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To shut my dog in the garden for the day?

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Dogingarden · 07/07/2025 10:49

Please read the full thing before you call me cruel.

I will be gone from about 8am until late on the night because I'm travelling for a medical procedure that I can't put off any longer. There is no way to make the time shorter due to where I live in relation to the hospital and I need the treatment asap.

I had a dog sitter booked but she had an accident and is currently on crutches and unable to drive. The others in my area are booked or just far too expensive. I have family but only my brother is able to drive and works 12hr shifts so he's only able to visit after 8pm. The house is rural detached with no close neighbours.

He can't go to kennels because I accidentally missed his vaccine boosters during the move and the local ones won't take him without them being up to date.

Dog is a large terrier. I have a large, safe garden with plenty of shady spots regardless of the time of day. I would leave multiple beds for him, including a dog house that was already in the garden when I moved in. There is also an automatic water bucket fitted to the house (previous owner) which he uses happily when we're in the garden. I will leave dry food out.

He absolutely will not toilet in the house, even with puppy pads, so he'd potentially be going 12+ hours without a wee which makes me very uncomfortable because he's had kidney issues in the past.

Please don't be awful - I'm terrified of what the biopsy will show and I'm doing my best.

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Selfsetfree · 07/07/2025 11:45

My dog would be to loud for this. I always use a dog sitter/walker. Could you post on a local page to see if any teenagers post exams might do it for cheaper? I would worry you will be longer than expected at least you will have someone to call on if needed. If you used a dog walker it wouldn’t be pricey they just walk then go again?

lovescats3 · 07/07/2025 11:45

We're forecast another heatwave as well

lovescats3 · 07/07/2025 11:44

What are you going to do if there are complications and you have to stay in overnight? Can't you get your dog vaccinated? Ask a neighbour or friend for help ?

saveforthat · 07/07/2025 11:42

When is your procedure? Why can't you get the dog vaccinated and then use kennels?

Christwosheds · 07/07/2025 11:42

I agree with everyone saying ask around your neighbours. It’s a long time for a dog to be left, I would worry so much about my dog that it would add to the stress. Outside all day he would probably be fine, but the potential of him being not fine is still there. Do you ever leave him locked out ?
I would have him or check on him if I was local to you, so you could also try putting your rough area on here. In my lengthy experience of larger terriers they hate being alone so that is colouring my response too.
I’ve used Rover for my dog when I’ve taken her on holiday but had a day going into places where dogs aren’t welcome, it’s been good, so you could try the website to see if there is anyone nearish to you.

diddl · 07/07/2025 11:41

SteelyEyed · 07/07/2025 11:38

Genuinely surprised that this is an issue - when I was growing up (rural location) it was completely normal to leave dogs all day, outside of course in large back yards. The odds of anything happening are tiny. Wouldn't waste a moments thought on it - seems so neurotic to me!

Maybe different if that's how the dog has been brought up & what it's used to?

neilyoungismyhero · 07/07/2025 11:40

Eyesopenwideawake · 07/07/2025 11:15

Why will he go for 12hrs without a wee if he's going to be in the garden?

Confused.

Don't be silly

EmeraldShamrock000 · 07/07/2025 11:40

It is one day, I'd be okay with it through autumn or spring, it might be a bit hot this time of year.

I have neighbours who have a large breed that is permanently alone in the back garden, they've been reported, as long as dog has water and untied it's apparently fine.

One day should be okay, My dog would bark all day and probably wouldn't shade, i
I wouldn't risk it.

Blurrywateryeye · 07/07/2025 11:39

No, I would definitely not be doing this. Find an alternative, you not have any friends that can pop in?

SteelyEyed · 07/07/2025 11:38

Genuinely surprised that this is an issue - when I was growing up (rural location) it was completely normal to leave dogs all day, outside of course in large back yards. The odds of anything happening are tiny. Wouldn't waste a moments thought on it - seems so neurotic to me!

Christmasbear1 · 07/07/2025 11:37

Rover app?

