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To shut my dog in the garden for the day?

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Dogingarden · 07/07/2025 10:49

Please read the full thing before you call me cruel.

I will be gone from about 8am until late on the night because I'm travelling for a medical procedure that I can't put off any longer. There is no way to make the time shorter due to where I live in relation to the hospital and I need the treatment asap.

I had a dog sitter booked but she had an accident and is currently on crutches and unable to drive. The others in my area are booked or just far too expensive. I have family but only my brother is able to drive and works 12hr shifts so he's only able to visit after 8pm. The house is rural detached with no close neighbours.

He can't go to kennels because I accidentally missed his vaccine boosters during the move and the local ones won't take him without them being up to date.

Dog is a large terrier. I have a large, safe garden with plenty of shady spots regardless of the time of day. I would leave multiple beds for him, including a dog house that was already in the garden when I moved in. There is also an automatic water bucket fitted to the house (previous owner) which he uses happily when we're in the garden. I will leave dry food out.

He absolutely will not toilet in the house, even with puppy pads, so he'd potentially be going 12+ hours without a wee which makes me very uncomfortable because he's had kidney issues in the past.

Please don't be awful - I'm terrified of what the biopsy will show and I'm doing my best.

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Gloriia · 07/07/2025 13:12

wineosaurusrex · 07/07/2025 13:09

I live abroad and people literally take their dogs to the restaurant/shop where they work, chuck a bowl of water and dry food outside and the dogs all wander the street or hang out outside until hometime, literally all day, in weather far hotter than it gets in the UK. And all the dogs are fine - they're animals! Not people! The UK is a bit crazy about dogs. We have basically given them human needs and emotions and complexity. It's unnecessary.

Yes and that's fine if it's the pets norm but if they're usually inside with a person and then get chucked outdoors all day and evening by itself it will be distressed.

Vets do vaccinations on the day, kennels won't be booked up as it isn't school hols so the op needs to that or book the more expensive sitter.

Animal welfare is important.

Pennyforyourthoughtsplease · 07/07/2025 13:12

I'm pretty sure this is what all dog owners used to do because it's a dog? As long as it's not barking amd disturbing the neighbours and had lots of space and s kennel.fot shelter what's the issue

ScratCat · 07/07/2025 13:11

I couldn’t do this because my dogs would bark and also I’d worry they’d be distressd.

I’d honestly cancel the hospital appointment rather than do this.

BennyBee · 07/07/2025 13:10

It is a dog not a child, and will be absolutely fine, please don't worry. It sounds like you have enough to worry about. I love my dog and pamper him but he was rescued as a street dog in Romania and he survived that just fine.

One day in a nice enclosed suburban garden with food, water, shade and dog beds? He is set up!

Do NOT leave your back door open as someone suggested - if anything is stolen, insurance will not pay out.

wineosaurusrex · 07/07/2025 13:09

I live abroad and people literally take their dogs to the restaurant/shop where they work, chuck a bowl of water and dry food outside and the dogs all wander the street or hang out outside until hometime, literally all day, in weather far hotter than it gets in the UK. And all the dogs are fine - they're animals! Not people! The UK is a bit crazy about dogs. We have basically given them human needs and emotions and complexity. It's unnecessary.

Eyesopenwideawake · 07/07/2025 13:08

Just in case the OP is still reading - you need to think about the impact on your own peace of mind; you are going to be stressed by the procedure without adding worry about your dog. Get someone in - as others have said maybe a local person who would also enjoy sitting in your garden for the day.

Poodlelove · 07/07/2025 13:07

I would be worried that he would be unwell , heatstroke / worried and stressed because you wouldn't normally do this.
You may have to stay in longer and he would be left at night / no food etc

Tedsshed · 07/07/2025 13:05

SENNeeds2 · 07/07/2025 12:37

Can you just put in a dog flap on a back door - one which opens with his chip in his neck? That way he can come and go as he pleases. He might be barking all day in the backyard. What if you have complications and need to stay overnight?

IME about 50% of dogs will dislike this and refuse to use it. I had one installed. One dog was fine, the other hated the collar and the little beep and wouldn't use it. And they can take a few weeks of encouragement before they learn to use it confidently — and OP doesn't seem. to have the time available.

RaininSummer · 07/07/2025 13:04

I think it's unreasonable if it's not something dog is used to as he will be so distressed. You need to book the expensive care.

aGirlLikeJesamine · 07/07/2025 13:02

Pressthespacebar · 07/07/2025 12:46

For gods sake it’s a dog! It’s one day! Some dogs live outside all the time! Just leave him he will be fine as long as your garden is secure.

but not this dog!

