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To shut my dog in the garden for the day?

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Dogingarden · 07/07/2025 10:49

Please read the full thing before you call me cruel.

I will be gone from about 8am until late on the night because I'm travelling for a medical procedure that I can't put off any longer. There is no way to make the time shorter due to where I live in relation to the hospital and I need the treatment asap.

I had a dog sitter booked but she had an accident and is currently on crutches and unable to drive. The others in my area are booked or just far too expensive. I have family but only my brother is able to drive and works 12hr shifts so he's only able to visit after 8pm. The house is rural detached with no close neighbours.

He can't go to kennels because I accidentally missed his vaccine boosters during the move and the local ones won't take him without them being up to date.

Dog is a large terrier. I have a large, safe garden with plenty of shady spots regardless of the time of day. I would leave multiple beds for him, including a dog house that was already in the garden when I moved in. There is also an automatic water bucket fitted to the house (previous owner) which he uses happily when we're in the garden. I will leave dry food out.

He absolutely will not toilet in the house, even with puppy pads, so he'd potentially be going 12+ hours without a wee which makes me very uncomfortable because he's had kidney issues in the past.

Please don't be awful - I'm terrified of what the biopsy will show and I'm doing my best.

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MyMilchick · 07/07/2025 15:24

Dogingarden · 07/07/2025 14:46

I haven't had chance to read all of the replies properly but he absolutely loves the garden and will actively choose to be out there if the back door is open. There's a lot of mature trees in one area that provide shade all day. The previous tenant also built a dog house in the garden.

I can't afford the expensive sitter - it's hundreds of pounds at this point because my appointment is on Thursday 10th.

If I have to stay in, my brother will stay overnight at my house with my dog. He's tried to change his shift but he's a nurse and it's not possible.

I'm so worried about leaving him but I can't figure out another way at this point.

He'll be fine, look after yourself and best of luck with your appointment

LucasBuck · 07/07/2025 15:22

I don’t think it’s cruel in principle- plenty of dogs in rural areas like where I live are left outdoors all day with a dog shelter and food and water and just kept in the house overnight (or sometimes in big heated kennels). But most are in pairs or groups - dogs being pack animals shouldn’t really be left alone too often/long imo.

Plus those dogs are used to it - presumably it has either been the case since they were pups or their owners have gradually increased the time they were left alone till they were used to it as adults (from a few hours, to half the day, and then so on).

My concern is that if your dog isn’t used to being left alone in the garden for a significant amount of time then doing a full day suddenly may mean he will get himself wound up and distressed. Or even possibly try to escape? Some can be like Houdini when desperate/bored, even if you think the garden seems secure. You don’t want to be dealing with a distressed dog or even worse a missing dog when you’ve just got back from hospital - but I guess it sounds like you don’t have a choice in this situation 🤷‍♀️ Hope everything goes well for both your biopsy and for doggo.

MarioLink · 07/07/2025 15:22

Sounds ok outside of heatwave temperatures. He has water, food, shelter and space to run around. I'd be worried if it was a very hot day though. Have you looked at Borrow my Doggy or can you ask around vets for availability to do his booster so he can go to the kennel.

SatsumaDog · 07/07/2025 15:20

I would do everything I could to avoid it. If the dog sitter is expensive then I would just go with it. It’s not worth the risk imo.

owlexpress · 07/07/2025 15:11

Digdongdoo · 07/07/2025 15:08

Why is it totally unacceptable?

Risk of theft, risk of harm coming to the dog in some way (heat, choking, harming himself of of boredom or upset), risk of the dog becoming distressed. The list goes on tbh. I'd actually be more comfortable leaving my dog in the house than out in a garden all day, especially if that's what they're used to and where they sleep.

standtherebicycle · 07/07/2025 15:09

owlexpress · 07/07/2025 15:03

This is totally unacceptable and no way would I consider it. I'm guessing the people saying 'it's a dog!' don't actually have a dog.

You can't put him in kennels due to your own mistakes, so time to stump up and pay the dog sitter. I hope you already have him booked in for his jags too.

Could he stay at your brother's with him popping home at lunch? DH is a nurse and can manage this for our dog as we live near the hospital.

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OP was let down by her scheduled dog sitter. I have a dog and I would do this in these circumstances - it's an emergency not a long term care plan.

Digdongdoo · 07/07/2025 15:08

owlexpress · 07/07/2025 15:03

This is totally unacceptable and no way would I consider it. I'm guessing the people saying 'it's a dog!' don't actually have a dog.

You can't put him in kennels due to your own mistakes, so time to stump up and pay the dog sitter. I hope you already have him booked in for his jags too.

Could he stay at your brother's with him popping home at lunch? DH is a nurse and can manage this for our dog as we live near the hospital.

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Why is it totally unacceptable?

xx11x · 07/07/2025 15:07

Is the dog an Airedale? You could ask in the Scottish page for your dog breed if anyone is willing to help out for the day, I’ve seen posts before of others who have helped out

standtherebicycle · 07/07/2025 15:07

I think this is fine - you wouldn't be posting here if you weren't concerned for his welfare/thought it was fine to do this regularly - it's one day, he'll cope. Get him something to chew/play with maybe that's new and interesting. Best of luck with your appointment.

