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How would you feel about not having a family home if you have DC?

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T1mesAreHardForDreamers · 06/07/2025 19:21

Just looking for perspective and hopefully experiences.

How would you feel if you were in a situation where your only chance of owning a home was to buy one that was too small to permanently house your DC?

The DC are adults in this hypothetical scenario.

Is it normal/common? Does it work, do you feel guilty and would it be difficult practically for your DC?

For context, I have young DC now and rent. I'm very unlikely to afford a family sized home in my area of choice, but could afford a small place.

It goes without saying moving somewhere cheaper is an option, but I'm interested in exploring this option as a long term plan as well. I'm 31 now and am thinking about what to do in 20 years or so. All my DC would be in their 20's.

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T1mesAreHardForDreamers · 06/07/2025 19:25

I probably should have added in case my question sounds weird or tone deaf, everyone I know including myself has parents or is a parent who owns a family sized home. All my siblings including myself have spent periods of time living back at home since moving out. I grew up on a 70's built council estate where everyone had secure large family homes for life essentially.

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