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To shut my dog in the garden for the day?

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Dogingarden · 07/07/2025 10:49

Please read the full thing before you call me cruel.

I will be gone from about 8am until late on the night because I'm travelling for a medical procedure that I can't put off any longer. There is no way to make the time shorter due to where I live in relation to the hospital and I need the treatment asap.

I had a dog sitter booked but she had an accident and is currently on crutches and unable to drive. The others in my area are booked or just far too expensive. I have family but only my brother is able to drive and works 12hr shifts so he's only able to visit after 8pm. The house is rural detached with no close neighbours.

He can't go to kennels because I accidentally missed his vaccine boosters during the move and the local ones won't take him without them being up to date.

Dog is a large terrier. I have a large, safe garden with plenty of shady spots regardless of the time of day. I would leave multiple beds for him, including a dog house that was already in the garden when I moved in. There is also an automatic water bucket fitted to the house (previous owner) which he uses happily when we're in the garden. I will leave dry food out.

He absolutely will not toilet in the house, even with puppy pads, so he'd potentially be going 12+ hours without a wee which makes me very uncomfortable because he's had kidney issues in the past.

Please don't be awful - I'm terrified of what the biopsy will show and I'm doing my best.

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profile22 · 08/07/2025 12:21

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NewShoesForSpring · 08/07/2025 11:56

Op I hope your medical appointment goes well & you get good results

I understand your dilemma & it's really good your SIL is willing to help you.

Its really worth getting your dogs vaccines when you can as it's so vital to have a reliable source of dog care in place that doesn't require family or friends input.

Its also good for your dog to have a safe, place where they build trust etc. I say this as as we had 2 small dogs & we made sure to find an excellent kennels & got them used to going so they were not freaked out etc each time

Its really not ok to leave any dog for 12 hours. In Sweden the law forbids leaving dogs longer than 6 hours as its cruel to the dogs. So I'm glad you got sorted.

Good luck on Thursday!

bridgetreilly · 08/07/2025 11:55

profile22 · 08/07/2025 10:03

Yeah it’s wrong, and I think you know that, else you wouldn’t be asking on here.
You’ve forgotten to vaccine your dog, and you won’t pay what you consider to be expensive to make sure he’s looked after properly for 12 hours ,and kept completely safe ?!? Why have you got a dog? You’re not looking after it properly. I’m presuming & hoping you haven’t left him in the garden for 12 hours before, so he’s going to be distressed. If you’re in a country location with no neighbours, then you can afford to pay a professional look after your dog. So pay up, and be responsible!!

Rural poverty is real and serious.

CarmellaSopranosKitchen · 08/07/2025 11:54

Well i'm glad I'm not your dog Bridgereilly!

bridgetreilly · 08/07/2025 11:52

The dog will have food, water, shade, room for toileting, and a garden it enjoys spending time in.

You know what it won’t have? An awareness of time.

OP, there has been a lot of nonsense on this thread. The dog will be absolutely fine. No, it wouldn’t be ideal on a regular basis or in a lot of other circumstances that don’t apply here. But in this situation, I honestly wouldn’t give it a second thought.

CarmellaSopranosKitchen · 08/07/2025 11:47

Wishing the OP the best with her health concerns.

CarmellaSopranosKitchen · 08/07/2025 11:46

Regardless, it's not on leaving the dog outside - however it seems a resolution has been found. Dogs are expensive and vet bills, etc are something that need factoring in, as do dog sitters. Hopefully the dog will get vaccinated soon and that will allow for more options.

Gloriia · 08/07/2025 11:43

CarmellaSopranosKitchen · 08/07/2025 11:41

It is incredibly hot. You need to fork out for a dog sitter. In the scale of looking after a dog this needs factoring in. Or ask in the local area if someone can look after him for the day.

They're up north, temp apparently 18c Thurs. Mind it's 18c here at the moment and it's too warm for ours to be out for long periods.

CarmellaSopranosKitchen · 08/07/2025 11:42

There are lots of youngesters A Level students finished for the summer. I'm sure for less pay, but snacks they could keep them company and let them out in the garden from time to time. This is a better solution.

schtompy · 08/07/2025 11:42

profile22 · 08/07/2025 11:04

Exactly! I only know, and replied to your original post.
If your dog was up to date with his vaccinations, you could have boarded him with multiple dog boarders for that day that wouldn’t have cost £250, it’s not the dogs fault you as the owner has fell short on standard pet owner duties. You also get notice for hospital appointments, so you could have sorted this. It’s not ok for the dog to be left unattended for 12 hours outside if he’s not used to doing that already. What do you want me to say here? I’m replying to your original question 🤷🏼‍♀️

You actually don’t get a huge amount of notice for a breast biopsy. A day is what I got.

Gloriia · 08/07/2025 11:41

Anyway hope thur goes ok and do get it booked in for its vaccinations so kennels are an option. We usually get text reminders from our vets you could maybe sign up for that?

