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To shut my dog in the garden for the day?

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Dogingarden · 07/07/2025 10:49

Please read the full thing before you call me cruel.

I will be gone from about 8am until late on the night because I'm travelling for a medical procedure that I can't put off any longer. There is no way to make the time shorter due to where I live in relation to the hospital and I need the treatment asap.

I had a dog sitter booked but she had an accident and is currently on crutches and unable to drive. The others in my area are booked or just far too expensive. I have family but only my brother is able to drive and works 12hr shifts so he's only able to visit after 8pm. The house is rural detached with no close neighbours.

He can't go to kennels because I accidentally missed his vaccine boosters during the move and the local ones won't take him without them being up to date.

Dog is a large terrier. I have a large, safe garden with plenty of shady spots regardless of the time of day. I would leave multiple beds for him, including a dog house that was already in the garden when I moved in. There is also an automatic water bucket fitted to the house (previous owner) which he uses happily when we're in the garden. I will leave dry food out.

He absolutely will not toilet in the house, even with puppy pads, so he'd potentially be going 12+ hours without a wee which makes me very uncomfortable because he's had kidney issues in the past.

Please don't be awful - I'm terrified of what the biopsy will show and I'm doing my best.

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Catwalking · 07/07/2025 14:20

Ask your vet, the kennelling businesses, or local pet charities for suggestions?
Some towns have their own dog & cat groups on F’book, so no possibility of ’advertising’ your empty property, should you enquire there.

Onleemoi · 07/07/2025 14:20

Imagine trying to shame people for caring about their pet’s welfare.

I wouldn’t do it, I’d get the expensive day care option.

Superfrog3 · 07/07/2025 14:16

This sounds fine, your dog will have the best day sniffing and running around the garden all day. It sounds like a secure garden and he will have shade, shelter, water and food. Your dog will be living the best life.

In the 90's my dogs only came in the house at night whether the door was open or not, they are dogs not humans and dont need to be treated like a baby. So dont let the negativity get to you you need to have your biopsy and im sure when you come home he will greet you with a big fuss.

Also I very much hope your biopsy goes well 💖

RandomWordsThrownTogether · 07/07/2025 14:16

CoubousAndTourmalet · 07/07/2025 13:59

Also to all those suggesting leaving the dog with a bone/pigs ear/chews, please be aware that dogs should only ever be given chews under supervision. They can and frequently do choke on them.

I would suggest filling a kong with mushed banana and peanut butter and freezing it - keeps dogs entertained for ages licking and chewing it! My mum did puppy minding for the Guide Dogs years ago and they suggested that as a good treat to leave! My mum also cooks up a meat mix with stock and freezes it in Kongs too, the dog knows it means it’s being left but is just excited to get its treat.

SErunner · 07/07/2025 14:12

@Jojimoji we’ll have to agree to disagree then. I don’t think leaving a dog for 12 hours on its own is acceptable if you have alternatives (which the OP does but is for some reason choosing not to use them). And I said they don’t process time like humans (obviously 🙄) but they absolutely do have a perception of time lapse otherwise leaving them for days would surely be fine so long as they have enough food/water. It is recommended they aren’t left for more than 4 hours or so for good reason. Some dogs obviously can manage longer and owners will know their own dog best, but 12 hours is far too long for any dog, particularly when there are alternatives.

magicstar1 · 07/07/2025 14:12

It sounds fine to me. He'll be in his own garden, with his own toys etc. around him. My girl is an indoor dog, but she'll spend hours out the back on a nice day, just lazing around, sunbathing and snoozing. He'll probably really enjoy it lol.

I hope your results are good by the way!

RandomWordsThrownTogether · 07/07/2025 14:12

Honestly it depends on the dog - I have done that loads of times when I had dogs, some dogs are chill and will sleep or play with other pets others will lose their minds. It was the norm growing up that people would go to school/work and leave the dogs outside for a few hours - we used to just have the garage set up as a dog house.

My dad usually leaves his dogs home alone when he goes off to work all day as a vet, they keep each other company and also have a few cats they hang out with. I had one dog that I unwillingly adopted who had massive separation anxiety and would howl if left for more than an hour or two (even the grumpy cat was concerned and used to go home to cuddle him) so after a few months I had to rehome him with my dad who took him to work every day when he left the others at home. If your dog has separation anxiety you could try Borrow my Doggy or you could maybe check if neighbours have teens who want to earn a few bob by checking in on him at some stage in the day. If he is used to chilling in the garden and isn’t a velcro dog he will likely be fine. Make sure to leave out plenty of food! I’d suggest with the forecasted heat and dogs lack of sweat glands that perhaps as well as shade you could fill a doggy paddling pool with water or leave a cooling mat in the shade (my local Aldi has doggy paddling pools atm).

DramaAlpaca · 07/07/2025 14:06

Of course it's fine, OP. I'd do this without hesitation. He'll have food, water, shade and somewhere comfy to sleep - he'll be fine. It's a dog, not a child. He'll probably sleep most of the day anyway.

Blinkingbother · 07/07/2025 14:00

If the dog is used to, and comfortable in the garden I think given the circs this is your best option. I have friends whose dogs are only ever kept out (more normal in rural areas).

