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To feel like I'm not sure where I sit politically anymore, and to worry about it.

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Lookuptotheskies · 06/07/2025 23:00

I've always been a staunch Labour voter. Always been pro refugees. Always given people the benefit of the doubt. Always felt okay that I've brought innocent kids into the world.

Labour are making cuts to disability benefits (and in turn, carer benefits). They are looking to slash sen support in schools.

My town is being overtaken with overt criminal activity. Illegal cigarettes, money laundering business, violent crime on the increase, known drug dealers, fly tipping, etc. Nothing is done. It's just a never ending thing, they bust one and another pops up.

I've always fought against the tide of racist idiots, using politics as an excuse for violent riots. I live in a multi-cutural town, chose a very multicultural school for my kids. But I can't continue to argue with the people pointing out the rise in crimes, drugs, exploitation etc which is very visibily linked to immigration. I feel so uneasy about acknowledging how I feel about this! Guilty and a bit embarrassed. I've always been live and let live, whereas now I feel more protective, more cynical, less tolerant.

I am also gender critical and very much in favour of single sex spaces, based on biological sex. This has been a slow thing too. I've witnessed the language around women changing (cervix owner, pregnant person, chest feeding etc). I've witnessed our spaces and groups being invaded by biological men (I don't want a man on the other side of the curtain to me in a women's hospital ward, or a bra changing cubicle, or a swimming changing room.

Does anyone else feel like they are completely re-evaluating what they accept/don't accept, and what they stand for politically?

I don't currently feel there is any one political party that aligns with my ideals.

I may or may not get completely flamed, but I'm curious on other's thoughts. I will check back intermittently but I don't live on my phone/mumsnet.

This is not a troll post. I've been a mn user for over 18 years.

OP posts:
mustytrusty · 07/07/2025 12:59

wordywitch · 06/07/2025 23:16

I agree with a lot of what you say, except I don’t think all or even most of the crime and anti social behaviour you described can be attributed to immigration. It’s mostly to do with poverty, and the decimation of public services, housing and support for the poor and working class (of which some will be immigrants) that occurred over the 14 years the Tories were in power.

I agree completely with this. It's hard to see the wood from the trees if you listen to mainstream media who have an unpleasant agenda. Poverty and lack of funding are the problem really, as they always are.

LivingDeadGirlUK · 07/07/2025 12:46

'Yes we do also have white british people struggling with poverty and crime. For example drug addiction leading to shoplifting and burglary, but I can see the rise in that as directly correlating to the years of austerity and cuts to public services and help.'

I think you might need a bit of a wake up call if you think the poor british people are just struggling with their addictions and poverty while its the brown people who are all knife crime-ing and chopping up sheep. The majority of crime, petty, violent etc in this country is caused by white people, and that's not controversial given they make up the majority of the population.

Gardendiary · 07/07/2025 12:38

Bluebellwood129 · 06/07/2025 23:34

You're probably right. I would actually be happy to pay more directly to my local council to be spent on trying to address local issues, but not to be frittered away by central government.

You definitely don’t live in Birmingham if you feel that! We can’t trust the council one bit.

LivingDeadGirlUK · 07/07/2025 12:37

wordywitch · 06/07/2025 23:16

I agree with a lot of what you say, except I don’t think all or even most of the crime and anti social behaviour you described can be attributed to immigration. It’s mostly to do with poverty, and the decimation of public services, housing and support for the poor and working class (of which some will be immigrants) that occurred over the 14 years the Tories were in power.

I agree with this, and blaming immigrants for this is really lazy. I'm the child of immigrants and my parents, aunts etc are all very well off having lived through different times. Poverty has increased so much over the last 15 years and the standard of living for working class and middle class people has tanked. At the same time profits and CEO wages have increased, but its immigration that's the problem apparently!

LakieLady · 07/07/2025 12:30

Keir Starmer took Tony Blair's government to court to give illegal immigrants the right to claim benefits and won under the human rights laws.