CarmellaSopranosKitchen · 08/07/2025 11:41

It is incredibly hot. You need to fork out for a dog sitter. In the scale of looking after a dog this needs factoring in. Or ask in the local area if someone can look after him for the day.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 08/07/2025 11:39

Dogingarden · 08/07/2025 11:34

I did. I rang her just after receiving the email and she made it very clear that the price was absolutely £250 for the day.

What a rip off. £250, not a chance, paying that amount.

AllyDally · 08/07/2025 11:37

Dogingarden · 08/07/2025 11:35

Do you live in a remote rural area though?

No, I was answering the poster who asked me a specific question, not replying to OP.

I think living in a remote rural area changes things somewhat with regards to leaving a dog longer, living in a city I wouldn't even turn my back away from my dogs for a second in a park as if things arent tied down round here then they are stolen!

FiveShelties · 08/07/2025 11:36

@AllyDally thank you. I suppose the rate would have to be high if there is only one dog. That cost would rack up really quickly - I think I chose the wrong career!

Dogingarden · 08/07/2025 11:35

AllyDally · 08/07/2025 11:33

I use a person who stays at my house, she is a dog trainer but does sits as well for some clients. I did use daycare and that was £31 a day (in the south east) but they had lots of dogs.

The 2 hr sits she brings her dog to my house to keep them company in middle of day once a week whilst I'm at work. When she does overnights she leaves them max of a couple of hours usually, but occasionally up to 4 if desperate. If they are unable to be left she charges slightly more as it means she cant take training work etc.

Do you live in a remote rural area though?

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Dogingarden · 08/07/2025 11:34

Gloriia · 08/07/2025 11:19

I'd just message the dog sitter and say 'sorry was that a typo did you mean £25 not £250?!'

I know it's a stressful time, most of us have probably had biopsies and check ups so can relate but people are trying to help and are sharing their opinions which is what you asked for.

I did. I rang her just after receiving the email and she made it very clear that the price was absolutely £250 for the day.

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AllyDally · 08/07/2025 11:33

FiveShelties · 08/07/2025 11:27

@AllyDally would they just have your dog to care for, or do they have lots. Doggy day care centres have sprung up around me and charge around 20GPB per day but they have quite a lot of dogs. I have never used day care, but have used boarding kennels as travelled often. Very expensive these dogs but worth it😁

I use a person who stays at my house, she is a dog trainer but does sits as well for some clients. I did use daycare and that was £31 a day (in the south east) but they had lots of dogs.

The 2 hr sits she brings her dog to my house to keep them company in middle of day once a week whilst I'm at work. When she does overnights she leaves them max of a couple of hours usually, but occasionally up to 4 if desperate. If they are unable to be left she charges slightly more as it means she cant take training work etc.

FiveShelties · 08/07/2025 11:27

@AllyDally would they just have your dog to care for, or do they have lots. Doggy day care centres have sprung up around me and charge around 20GPB per day but they have quite a lot of dogs. I have never used day care, but have used boarding kennels as travelled often. Very expensive these dogs but worth it😁

MassiveOvaryaction · 08/07/2025 11:24

Ah phew. It was deleted as I posted.

AllyDally · 08/07/2025 11:23

FiveShelties · 08/07/2025 11:10

Still sounds mega expensive to me.

It is but some people just seem to stick to an hourly rate and thats it, seems odd but like a few have said she may not really want to do it/its massively inconvenient.

I pay about £55-60 for day/overnight, but then pay £25 for 2 hrs drop in (for 2 dogs). It also depends on whether you have £250, we could pay it but we dont just have it spare, we'd have to forgo something else but obviously some people dont physically have that at all, which is understandable.

profile22 · 08/07/2025 11:20

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5128gap · 08/07/2025 11:19

Its not perfect, but you've no other options, it's a one off and an essential medical matter. Human beings experience far worse conditions than this when dealing with health issues (hours and hours in A&E without comfort or meals) so I think as a one off your dog will be OK. You probably do need to give some thought to the long term though. I hope your procedure goes well, but if it turns out you will need ongoing medical care, it will save future stress if you have solid plans for the dog.

Gloriia · 08/07/2025 11:19

I'd just message the dog sitter and say 'sorry was that a typo did you mean £25 not £250?!'

I know it's a stressful time, most of us have probably had biopsies and check ups so can relate but people are trying to help and are sharing their opinions which is what you asked for.

FiveShelties · 08/07/2025 11:10

AllyDally · 08/07/2025 11:01

For 13 hrs daycare for the dog, its less than £20 an hour, am guessing they have added a fee for short notice. I found that some sitters do a day rate but some charged hourly it varies massively, I was being quoted from £30 to £90 a day for 6 hrs of care so the £250 doesn't surprise me massively.

There is not a chance I'd leave my dogs for over 12 hours though, absolutely no way. Some dogs would be fine though I guess.

Still sounds mega expensive to me.

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