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To ask DH to no go away for weekend

206 replies

Pt4ever · 07/07/2025 10:50

Hello,

I'll keep it brief.

DH is going away to an event in a few weeks for a night away I've no interest in the event (airshow 🙄🥱🥱) he went last year and had another weekend away doing something else in the winter of 2024

We've one DS who he's arranged childcare for with ho parents and worked overtime to pay for all travel/ hotel and tickets. I just feel like I don't really get a chance to go away for my hobbies, he's always said I can go away and we can afford it but it feels weird me up and going away for the weekend.

To ask him not to go? How would I explain it?

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ShamrockShenanigans · 07/07/2025 12:39

Rosecoffeecup · 07/07/2025 12:38

Surely this is a reverse

If it is, I wish HQ would ban them.

But yes, it sounds likely.

dijonketchup · 07/07/2025 12:39

Is there nowhere you want to go, OP? Friends you want to visit? Go walking? Spa day? Do a course you’re interested in? Day by the beach? It’s important for both parents to retain a sense of self and to remember what it’s like to do things by, with and for yourself.

Rosecoffeecup · 07/07/2025 12:38

Surely this is a reverse

dogcatkitten · 07/07/2025 12:37

Why not go, you might enjoy it and you could have a nice evening meal and if you don't go to the event you could go sight seeing or shopping and meet up later.

CandyCane457 · 07/07/2025 12:32

Massively unreasonable. Why should he miss out on a nice weekend away just because YOU don’t want to go on a separate weekend away too? That jsut sounds so controlling. Let him go. Not that he should need your permission.

TheLemonLemur · 07/07/2025 12:31

Surely a reverse? If not YABVVVU. He's worked overtime, arranged the childcare and tells u to go and do things for yourself but because you feel weird he should never go away without you ever again? It's quite normal to not spend every minute with each other and to have your own interests. You say you don't get a chance for your hobbies but you can you just don't want to

JLou08 · 07/07/2025 12:31

I'd be over the moon if my DH arranged childcare and took himself off for the weekend. A weekend alone sounds like bliss! I'd be booking myself a spa break.

whitewineandsun · 07/07/2025 12:31

Cherrytree86 · 07/07/2025 12:13

@Pt4ever

i agree Op, once you have kids you should never have a weekend away. Hobbies are for pre- children life. It’s just not what parents do.

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Please let this be sarcasm.

EDIT: Hard to know on here.

Alltheyellowbirds · 07/07/2025 12:31

Are the grandparents taking the child for the whole weekend? If so, why don’t you go away too. Or if they’re just taking them for one day why don’t you spend it doing whatever your favourite things are so that you’ve had a treat also.

ilovesooty · 07/07/2025 12:30

ultraviolet4753 · 07/07/2025 12:28

I'd go and have him drop me off at a shopping centre or similar before he went to the airshow. Meet back up in the afternoon.
Yabu

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She'd be there for a long time. He's going to be staying overnight.

ShamrockShenanigans · 07/07/2025 12:29

I'm not really sure what this OP is up to here?

ultraviolet4753 · 07/07/2025 12:28

I'd go and have him drop me off at a shopping centre or similar before he went to the airshow. Meet back up in the afternoon.
Yabu

ilovesooty · 07/07/2025 12:28

I don't think I've ever seen anything so unreasonable on here. I feel sorry for the husband who doesn't seem to have done anything wrong.

Megifer · 07/07/2025 12:28

What?

have you missed out a load of key info?

Or is it literally as you've posted, which is "I don't want to go away so I don't want DH to either?"

gingerbizcuit · 07/07/2025 12:26

This is unreasonable of you, it's one night! And he'd have no problem with you doing the same, you said. You feeling 'weird' about doing that is your issue, many people do it. It's healthy to carve out some time for your own hobbies!

FlipFlopShopInHawaii · 07/07/2025 12:25

Cherrytree86 · 07/07/2025 12:22

👍 You absolutely are right!

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Phew 🤣

Some days you just don't know on here!

positivebutnegative · 07/07/2025 12:22

You are not just being unreasonable, you are being cruel OP.

Cherrytree86 · 07/07/2025 12:22

FlipFlopShopInHawaii · 07/07/2025 12:17

I am reading this with a healthy dose of sarcasm I just hope it's meant that way!

Snap @VickyEadieofThigh 😁

Please say we're right @Cherrytree86 🙏

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👍 You absolutely are right!

JudgeBread · 07/07/2025 12:19

I mean you're so obviously being a massive brat that I have to believe this is just a rage bait thread.

Tiredandtiredagain · 07/07/2025 12:17

You can’t explain it, it’s totally unreasonable!

FlipFlopShopInHawaii · 07/07/2025 12:17

Cherrytree86 · 07/07/2025 12:13

@Pt4ever

i agree Op, once you have kids you should never have a weekend away. Hobbies are for pre- children life. It’s just not what parents do.

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I am reading this with a healthy dose of sarcasm I just hope it's meant that way!

Snap @VickyEadieofThigh 😁

Please say we're right @Cherrytree86 🙏

VickyEadieofThigh · 07/07/2025 12:17

Cherrytree86 · 07/07/2025 12:13

@Pt4ever

i agree Op, once you have kids you should never have a weekend away. Hobbies are for pre- children life. It’s just not what parents do.

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I do hope you're being sarcastic here...

CopperWhite · 07/07/2025 12:16

Why did he need to arrange childcare when you’re at home?

SaturdayDream · 07/07/2025 12:15

It’s not his fault you haven’t got much of a life.

Marmalade71 · 07/07/2025 12:15

Why so many chain yanking threads at the mo??