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To ask for your rules about teenagers going out

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shapedlikeapear · 06/07/2025 08:36

DD15 has started hanging around local village with friends at night. They all stay out later but at weekends I pick her up at 10.
They don’t do anything wrong but I don’t feel 100% comfortable with it yet. I know she needs freedom to hang out so she doesn’t know I don’t really like it.

last night I got a call from her best friend to say she’d gone in and DD15 was in an uber going to next village along with some lads to hang out there. I went to pick her up immediately as I realised we hadn’t had a chat about what the rules are. I don’t know these lads and they’re all year older.

For context, these aren’t sweet little villages, the 2nd one is quite rough.

I was going to say that she doesn’t get in cars with anyone, go to houses of people we don’t know or with kids we don’t know. Always with 1 other girl. There’s no drinking or smoking yet.

She always has location on and is always where she says she’ll be.

Is there anything else you wished you’d said as kids were getting more grown up/ independent ?

TIA

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shapedlikeapear · 06/07/2025 08:51

Batbrown · 06/07/2025 08:41

So are they just hanging around on the streets?

Yep and by a little lake with their music

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ProfessionalWhimsicalSkidaddler · 06/07/2025 08:50

This is interesting. I used to hang around in the streets in both my quaint village and the neighbouring town. Nothing bad ever came of it. I’m not sure where else kids are able to go unless a parent opens their home but who would want to?!

your rules seem fair but what happens if she breaks them? She will be mixing with people you don’t know and must be trusted to have her own opinion and look after her own safety. I’d be surprised if there’s no drinking or smoking yet. I imagine it’s around her especially if these boys are a year older.

id add that her phone must always be well charged.

CreteBound · 06/07/2025 08:45

Yes my 15 year old is absolutely not allowed to hang round streets.

Swiftie1878 · 06/07/2025 08:44

Nothing good EVER comes from hanging out on the street, especially at night. She and her friends need a safe space to meet.

Pippa12 · 06/07/2025 08:42

Hard fast rule here is no hanging round on the streets. Nothing good comes of it.

Batbrown · 06/07/2025 08:41

So are they just hanging around on the streets?