Poodlelove · 07/07/2025 13:02

Where are you ? My daughter in law is a dog sitter and she travels to clients homes

Rainbowqueeen · 07/07/2025 13:00

I think it’s ok as long as your dog is used to spending lots of time in the garden and you leave some treats like a licky mat and a pigs ear. I would also have a dish with a block of ice in it that can melt to be cold water later in the day. Would having a radio on be useful? I know some dog owners who do this when they go out.

Coffeeishot · 07/07/2025 13:00

ExtraOnions · 07/07/2025 12:15

We had dogs in the 80s, prior to “Fur Babies” and everyone having “anxious” dogs. It was perfectly normal for dogs to be outside all day .. as long as they have shelter, food & water, I fail to see what the problem is.

They are outdoor animals .. the hair is a bit of a giveaway.

We also never took our dogs on shipping trips, to friends houses, to the pub, or cafe - and we especially didn’t kick off when places were pet-free

I also had a dog in the 80s well a family dog, left to its own devices in the house barking ALL day, it ended up nippy and nervous hated being left the list goes on.

I have had numerous dogs as an adult non of them "fur babies" but dogs that i need to be responsible for and take care of their well being and make sure they don't bother people/children/cats/other dogs that is dog ownership

the standard of dog care where i grew in the 80s was substandard.imo

blackheartsgirl · 07/07/2025 12:58

I’d go for the expensive dog sitter myself personally
but if you absolutely can’t afford this then as a last resort then yes garden it is. Is there any way you can leave the back door open and make it so no one can get access to other parts of the house.
my dog sleeps in our little room off the kitchen (which also has the back door)and I have bolts for the kitchen door. That way my dog gets access to inside and her bed. I’ve done this once or twice in dire circumstances.

Gloriia · 07/07/2025 12:56

Also, medical procedures are often delayed or unexpected complications where an overnight stay may be required, what then just hope it isn't distressed and scared left outside overnight as well as all day?

Digdongdoo · 07/07/2025 12:54

I imagine that would be fine, it's not particularly hot or wet at the moment (will be in a couple of days though). It's an animal, it will cope with a day outside. But are you 100% you will be home in time? I'd be wary of being stuck in hospital longer than planned. Use the more expensive sitter ideally.

Gloriia · 07/07/2025 12:53

Pressthespacebar · 07/07/2025 12:46

For gods sake it’s a dog! It’s one day! Some dogs live outside all the time! Just leave him he will be fine as long as your garden is secure.

This dog doesn't live outdoors though?

Some of the replies on this thread Confused.

Gloriia · 07/07/2025 12:51

Is it used to be left alone in the garden for 12hrs plus? If not then yabu and cruel.

You do know temps next couple of weeks are going to be 25c and over?

Just get its vaccinations done and book the kennels.

PiggyPigalle · 07/07/2025 12:48

XelaM · 07/07/2025 12:22

This. I would leave back door open

Me too. If I'd risk my precious dog being stolen from the garden, might as well risk my belongings as well.

AuntieHistamine · 07/07/2025 12:48

Some of these replies 😂 it’s like someone has suggested leaving a toddler alone in a garden. It’s a dog. It will be fine.

Pressthespacebar · 07/07/2025 12:46

For gods sake it’s a dog! It’s one day! Some dogs live outside all the time! Just leave him he will be fine as long as your garden is secure.

Liondoesntsleepatnight · 07/07/2025 12:45

Also to add we have neighbours that leave their dog outside, recently he got stuck outside as the door closed another time he knocked his water over, both of these on very hot days. The noises I hear from makes me think they are not happy being outside all day

yakkity · 07/07/2025 12:44

Eyesopenwideawake · 07/07/2025 11:15

Why will he go for 12hrs without a wee if he's going to be in the garden?

Confused.

I think they meant that if they could, could the dog be left inside instead.

our dogs would 100% rather be outside for that time. There is plenty of shade, good water supplies and no neighbours. The judgement needs to be based on the dog. A needy clingy lap dog might get really stressed. A robust working dog breed who loves the outdoors probably won’t even care a bean.

AelinAG · 07/07/2025 12:44

Figcherry · 07/07/2025 12:22

Our ndn in France goes to work at 8 and gets home at 7pm. His dog is in the garden with covered areas whether hot or cold.
The dog seems to be fine.

But that dog is used to that and was presumably trained to that from a pup. Not randomly being left

Liondoesntsleepatnight · 07/07/2025 12:43

I would book the expensive sitter. You will worry about the dog otherwise, for ease of mind just pay. This will add to your stress. Or ask a friend? I would help out if you were my friend