Really, @Glitchymn1 ? When was this, please?

Benefits for people coming from other countries is a bit of a specialist area, but I'm not aware of any significant changes in the law since I did a 2-day course on it approx 6 years ago. Then, the position was that generally that non-EU citizens were only entitled to benefits if they had leave to remain .

If you can provide a link to the relevant change in the law, I'd be very grateful, and so would my colleagues. We don't come across it very often now, as most of our referrals are from organisations that wouldn't be working with illegal immigrants, but it would be good to know.

Lookuptotheskies · 07/07/2025 12:28

Wow so many replies and comments. I'd love to reply to every single one but I'm meant to be doing more sensible things ha ha.

I found the comment about the middle classes now waking up to these issues now they are starting to affect them interesting. Personally I am working class, but have always been against the rhetoric spouted by Tommy Robinson types. Yes I live in a town with a lot of poverty but also a lot of kindness. We seem to be getting more and more tension and division in our town and its scary.

The poster who mentioned a pod caster talking about civil war - five years ago I'd have laughed at that. But my town was one of the ones caught up in the race riots last summer and it was scary. We as a family went out the next day and helped in a community clean up. Friends of my children who don't look white british, their families stayed indoors that weekend as their parents were scared. Yes my children do have friends from all cultures to the person that asked.

I do think I have abandoned some ideals the last few years. I'm scared for my kids.

As well as the issues mentioned in my op, we have things like knife attacks, rapes, sexual grooming gangs, drug gangs, sheep stolen and butchered (found in flats or nearby fields), the list is endless.

Yes we do also have white british people struggling with poverty and crime. For example drug addiction leading to shoplifting and burglary, but I can see the rise in that as directly correlating to the years of austerity and cuts to public services and help.

We have LOTS of HMOs popping up, set up by greedy landlords looking for maximum profits. No one wants to live in a HMO, they are being used for poor vulnerable people from all cultures and it just makes me so sad and angry! The HMOs then affect things like rubbish, parking, antisocial behaviour, etc.

I have found the uproar about pension cuts infuriating, my nanna if she was still here would have had these cuts, but she'd have still have had a VERY healthy monthly income. Not all pensioners need fuel help. Some have plenty to pay their bills. My nanna probably had a better income than her adult kids who working for various public services.

The mentions of things like SEN taxis and independent schools, these are a direct result of lack of sen schools in local authority areas. There needs to be much more special school options. It's short sighted spending instead of long term.

I wish I had the right answers but I don't.

OP posts:
Kendodd · 07/07/2025 12:27

BlackCatGreyWhiskers · 07/07/2025 11:58

Whilst I agree the decline in support for mental health’s and health conditions more generally is definitely a huge contributor to the rise in those reliant on benefits, I think it’s totally disingenuous not to acknowledge that not working is a totally viable and desirable carer choice for many claiming. My own cousin felt he was “working too hard” and not seeing enough of his now wife - early 20’s, degree educated, actually very intelligent. He’d done the maths and working just wasnt a priority. As a country we have indulged people just like him.

Thing is, your cousin is making a rational choice. Honestly would you choose to work 40 hours a week in a grim chicken factory and get maybe a fraction more money (or not) than your peer who sleeps all day then stay up gaming with friends all night while people around them hand wring because they must be depressed?
Work doesn't pay and supermarket work, care work etc never will pay the sort of money people need for a decent basic life. In the past the state stepped in and filled the gaps with council housing and decent public services. That's all been stripped away and (especially housing) has long gone. Now if the state steps in to fill the gaps it's with cash, this just goes to private landlords to provide expensive insecure housing that can be wiped away at two months notice.

crackofdoom · 07/07/2025 12:20

BlackCatGreyWhiskers · 07/07/2025 12:17

Is property not taxed via income tax? The only property that isn’t taxed is your main residence 🙄

Only if you're actually earning income on it, no? So rental income, mostly.