Caronokids75 · 07/07/2025 15:04

Sounds fine to me but you seem nervous about it.Have you tried reaching out to your community , maybe offer a small payment for 2 pop ins and short walks that day, a local teen looking for pocket money before and after school. Facebook might be a good place to ask on local pages.

owlexpress · 07/07/2025 15:03

This is totally unacceptable and no way would I consider it. I'm guessing the people saying 'it's a dog!' don't actually have a dog.

You can't put him in kennels due to your own mistakes, so time to stump up and pay the dog sitter. I hope you already have him booked in for his jags too.

Could he stay at your brother's with him popping home at lunch? DH is a nurse and can manage this for our dog as we live near the hospital.

SquirrelMadness · 07/07/2025 15:02

Ah ok phew! Apologies for all my frantic posts about the heat then!

I hope your biopsy goes well.

Dogingarden · 07/07/2025 15:02

SErunner · 07/07/2025 10:57

No you absolutely can’t leave him for that long. I’m sorry but you need to find a solution. You could get an emergency appt at the vets to have him vaccinated so he can go to kennels (I’m sure they would do this if you explained the situation). Or pay for the expensive sitter somehow. What you’ve proposed is not a solution. I hope you make appropriate arrangements and that your appointment goes okay.

Unfortunately the kennels won't take him because their policy is vacs have to be done at least 30 days before the dog stays.

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yoursweetpotatoesarebland · 07/07/2025 15:01

I think it’s fine OP. He’s a dog!

Frequency · 07/07/2025 15:01

Where in the country are you?

If you're in the NE, I have young adult daughters who might help. They cannot stay overnight as we're going away on Friday, but they will almost definitely pop in for an hour or so midday. They've been around terriers all their lives.

Digdongdoo · 07/07/2025 15:01

Dogingarden · 07/07/2025 15:00

I live in Northern Scotland and it's 18c on Thursday. If it was those temps I wouldn't even consider it.

It'll be absolutely fine then wont it.

ACynicalDad · 07/07/2025 15:00

Whilst I'd say mine wouldn't care, and he wouldn't, there's no way I'd do this. But if you must stick a tracker on him just in case and in a rural area not an airtag.

SpinandSing · 07/07/2025 15:00

Also, only you know your dog. If you think he will be fine, and not get upset and go crazy then go for it. As you say, the weather will be fine and he has plenty of water and shady patches.

Dogingarden · 07/07/2025 15:00

SquirrelMadness · 07/07/2025 14:56

It's forecast to be 28c where I live on Thursday. Other parts of the country are forecast to be much hotter. It's too hot to leave a dog outside all day.

I live in Northern Scotland and it's 18c on Thursday. If it was those temps I wouldn't even consider it.

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Nottodaty · 07/07/2025 15:00

If he is a dog that barks a lot ….no

My friend went out one day and had forgotten to lock the back door..dog went out door shut behind him. Only when she looked at Facebook and a local person complaining about a dog barking in her area….she assumed it wasn’t her dog until she got home !

Digdongdoo · 07/07/2025 14:59

Gloriia · 07/07/2025 14:57

It's not a working dog, it's an indoor pet dog.

Do you think a working dog would adapt quickly to being cooped up indoors for 12hrs?

It doesn't need to "adapt" to it. It just needs to manage it one time...

Dogingarden · 07/07/2025 14:58

Gloriia · 07/07/2025 14:58

Pay for the vax and book at the kennels.

They won't accept him because it has to be done 30 days before the stay.

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Dogingarden · 07/07/2025 14:58

Gloriia · 07/07/2025 14:40

The op doesn't seem to want suggestions or solutions, probably wants everyone to say yeah leaving a house pet outside alone unsupervised for hours when it is hot is ok when it really isn’t.

Considering I haven't had chance to look or reply to the thread until now I don't know where you've got that idea from. I really wish people wouldn't make up stories.

It's also forecast to be a max of 18c on Thursday. If it was going to be very hot I wouldn't even consider it.

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Gloriia · 07/07/2025 14:58

Dogingarden · 07/07/2025 14:46

I haven't had chance to read all of the replies properly but he absolutely loves the garden and will actively choose to be out there if the back door is open. There's a lot of mature trees in one area that provide shade all day. The previous tenant also built a dog house in the garden.

I can't afford the expensive sitter - it's hundreds of pounds at this point because my appointment is on Thursday 10th.

If I have to stay in, my brother will stay overnight at my house with my dog. He's tried to change his shift but he's a nurse and it's not possible.

I'm so worried about leaving him but I can't figure out another way at this point.

Pay for the vax and book at the kennels.

SpinandSing · 07/07/2025 14:57

Is he likely to get anxious? Have you tried leaving him outside for a few hours and see how he does? Leave him while you go out shopping or something? If not, and you haven't got time to test this, it would be the expensive dogsitter for me. I would be more worried about the dog's anxiety levels as it sounds as though they will be perfectly physically safe. This is the kind of thing that anxious dogs won't recover from.