Went down husband’s phone

It's not normal male banter though, it's not ok.

Of course it's self explanatory but how what when why is that phrase ever used? Lol Is it something said up north or something?

This. It’s normal male banter. Those who snoop always end up feeling worse off.

No she hasn't.

I'm always surprised at the outrage on here when women find out what their partners have been doing by looking at their phones when the disloyal behaviour that is revealed by the snooping is just swept under the carpet as irrelevant.

Can you really not figure that one out for yourself?

Is your partner secretive with his phone? Keeps it very close, closes apps/chats if you are near by?

I’m definitely female, and also think looking through someone’s phone is bang out of order.

If you have such mistrust, justified or otherwise, split up.

I would leave my partner if I even felt I had the need to look through his things, because it would be an obvious sign something is wrong.

Grim. Really really grim. Of him.

Pretty obvious what this means

Completely up to you, obviously, but I could not be with someone who was so emotionally stunted or recklessly unprofessional (to be texting that), let alone someone who objectifies women as sex objects. How would that woman feel if she knew? What would his manager say? Let alone the admission that he could have possibly tried it on with others during your marriage.

Nope. He's a horrible creep.

Some.men behave like this, they are unreasonable creeps and too many women laugh it off. It's absolutely not funny.

The sharing of the photo is proper shit and would be the thing that I would be most pissed off about. No its not fine, I am not condoning it, but the message itself, well it wasn't quite that crude was it? He said 'are you going to go for it?' or something like that, not 'are you going to try and fuck her then?' He said no. But lads being lads he probably isn't going to say he won't go for it because he is happily married, or he will look like a dick in front of his mate. So he says, its because he is too senior (or whatever it was) Doesn't mean he would or has done anything.

So yes, it seemed more like lad banter to me. Stupid immature lads banter, I agree, but banter all the same.

From what she discovered, there is no proof he did cheat, or would have. I am not defending him, but people are so quick to jump to conclusions on here and just claim the OP should LTB.

People say stupid stuff sometimes and make cheeky comments in jest, but it doesn't necessarily mean they want to do it.

Its up to the OP what she does with the info she has discovered and how much it bothers her. If she thinks he has cheated then she should confront him with the messages and see what his reaction is.

That’s up to you. If a woman posted about her partner regularly checking her phone to make sure she wasn’t cheating, the responses would be very different.

What do u mean by the term 'down' his phone?

And for what it's worth, every man I've known who was willing to banter like this (I'm male), was also willing to cheat.

Agree! Presume it’s the husband under several alias’ sending the first few replies! 🤦🏻‍♀️

No, I'd say cheating is worse. But both would be an instant relationship ender for me.

They're called men. But dickheads is a better fit.

You're on the wrong forum if you want to know how men think!

Maybe give the poor woman a heads up then and tell her to go through your phone.

I think it’s just typical male banter and just wishful thinking and being stupid with your friend. Male bravado. I’d let this one go. Iy
ts just bullshit talk, they talk shit like this with certain friends and differently with other people.

I've literally never heard the expression to "go down" someone's phone instead of "go through". Is it a regional thing? (I know this is not the point of the thread but previous comments have pretty much covered it!)

Penis. He's basically saying he'd sleep with her