BlackCatGreyWhiskers · 07/07/2025 12:17

crackofdoom · 07/07/2025 12:00

Well, housing costs play a massive part in it. So, you have to ask yourself who's benefiting from these huge price rises.

Answer: the boomer generation (who still dominate, demographically speaking), the mortgage lenders, the people buying up property in places like London as an investment, the private equity companies that increasingly control our rental market.

And ask yourself why, when the question of tax raises its head, the conversation always gets diverted towards taxing income rather than property. And who that might benefit.

Is property not taxed via income tax? The only property that isn’t taxed is your main residence 🙄

Madcatdudette · 07/07/2025 12:04

ElizaMulvil · 07/07/2025 10:01

This country is one of the richest in the world. The problem is not lack of money but the unfair way it is distributed. It is short-sighted to extort money from the poor by paying poverty wages because if they were paid more they could kickstart the economy by buying more. The greed of the company owners is also the seed of their own demise, a slump and the inability of people to buy their products.

The people who work in jobs paying poverty wages are subsidising the very rich*.The last Conservative Government enabled the super rich to steal our Nationalised Industries from us - Railways, Water, Electricity, Gas, Railways etc and enabled the corrupt owners to pay out millions in dividends while polluting our rivers, over charging us, running down our National Health Service etc etc while squirrelling their ill gotten profits away off shore in tax havens.

In contrast to the media narrative, 81% of UK millionaires agree with the statement that it is patriotic to pay a fair share of tax, according to a poll published on 5 June 2025 by Patriotic Millionaires UK. 80% of UK millionaires said they would support a wealth tax of 2% on wealth over £10 million.

*The 'Christians' amongst them don't seem to be worried about Christ's declaration that 'it is easier of a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than a rich man to enter the Kingdom of Heaven.'

Is Charles, Head of the Church of England lying awake at night worrying about going to Hell because of his enormous wealth? He might start by waiving the rents he gets from schools and hospitals and waiving the tax exemptions he enjoys.

We need to use the skills of immigrants/asylum seekers to boost the wealth of this country instead paying them a pittance to not work. We have a desperately low birth rate and a shortage of skilled workers. We need to train up both our young and the largely ambitious ( by definition) immigrants to boost our economy. Many countries allow immigrants or asylum seekers to work while they await a decision instead of leaving them languishing in desperate poverty for years. So should we.

The workers (the wealth makers of this country) should be welcoming immigrants (and often well qualified) asylum seekers as they will fill jobs we can't fill ourselves. They will boost our economy which can't manage with an ever ageing population and one which is suffering from long term effects of Covid and a poorly functioning Health Service.

We need skilled workers not unskilled.
We need companies to be more flexible so those with disabilities that limit their ability to work full time can take a job in the first place.
And don’t bring Christianity into this or the RF because it just makes you look ‘anti Christian’. Which I’m sure you’re not but 🤷‍♀️

crackofdoom · 07/07/2025 12:00

HarkerandBarker · 07/07/2025 06:45

That's stating the bleeding obvious. What is the root cause of it?

Well, housing costs play a massive part in it. So, you have to ask yourself who's benefiting from these huge price rises.

Answer: the boomer generation (who still dominate, demographically speaking), the mortgage lenders, the people buying up property in places like London as an investment, the private equity companies that increasingly control our rental market.

And ask yourself why, when the question of tax raises its head, the conversation always gets diverted towards taxing income rather than property. And who that might benefit.

BlackCatGreyWhiskers · 07/07/2025 11:58

Whilst I agree the decline in support for mental health’s and health conditions more generally is definitely a huge contributor to the rise in those reliant on benefits, I think it’s totally disingenuous not to acknowledge that not working is a totally viable and desirable carer choice for many claiming. My own cousin felt he was “working too hard” and not seeing enough of his now wife - early 20’s, degree educated, actually very intelligent. He’d done the maths and working just wasnt a priority. As a country we have indulged people just like him.

