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Aibu for being pissed off with DH over swimming lesson

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whitehear · 06/07/2025 09:28

So he works Monday-Friday, usually leaves around 7am and back about 5.30-6pm. I work Monday-Friday 9.30-2.30. He works away quite a lot as well as being at home.

So I am the one who does everything regarding kids and school plus housework and cooking. When he gets home everything is done, he doesn’t have to do anything. Even on a weekend I’m the one who’s up with the kids first and giving them breakfast. I don’t mind this, I’m not one for staying in bed. He usually gets up an hour later than us. He does take both dds out Sundays to his mums for about 6 hours so I can get all the house cleaned and have a bit of time to myself. He goes for a run 4 times a week and usually out of the house for about an hour.

Sundays our oldest dd has swimming lessons at 9.45am. He takes her. He’s just said to me, we can start taking it in turns taking her, let him have a rest.
Aibu to be pissed off with him saying this? This is literally the only thing he has to do.

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CopperWhite · 06/07/2025 09:34

He gets a rest Saturday morning doesn’t he?

I don’t blame him for not wanting to do it, swimming lessons are a pain in the arse, but it has to be done. Until his children are confident swimmers and he can take them to open sessions later in the day, he has to suck it up.

Unexpecteddrivinginstructor · 06/07/2025 09:34

Tell him that you will do that if he has covered all the children on the Saturday of that weekend so you can have a lie in until 10. Chances are when he finds out he will be up at silly o'clock every other Saturday then swimming at 9.45 will be more attractive.

BlueMum16 · 06/07/2025 09:30

Why don't you take her swimming while he doesn't some housework.

That way you don't do it all.

Auroraloves · 06/07/2025 09:30

He’s a cheeky fucker.