Went down husband’s phone

YES IT IS. That doesn't mean OP or any other domestic partner (who isn't engaging in coercive control) would be prosecuted under this legislation because it would be disproportionate and not in the public interest to do so.

Divorce. It's a zero tolerance policy for this type of shit in my relationship.

Oh. Dear. God. Here, let me make it easy for you since you seem to struggle with anything computer-related:
"Yes, a mobile phone, particularly a smartphone, is indeed considered a computer. It possesses the fundamental characteristics of a computer: it takes input, processes information, and provides output. Smartphones have a central processing unit (CPU), memory (RAM and storage), and run software (apps) to perform various tasks. While they differ in form factor and user interface from traditional desktop or laptop computers, they share the core functionality of a computer."
So, unless you're using a Nokia 3310, or a similar old "dumb" phone, you have a COMPUTER in your back pocket!!! 🙄
And you know absolutely NOTHING about the law as your posts have proven. No-one has suggested that OP would be prosecuted under either piece of relevant legislation - it would be disproportionate and not in the public interest to do so.

Not it is not.

There's a difference between what your husband is doing versus what the OP is doing.

You weren't having an affair. Your husband took something out of context and even when you explained, he didn't believe you, which is why he's still bringing it up now.

That's not the same as when someone just knows it instinctively that something is going on and so faced with an uncommunicative/tendency towards lying partner they go through the phone. Whether they find evidence then and there or whether they find out at a later date that there's an affair, the issue is that there always is something and their instincts weren't wrong.

Nobody advocates going through a partner's phone on a regular basis to check up on them "just in case". That's controlling behaviour.

You should be able to change your password without fear of reprisals. You shouldn't be treading on eggshells, knowing your partner will go through your phone and worrying about them taking something out of context again. That's not normal or ok.

Change your password. If your partner blows up about not being able to access your phone, LTB. If he uses verbal or emotional abuse to force you to give him your new password, LTB. If he brings up the thing from before again, tell him he either trusts you or he doesn't, so either you move forward and he never mentions it again or you split up. Trust, once broken, has to be re-earned, but you didn't do anything so that doesn't apply here. So either he lets it go, whatever it was he saw, or you split up. Because what's happening currently with your situation is an unhealthy relationship and he's being controlling. You shouldn't stay with these dynamics, it's not good for you.

A mobile phone is used for making phone calls. Computers (which includes PCs/desktops, laptops and tablets aren't for making phone calls. They are two entirely different things.

@PulpKitchen do up know her name ?
Do you know how to access apps that may be Hidden? Search her name .

Id ask for full access to his phone in front of him .
He has said stuff to make you not be able to trust
Have you ever had a reason to think he was cheating before ? Usually the gutt feeling leads to cheating ( not every case )

You either trust him or not . If you don’t then leave.

@PulpKitchen The start of the script ? Bed mouthing the wife .
He appears to be able to open up and talk about certain things though doesn’t he . Like his attraction to a younger female .

I agree op he didn’t mention his marriage status just his work position .

Now a change in behaviour .
Tbh you deserve better

I agree. At no point have I said otherwise.

@ByGreenHiker Yes, we all know OP wouldn't even be spoken to by the police, much less arrested, charged and prosecuted. The only reason this side discussion started is because a PP asked if it was a crime and another PP confirmed that it was, which you'd know if you:d read the quote history. Neither of these PPs has suggested that OP should be in fear of being prosecuted. 🙄

@Sundaycrunch 😆🤣 I was thinking this too, missing the whole point of the thread - go down someone’s phone, odd.

I'm pretty sure sending a photo of a work colleague to a mate, without colleagues consent, carries a few legal issues too. Especially in the context it was sent and the fact that the sender is senior to the colleague. This might be seen as more serious than a quick snoop through a phone!

Er, YES it is! And you really don't understand the legislation - it is NOT restricted to "hackers" - it applies to EVERYONE within this jurisdiction.

Lol. According to that logic, it would only be immoral to break into someone’s home if you actually stole something.

I totally agree, but it's still a crime.

You do know mobile phones are small computing devices, right? And the link isn't to an article, but to the legislation which covers EVERYONE within the jurisdiction of England and Wales (and specifically includes domestic settings). So yes, it is a crime to access someone else's mobile phone (including your intimate partner's) without their authorisation (breaching their privacy under the Data Protection Act 2018 would also apply). This legislation could be relied upon in the prosecution of, for example, a perpetrator of coercive control, but as most people would agree, OP isn't going to find herself in court because she technically broke this law as it simply wouldn't be in the public interest to prosecute her.

'Laughing' at people like this poster who thinks the OP is the bad one here.

The only time it's immoral to snoop is if the other party is innocent. Which the husband clearly is not.

But all the cheating types will do the whole outraged thing about invasion of privacy and what not.

What do you think a computer is? Do you think a mobile phone doesn’t qualify because it isn’t tied to a desk? Does that mean laptops and tablets aren’t computers?

Quite. These people are batshit crazy and have no idea what a computer is, let alone the law.

Quite. Wanna be lawyers who think they're being smart looking up a statute on the internet without even being able to quote a particular subsection, or any of the nuances around it are just a joke.

Actual lawyers and actual police officers know the real deal.

Spying is what MI5 do.

Even if this is just men’s banter, it’s such horrible banter. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who says such horrible things.

Jeezo, I was in the police for a while, and my DH is still a police officer, some 20 years in. NO ONE gives a shit if a spouse looks through a phone. No one is coming for that, in fact you'd be laughed off the phone. They are dealing with stabbings, shootings, robberies, cot deaths.....but yeah, let's take 2 officers off the street to have a word with Sharon, cos she looked at Dave's phone. 😂

• His friend: Are you going to try it on?
• Husband: No, a few years ago maybe, but I’m more senior than her at work now, so can’t overstep the line. She’s so sweet though (aubergine emoji)

This is the absolute worst part for me. That his response is that he won't try it on due to his position at work and NOT because he's married!!!!

I agree you shouldn't have snooped but what's done is done and I wouldn't be able to get over this. Banter or not.