I couldn't do that to my dog as he has separation anxiety and will eat things he shouldn't. But if you have a dog that sleeps all day then in guess the dog would be ok. I would try the rover app though, 12 hrs is a very long time.

Bluebellwood129 · 07/07/2025 11:35

I'd pay for the expensive sitter. Even routine medical procedures like biopsies can have complications and your dog has kidney problems so you need peace of mind there's a plan in place that doesn't involve your dog being shut outside for hours.

onlymethen · 07/07/2025 11:33

I wouldn’t do it, get a zero interest credit card, pay for the expensive sitter and cut the card up then pay it off over a few months. You will have enough to worry about without not knowing if your dog is ok. Good luck and I hope all goes well for you.

Queenofshadows · 07/07/2025 11:32

You know your dog.

I know that if there was really no option of someone stopping by the house to let him out or walk him, then my dog would be a lot less stressed in my garden napping under his favourite tree than at a kennels he's never been to.

It's not ideal, but it would be a better last resort.

Morgenrot25 · 07/07/2025 11:31

I'd go for the expensive sitter, and please get the boosters up to date.

ShowMeTheSushi · 07/07/2025 11:31

12+ hours is a long time, especially with his kidney issues. There’s also a chance you may need to stay in hospital longer and what if he gets distressed, barks non-stop, or tries to escape?

Could you ask a neighbour or post in a local community group? Even someone popping by once would make a big difference. You’re not cruel, just in a tough spot but it’s worth finding a backup.

BurntBroccoli · 07/07/2025 11:29

It doesn’t sound cruel? He will have shelter food and water.
Could you do a test run and maybe get a webcam set up to check him?

Bloozie · 07/07/2025 11:28

He'd almost certainly be fine, but I'd pay for the expensive dog sitter.

Not because I think your plan is cruel. I'd just worry too much about my dogs in that scenario. What if it was really hot? What if it was really wet? What if they really barked? What if they dug everything up? Etc etc. The peace of mind would be worth the extra money.

thismummydrinksgin · 07/07/2025 11:28

Sounds ok to me, obviously it’s not ideal but that’s life and it’s a one off. I’d make sure he had somewhere to get out of rain and sun and concentrate on the medical procedure x

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 07/07/2025 11:26

So long as he isn’t going to bark all day, this sounds fine. Most dogs prefer being outside than shut in.

whynotmereally · 07/07/2025 11:25

Weather theft and anxiety would be my concern.

if it’s over 18 degrees or rain then no
if the garden is not secure and there’s risks of someone getting in no
if the dog is anxious or not use to being left for long periods or not use to being out in the garden for a long period of time no
But other than that it’s doable although I’d try to find a dog sitter or kennels first

NewAgeNewMe · 07/07/2025 11:24

Would you be happy posting your area on here and see if a MNetter can help. I couldn’t leave my dog as she’d go mental but my sister in law could leave hers as she would be fine.

Zebedee999 · 07/07/2025 11:22

MooreMooreMoore · 07/07/2025 10:53

Borrow my doggy?

Yes this or similar. I look after other peoples dogs free of chARGE NOW AND AGAIN IF THEY ARE AWAY FOR A LONG DAY.

Lavender14 · 07/07/2025 11:21

My worry would be its a long time to get bored and start barking or do damage tbh. Are you in any way close to a neighbour who you could leave a back gate key with so if he does bark they could go in and check on him?

Or if you drive, could you drive him to other family without a car for a sleepover or a stay for the day?

What about home from home boarding where he'd be the only dog?

When is your appointment? Could you get an emergency vets appointment between now and then for the vaccine and explain the situation?

Daisyvodka · 07/07/2025 11:21

Do you have any dog walkers in the area (not sitter - although apologies if thats what you mean!) who'd be able to do a couple of visits throughout the day? Could you get an overdraft on a bank card or extend an existing overdraft to pay for it (i know its not the done thing to suggest this really but if its truly a one off this is what i would do)
So sorry that you are facing this, i hope you get good news.