Gonk123 · 07/07/2025 11:54

Agrumpyknitter · 07/07/2025 09:21

We have had 14 years of Tory rule we should we living in a utopia like existence, except we aren’t thanks to their austerity measures, taking money that should have been spent in poorer areas and sending it to areas in Surrey, does anyone remember Rishi boasting about that?

Labour are getting such a hard time, it’s been a year to try and fix the austerity and the mess we are in because of the Tory governments. They are committed to creating growth and removing barriers to it in the financial markets, this is something that is being worked on now.

Half of the wealth in this country is owned by 50 families. If they were taxed at even 2 percent of their wealth that would have raised billions of pounds. The disparity between income and wealth is growing and social mobility is a joke. There is not only a glass ceiling but a class one too.

If we get Reform in then I believe that is the end of the NHS and the insurance based system won’t cover everything you need.

While illegal immigration should be looked at and resolved I don’t understand why the Tory govt made such poor inroads. I think they should have passed special immigration laws and fast tracked those applications within 3 months of arriving or face deportation and held them at the ports. That would have required more immigration law specialists but better than them wasting money on a barge and then the Rwanda system.

Labour are getting a hard time because they are trying to put policies in place that take from the poorest in communities! Ridiculous!

DisplayDinah · 07/07/2025 11:49

ElizaMulvil · 07/07/2025 10:01

This country is one of the richest in the world. The problem is not lack of money but the unfair way it is distributed. It is short-sighted to extort money from the poor by paying poverty wages because if they were paid more they could kickstart the economy by buying more. The greed of the company owners is also the seed of their own demise, a slump and the inability of people to buy their products.

The people who work in jobs paying poverty wages are subsidising the very rich*.The last Conservative Government enabled the super rich to steal our Nationalised Industries from us - Railways, Water, Electricity, Gas, Railways etc and enabled the corrupt owners to pay out millions in dividends while polluting our rivers, over charging us, running down our National Health Service etc etc while squirrelling their ill gotten profits away off shore in tax havens.

In contrast to the media narrative, 81% of UK millionaires agree with the statement that it is patriotic to pay a fair share of tax, according to a poll published on 5 June 2025 by Patriotic Millionaires UK. 80% of UK millionaires said they would support a wealth tax of 2% on wealth over £10 million.

*The 'Christians' amongst them don't seem to be worried about Christ's declaration that 'it is easier of a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than a rich man to enter the Kingdom of Heaven.'

Is Charles, Head of the Church of England lying awake at night worrying about going to Hell because of his enormous wealth? He might start by waiving the rents he gets from schools and hospitals and waiving the tax exemptions he enjoys.

We need to use the skills of immigrants/asylum seekers to boost the wealth of this country instead paying them a pittance to not work. We have a desperately low birth rate and a shortage of skilled workers. We need to train up both our young and the largely ambitious ( by definition) immigrants to boost our economy. Many countries allow immigrants or asylum seekers to work while they await a decision instead of leaving them languishing in desperate poverty for years. So should we.

The workers (the wealth makers of this country) should be welcoming immigrants (and often well qualified) asylum seekers as they will fill jobs we can't fill ourselves. They will boost our economy which can't manage with an ever ageing population and one which is suffering from long term effects of Covid and a poorly functioning Health Service.

If we need immigrants to fill the jobs we can't fill ourselves (both skilled and unskilled) then why is it so hard at the moment for people to find work, especially young people? Any UK citizen should be able to walk into a job centre and come out with a full time minimum wage job, or funded training to go on and fill one of these 'skilled' jobs.
One reason people stay stuck on disability benefit (particularly for mental health or neurodiversity) is because the process of getting a job is now so difficult, especially without recent experience or the ability to come across well at interview. It's dispiriting, even frightening if you've been out of employment for a long time!
Some EU countries have a system where if you can pass a few weeks trial you are guaranteed a minimum wage job with good working conditions and adjustments for your disability - this kind of support could help a lot of benefit claimants into work and force other employers to give their workers fair pay and conditions to compete. Labour keep saying they are the party for working people - why not make it easier for people to find and keep a job, rather than rushing straight to removing their benefits?

