01

HappiestSleeping · 07/07/2025 17:00

I always found it odd too. It's another modernism like "you do you" which in my head basically means "I think I am correct, and you are not, but crack on".

Yeah
Or
'Do what you like'

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holysmokee · 07/07/2025 17:01

It’s such a frustrating and condescending phrase, I don’t even say it to toddlers, however there are a lot of people on here that cannot assert themselves and I understand why it gets thrown around.

Its genuinely worrying the number of people that cannot advocate for themselves in the moment but run online to complain about non issues.

Uricon2 · 07/07/2025 17:01

Thanks OP, I thought I was alone in finding it extremely irritating!

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partyetiquette · 07/07/2025 17:00

TheChosenTwo · 07/07/2025 16:57

Haha you’ve used yours quite effectively!

But there are a series of posts by totally wet lettuces who refuse to say a word at the time yet come and foam at the mouth on MN about a situation that would have been swiftly resolved at the time if they’d bothered to speak up. I’ve never used the term ‘use your words’ but it does seem appropriate sometimes given it’s what you’d say to a toddler who’s struggling to say what they want!

Yes the advice is appropriate but talk to people like adults

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HappiestSleeping · 07/07/2025 17:00

I always found it odd too. It's another modernism like "you do you" which in my head basically means "I think I am correct, and you are not, but crack on".

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partyetiquette · 07/07/2025 16:58

Candlemidnight · 07/07/2025 16:56

So why dont people use their fucking words?

"My DH doesnt read my mind and know that I like roses and hate violets. I've never told him I feel this way"

Use your fucking words and tell him

It's the phrase "use your words" it's designed for children , you could say to another adult
"Why don't you have a conversation"
Or
"Listen mate, just fucking tell him"

Use your words is infantilising

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JudgeBread · 07/07/2025 16:58

Same level of wit as "did you mean to be so rude?" With a head tilt and tinkly laugh thrown in for good measure.

The irony being that these are the same people who don't answer their doors or phones if they're not expecting anyone for fear of having to engage in an unexpected conversation.

BastardesEverywhere · 07/07/2025 16:58

Use my foot up your arse you patronising twat

😂😂😂👏👏

Candlemidnight · 07/07/2025 16:57

Oohhh I got a duplicate post, maybe my keyboard bashing was too forceful :-D

TheChosenTwo · 07/07/2025 16:57

Haha you’ve used yours quite effectively!

But there are a series of posts by totally wet lettuces who refuse to say a word at the time yet come and foam at the mouth on MN about a situation that would have been swiftly resolved at the time if they’d bothered to speak up. I’ve never used the term ‘use your words’ but it does seem appropriate sometimes given it’s what you’d say to a toddler who’s struggling to say what they want!

Candlemidnight · 07/07/2025 16:57

So why dont people use their fucking words?

"My DH doesnt read my mind and know that I like roses and hate violets. I've never told him I feel this way"

Use your fucking words and tell him

Candlemidnight · 07/07/2025 16:56

So why dont people use their fucking words?

"My DH doesnt read my mind and know that I like roses and hate violets. I've never told him I feel this way"

Use your fucking words and tell him

Flashout · 07/07/2025 16:55

YANBU

gottalottodo · 07/07/2025 16:54

Yes! Well said!!!!

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partyetiquette · 07/07/2025 16:54

Swiftie1878 · 07/07/2025 16:52

Well, your words are quite spicy! 😂

😂😂😂

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Swiftie1878 · 07/07/2025 16:52

Well, your words are quite spicy! 😂

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