To ask DH to no go away for weekend

Unless there is something else in this situation that you're not explaining, you are being very unreasonable. Try and look at it from another perspective; if you had planned and organised a weekend away and he stepped in and inferred that he'd rather you didn't go (without good reason), you'd probably view that as an infringement of your liberty. What are your afraid of happening while he's not with you? 🤔

Rage bait.

You sound insufferable.

You cant ask him not to go its unreasonable.
He wants you to do the same but just because you dont want to doesnt mean he has to not enjoy his own interests.
Its healthy to have your own space to do things I couldnt tolerate a person trying to stop me doing things I enjoy.

She obviously prefers martyrdom, poor man.

I “get it”, I really do. But it isn’t reasonable to expect him to live in your pocket 24/7. You BOTH need to have breathing space away from each other, and I truly do understand it can be to do it for yourself. It’s very easy to lose yourself in being a wife and mother, but it’s not healthy to let this happen. You say that you’re not comfortable with the idea of doing something for “you”, so ask yourself why that is. Is it “guilt” about failing to do your “job role” (remember every job role comes with annual leave)? Have you lost touch with old friends? Do you feel isolated? Do you think you’ll be judged if you take him up on his offer? If so, who by? And why do their opinions worry you?
Do you take any time just for you? What do YOU enjoy doing? It can be anything … learn a new skill, a language, have your nails done, walking the dog by the beach, join a choir, or a gym. Remember who you were before being a mum, she’s still in there.

Totally unreasonable, he hasn’t put a foot wrong, totally respectful of your time and being clear you can do the same. I am flummoxed by your post. You come across as quite spoilt and unsupportive. If it was the other way round I wouldn’t stand for it for one minute tbh.

why are you even asking if you are being unreasonable? He has sorted out childcare so it’s nof like he is dumping it all on you like what a lot of husbands would

You're being an arsehole about it. He's covered the cost and arranged childcare so he really couldn't have been more considerate about it.

You're just as entitled as he is to time off for yourself, which he clearly recognises since he's encouraging it. The fact that you don't feel comfortable with that is your issue to deal with. It's not fair to stop him from doing something reasonable just because you have a weird hang up about doing the same yourself.

YABVU. Don’t you want a happy husband?

“no go away” is obviously a typo but did it make anyone else read the title in a Scottish accent?

Why wouldn’t you arrange to do something yourself? The kids are with his parents so are you child free? YABU to even think about asking him not to go, he’s worked extra to pay for it, sorted the childcare, told you that you can have the same opportunity (but don’t want to). Yabvu

Totally unreasonable! The fact you can’t even think of an excuse should prove that to you!

You have childcare and can’t be bothered to arrange anything and don’t want to go with him? Why arrange childcare then?!

I guess life happens though doesn't it which none of us will see, ops priorities may be elsewhere. Just because we give advice on here doesn't mean we are owed anything really, nor is anyone obliged to take the advice. I also suspect a reverse tbh.

Why do people do this? It’s quite rude not to respond once to any of the posts that are trying to help you.

So SO unreasonable. He has paid himself without impacting the household budget and arranged childcare. Why on earth shouldn't he go. If you want a weekend away with friends or something then do the same! Alot of men would just announce they are going and leave childcare up to you. Poor guy you sound clingy and controlling.

I doubt we'll find out, op doesn't appear to be coming back, and did the same on the other thread they started.

Surely this is a reverse

If you’re not going op, can I go instead? Massive plane geek here

I honestly don’t see the issue. Can you not take yourself off and do something you want to do if you really don’t want to go to the airshow with him, either with your child or if they’re with grandparents, then alone? That’s what I would be doing. Also, why could you not go with him? Make a weekend of it. The air show will be day time only. That leaves a night or two to yourselves. My DH is not into airshows like I am but when I’ve mentioned going he’s come along and we’ve made a weekend of it, booked a hotel and enjoyed an evening out just us two after said airshow. Child free time is rare and neither of us will turn it down!

He's done all the right things. Of course he should go. Why don't you go away somewhere too! Enjoy your childfree weekend.

Why don't you spend time on your hobbies/take a solo trip somewhere

I can't quite figure out why you aren't happy for your husband going and enjoying himself

A) you've got at least a night to yourself enjoy it.
B) your husband is encouraging you to have a weekend away to enjoy yourself. He has done nothing wrong.
You don't have to be joined at the hip all the time. My partner normally goes camping with his son in the summer and as much as I love him I really enjoy having a night alone with my daughter. If he goes on the family holiday on his side I often stay home (we have lots of animals so would cost a small fortune getting people into look after them). And again I love it 🤷‍♀️ I eat my body weight in cheesecake and watch slushy films that I know aren't his cup of tea.

So essentially you’re asking if you should limit your partner’s social life and enjoyment of his hobbies because of your own limitations.

@smithypants

whaaat?! Once every six months do something for yourself ?! That’s way too infrequent