I feel embarrassed, shamed and don't think IABU but would be interested in hearing your POV's.
I grew up in a small town where everyone seems to know everyone else.
Regrettably, in my mid to late teens I had some meaningless ONS's / brief relationships. Not to excuse promiscuity but for context - I had a traumatic childhood and was looking for 'love' in the wrong places.
Fast forward to now I'm 34 and have connected with a nice man from my home town. Ironically, I've been celibate for years.
The problem is, when I was 16-18 I slept with two people he is friends with and one of them has 'warned him' to be careful with me because he doesn't want him to get hurt - I clearly have some reputation I wasn't aware of for sleeping around. I didn't even know my current guy back then.
It's making me second guess the relationship as they are quite close friends and he's always going to be about.
BF has been perfectly kind about it, insisted it doesn't change anything and told his friend he isn't interested in gossip, but I'm feeling shamed and humiliated.
What right (or sense) does he have judging me for deeds done when i was practically a kid? That he also did, I might add.
AIBU to think his friend is an absolute dick for doing that?