To think about writing a book around my crazy life?!

Good grief OP

But @itsokayokay , @Sweetcorn81 really wasn’t nasty, and I do call out needless spite on here.

That’s my take too.

I normally say to my colleague ' oh you should write a book' because she does not shut up. I literally couldn't know more about her so called dramatic life and I do not care any more. Not saying this is the situation for you but ..

Generally a book based on real life has to have a unique (or at least an unusual) selling point - unless the author is already famous, such as a film or music star. Something like the Salt Path for example which I know has been discredited, but it sold millions and was turned into a film. From what little you've said, your life doesn't sound any more fascinating or "crazier" than countless others. "You should write a book" is well worn expression when hearing about other people's triumphs or travails. Very few people actually have a sufficiently worthy story to tell and even fewer are accepted by publishers. You might have better luck creating a blog of some kind as a helpful tool for others and a cathartic exercise for yourself.

@baileys6904 to be honest I thought the replies were nicer than I expected.

I know the OP doesn’t like it but there isn’t anything spiteful in nicely pointing out the colleague probably said ‘goodness me, you should write a book!’ in an attempt to stop the conversation. It’s the sort of thing I’d say in an attempt to be kind!

Cruel approach

i came back at 11.30pm
she proceeded to launch in to very detailed chapter and verse history of her life
I’d met the woman twice
so I listened for a bit, told her she should write a book, nudged her to the front door, handed over the money and she left think she was the next JK Rowling

like someone else….

Fuck me, the vipers of mumsnet are bored today.

OP, it doesn't sound like youre in it for money, or fame but more as a enjoyment task. If so, what have you got to lose. People might buy it, people might not, but until you write it, who bloody knows.

I'd suggest writing first few chapters, bit of a synopsis and then chat gpt options. Whether Self publishing or not, this would be the basics youd need anyway.

Best of luck

Just do it anyway?

Write it for how cathartic and therapeutic it'd be to write it. Write it because you love to write. Take your time and just do it for fun. If it ends up being a great novel then that's amazing, if not you still wrote a book and that's pretty darn cool.

I took part in NaNoWriMo one year and wrote a book. I've never done anything with it but it was so fun to write and very therapeutic. I don't think there's an official NaNoWriMo anymore but I'm sure there's plenty of online communities that still do write-along challenges similar to it.

Sometimes I suggest people should write a book about what they are telling me as a way of switching the conversation a little.

I’d prefer to make it more fiction based, with a storyline following my life events.

Most authors of this genre of book self-publish, which is a good option these days. Lots of publishers out there such as Austin Macauley who provide various degrees of support. Sales are typically very low, unless you are very active on SM and drum up interest.
Lulu and Amazon are good platforms for doing everything yourself.
For writing and editing advice I would recommend Reedsy. You might also visit the London Book Fair, which lots of first time authors attend.
Agents and publishers are very hard to attract. Many agents will work with authors who have attended prestigious writing courses.
Also look into writing groups in your local area.
Good luck.

And this is your response to someone saying don’t bother

good luck op. Brace yourself if
you’re this sensitive!

You are a copywriter ?!

She did though, because the woman was trauma dumping on her after meeting twice, and at 11:30pm. So she was made to know far too much about what the woman had gone through.

I get it, I used to do it too until I knew better.

I don't want to be mean although I can't really find a polite way of saying this but what you say here ' Ive wasted SO much of my life on the wrong person, and im now learning to find myself again. It’s been a journey!' it's really not a unique Maybe if you're a celebrity But even then these stories are 10 a penny. your turn of phrase learning to find myself and it's been a journey are really cliched.
Why not attempt to write the book as a form of therapy and if and when you finish it see if anybody's put interested in publishing it or self publish it. alternatively somebody else made a suggestion about using some of your experiences but presenting it as a fictional story So a Crime Story which involves a narcissist - that way you can use events that you know things about but make them character driven.

Sadly, I do. She chewed half my ear off before I said about writing the book.

and off she trotted glowing with happiness.

i suspect like yourself op

What’s the harm in having a go? It would be an interesting experience even if it goes nowhere.

It IS a common story but my favourite books aren’t always about the story, I love the style of writing, the descriptions, the characters.

Do you think your experiences would help and advise other women/people?

I don’t know how you would market it?

one thought I had is you could create an Instagram page and do short videos (2-4 minutes) and explain certain topics and how you overcame it, if that’s relevant.

im following a woman on Instagram who escaped a narcissistic ex, and she does short videos. It has heprd
me understand a lot and if she did a book I might consider buying it