EasternStandard · 07/07/2025 11:48

IfNot · 07/07/2025 11:08

I don’t think uncontrolled immigration has ever been a left wing ( or at least not a working class) position?
Its a highly capitalist position- the more cheap labour there is the less they have to pay.
I think there is a difference between liberal and left wing. Traditionally the middle/ upper class left are socially liberal ( pro immigration for humanitarian reasons and pro diversity) and the right wing middle class and upper are fiscally liberal ( pro immigration as grist to the mill).
Thats why the Tories haven’t controlled it. The excessive levels of recent immigrants are the result of the last 14 years not the current labour government.
The increase in destitution and crime is driven by by many factors though.

Although Blair used it too. And pretty much sold in the narrative that we should like it or lump it.

It does feel that people are asking why should I just have this high immigration

smallglassbottle · 07/07/2025 11:44

I don't vote for anyone anymore, I just write what I think of each party on the voting form. I used to be a Labour voter, but they're so messed up now I can't understand what's going on. Never voted Tory. All my inclinations and instincts are right wing these days and it's uncomfortable, but some of the things I see and hear are so damaging to the country that it's depressing to be honest. I wouldn't vote Reform because of Farage. If they had steady, educated and sensible people in the party then it might be a viable option, but at the moment it's a total joke and I fear for the country if they do win the next general election.

I'm being realistic when I say I think the country's had it and I don't think things will improve, they'll get worse and worse until we're like Philadelphia in the US. I'm desperately sad about what will happen to our countryside, wildlife and historic buildings, places of education and monuments. They'll all be consigned to the history books. All I can see is ugly concrete, drugs, rubbish, loud, blaring music, nastiness and cruelty, the people we're not allowed to talk about and cut down trees, polluted rivers etc.

LlynTegid · 07/07/2025 11:26

Southwestten · 07/07/2025 09:50

During her tenure, Theresa May slashed the police force by about 20%. Even if Sunak hired more police to make up for that, the numbers remain lower per capita than they were before the Tories came to power in 2010.

I’ve never understood why Theresa May did that. However crime has been increasing so why hasn’t Labour increased the police force to deal with it?

Gideon Osbourne's austerity budgets.

TempestTost · 07/07/2025 11:11

Yes, movement of labour has always bee a concern of the left, until 5 minutes ago.

IfNot · 07/07/2025 11:08

I don’t think uncontrolled immigration has ever been a left wing ( or at least not a working class) position?
Its a highly capitalist position- the more cheap labour there is the less they have to pay.
I think there is a difference between liberal and left wing. Traditionally the middle/ upper class left are socially liberal ( pro immigration for humanitarian reasons and pro diversity) and the right wing middle class and upper are fiscally liberal ( pro immigration as grist to the mill).
Thats why the Tories haven’t controlled it. The excessive levels of recent immigrants are the result of the last 14 years not the current labour government.
The increase in destitution and crime is driven by by many factors though.

Madcatdudette · 07/07/2025 11:07

spoonbillstretford · 07/07/2025 01:28

I'll always be left wing liberal and no party has ever been left enough for me since John Smith died. I've voted Labour, Lib Dem and Green and will never, ever vote Conservative or Reform.

Oh blimey, I was gutted with Smith died. He was such a great man.
No-one has come close to him, in any party 😕

Tiredofwhataboutery · 07/07/2025 11:06

Southwestten · 07/07/2025 09:50

During her tenure, Theresa May slashed the police force by about 20%. Even if Sunak hired more police to make up for that, the numbers remain lower per capita than they were before the Tories came to power in 2010.

I’ve never understood why Theresa May did that. However crime has been increasing so why hasn’t Labour increased the police force to deal with it?