CoubousAndTourmalet · 07/07/2025 13:59

Also to all those suggesting leaving the dog with a bone/pigs ear/chews, please be aware that dogs should only ever be given chews under supervision. They can and frequently do choke on them.

Starbri8 · 07/07/2025 13:59

Hi Op,
you know your dog best , your set up sounds excellent the dog has all its needs met he will be fine. I have a Velcro Lurcher and when we are home she’s surgically attached to my husband , a couple of times a month she’s alone for 8/to 10 hours and is absolutely fine, we have cameras everywhere , she has access to an outside office lolls about on a sheepskin rug, takes a bit of sun has a snack and back to sleep again . Worse she’ll do is dig up a plant or two but she does that when we are home! She’s fine when we come back and I think it’s good for her. We adore our blue eyed girl but some dog owners get a bit hysterical about dogs. They treat them better than their kids.

look after yourself I hope your appointment goes favourably.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 07/07/2025 13:58

What happens if something goes wrong with your procedure and you can’t get home, or your brother gets stuck at work?

You can’t do this - pay for the expensive sitter or beg a favour from a neighbour.

Barneysmomma · 07/07/2025 13:56

SUPerSaver721 · 07/07/2025 10:57

Could you not leave your back door open so the dog can go into the garden and house. I think it's fine for 1 day. Give him a licky mat and a bone and he will be fine.

My neighbour did this with her puppy & surprise surprise it escaped from the garden & would likely have got run over if we'd not intervened. There's also the small matter of your house insurance being invalid.
I'd pay for the expensive sitter - it's not worth the risk not to & you'd be able to focus on your appointment. Hooe it goes OK.

DeanStockwelll · 07/07/2025 13:55

urghhh47 · 07/07/2025 11:00

Put it on your local Facebook group. Someone will definitely help you. That will be much better than leaving him in the garden when that's not what he's used to.

Don't do this, its advertising to the local ragamuffin that your house is empty and your "gaurd" dog is locked in the back garden.

Does anyone have a paper round near you ? Ask in uour local newsagents if they think the girl/ boy would be willing to pop in .
Or is there another sensible local teenage you trust ?

Failing that as long as you are 100 % sure your dog can't escape and won't get stressed I think it would be okvas a one off

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 07/07/2025 13:55

I’d pay for the expensive person to pop in twice to take him out to the toilet and give him company. Even if it meant selling something to fund it.

Umbilicat · 07/07/2025 13:55

Spanador · 07/07/2025 11:59

OP is saying she can't leave him in the house as an option because he won't go to the toilet so would be holding wee in too long

Oh, I see!

I thought she meant she couldn't leave him in the garden ...

CoubousAndTourmalet · 07/07/2025 13:53

The OP mentions missing boosters "during the move" which implies that this is a new home, not a place where the dog grew up, and it is thus presumably an area the dog is not familiar with. If it's left for that long, it will find its way out of the garden and disappear, or end up being involved in an accident.
People here are being far too complacent.

SquirrelMadness · 07/07/2025 13:52

Blackkittenfluff · 07/07/2025 13:46

As a one off, it's fine.

Clearly, there are some people on here who would put a dog ahead of your own health and a biopsy.

Must be a full moon.

Most people are suggesting booking the expensive sitter, not cancelling the biopsy.

Or trying Rover, borrow my doggy, local Facebook groups etc.

If the dog ends up with heatstroke she's going to feel awful. She has a solution, it's just pricey.

Brackenfield · 07/07/2025 13:51

I would be concerned about wanting to keep a collar and tag on the dog in case they did get out, but then the danger of them getting trapped by it. I couldn't do it personally.

FizzingAda · 07/07/2025 13:49

Maybe your vet would know someone who could help out?

Jojimoji · 07/07/2025 13:49

SErunner · 07/07/2025 13:25

You can’t own a dog if you think that is true? They absolutely do have some appreciation of time lapse, although obviously not in the same way we do. A dog not used to being left for long periods will almost certainly become very distressed at being left for 12 hours+. Some of the responses on this thread are baffling. Im not one for treating them like children/humans but you can’t just leave them for an entire day with the justification it’s okay because they won’t get stolen. Ours are very used to being left but become agitated/distressed on the (very rare) occasion they are left for longer than usual eg because we’ve got stuck in traffic. OP does have options to ensure he’s properly cared for so I suggest she arranges one of those.

Yes I do own dogs.

And I too am absolutely baffled by many of the responses on here. It's amazing that dogs survived as a species for thousands of years given that some people seem to think you can't take your eyes off little Rover for even a minute.

Only the OP knows her dog's temperament, but if it's a normal dog without any issues it really will be fine for one day in it's own back garden.

And dogs absolutely do NOT process time like humans.

StrongerFitter · 07/07/2025 13:47

Try Cinnamon Trust. They may have volunteers in your area able to help with temporary foster care

Blackkittenfluff · 07/07/2025 13:46

As a one off, it's fine.

Clearly, there are some people on here who would put a dog ahead of your own health and a biopsy.

Must be a full moon.

Newnameformenow · 07/07/2025 13:45

I am sorry you are going through this. I think you need a contingency plan in case you need to stay overnight or are delayed. There are some good suggestions above, I think I would review my options again.

Flupflup · 07/07/2025 13:44

Sounds reasonable to me as log as he is not likely to be yappy and disturb neighbours.
Do you have another plan if you have to stay overnight?

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