I think it’s not just the police force, the justice system seems overwhelmed, prisons overcrowded. So if the police did come and arrest every shoplifter. They’d get at max a 12 hour community payback order and use up lots of resources.

I suspect it’s really disheartening for everyone concerned.

TempestTost · 07/07/2025 10:55

LunaTheCat · 07/07/2025 01:13

I was born in the uk and visit yearly.
I visited in June and was horrified… the centre of the Northern City I visit was over -run with homeless people in tents and aggressive beggars. Family members have witnessed knife crime.
I know homelessness is a complex issue but the extent was appalling.
I am also left wing.
I think many years of austerity has damaged Britain.
The aggressive beggars and the homeless people were overwhelmingly white and British.
I love the UK but I am not sure that the UK can come back from this.
I watched a Chanel 4 documentary about shoplifting and phone snatching. The police don’t want to even deal with it. It’s appalling.
I think the UK needs to spend much much more on policing.
The appalling cost of housing must play a part as well as population increases.
I also think there is huge government indifference to the North of the uk.

The fact that the homeless people you saw were British isn't the whole story though.

Whenever there is not enough housing infrastructure for the number of people, it is the most vulnerable who end up being pushed out. Often these days that means addicted people or those with mental health issues. People who aren't easy to house at the best of times.

But who is pushing them out? To some extent it is newly arrived immigrants. Even when they are coming for very legitimate reasons to fulfil a need, they are taking up housing places, and that has an effect. When you are talking about migrants being housed in hotels, those are spaces, and money, that is no longer available to house the local homeless population, (I remember reading recently that in NYC, something like 70% of shelter spaces were being taken by people who had entered the country irregularly. So where you you find the people who would otherwise be in those spaces?)

Bumpitybumper · 07/07/2025 10:52

@ElizaMulvil
In contrast to the media narrative, 81% of UK millionaires agree with the statement that it is patriotic to pay a fair share of tax, according to a poll published on 5 June 2025 by Patriotic Millionaires UK. 80% of UK millionaires said they would support a wealth tax of 2% on wealth over £10 million
Yet record numbers of millionaires are already leaving the country and going to tax friendly countries like Dubai. The clue is the in the suggestion that the tax rate should be 'fair'. This is hugely subjective and quite frankly many feel that tax rates on high earners are already too high. You may disagree but ultimately they are voting with their feet and leaving the UK poorer.

Also the majority of the 80% of millionaires that support the wealth tax probably don't have £10 million. This of course is always the irony. Everyone agrees with tax rises for those wealthier than they are. The same goes with the narrative of your whole post. There is no moral or ethical divide in rich and poor people, everyone is usually out to optimise the situation for themselves. The poor may feel more justified or virtuous in behaving this way but ultimately everyone is self orientated. This is why it's been proven that as people become wealthier they become more right wing. It's easy to be all about sharing and equality when you stand to gain from redistribution but when you have worked hard and dug yourself out from the bottom then you are less keen to share the spoils with strangers.

Bumpitybumper · 07/07/2025 10:45

MidnightPatrol · 07/07/2025 10:01

This is an interesting moral / ethical discussion which needs to be had.

It is incredibly difficult though - as for many families, these schools make a huge difference.

Yes, I agree that it is hugely controversial and those that benefit from these placements are no doubt desperate to keep them but are we as a society willing to fund the placements through tax rises or cutting services elsewhere? It's an awful lot of tax to raise. Again for context, you would need all the income tax paid by two individuals in the top tax decile to fund a single placement or the entirety of the income tax paid by fifty workers in the lowest decile to fund a single placement.

TheMousePipes · 07/07/2025 10:27

I could have written your post - where I live in the Midlands there is a rising tide of pissed off people and the anger is increasingly about uncontrolled immigration and the massive changes that are happening within our society around us. As soon as dd finishes school we are out of here - it doesn’t feel safe, it’s not clean and the demographic is changing so rapidly I’m starting to feel like a stranger in the place I’ve lived all my life. And I feel SO guilty for feeling this way.