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Where do you put dc’s uni stuff

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coffeegirl73 · 06/07/2025 00:17

Am trying to be “zen” about dd’s stuff from uni which is currently all round the house as I attempt to find somewhere to put it. She doesn’t want it all piled up in her room so now there’s some in the sitting room , some in the bathroom downstairs, som on the stairs and a huge pile on the landing upstairs. I need to have a talk with myself about not letting it bother me. It does though - bother me! Am going to get some boxes tmw so it mite look more tidy - currently there are a lot of bags spilling over with her stuff . How does everyone else find space to store all the stuff x

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TheSmallAssassin · 06/07/2025 00:32

coffeegirl73 · 06/07/2025 00:22

Her room has to be kept clear of stuff for her mental health 🙈

What about your mental health?!

To answer your question though, if it's just over the summer then in the spare room (we don't have any attic space), if it's at the end of uni, then it has to find a home otherwise it goes in the garage.

Kinneddar · 06/07/2025 00:31

She needs to take responsibility for putting some stuff away you cant live like that til September. You cant have the entire house inconvenienced because she doesn't want to clear up.

Put it in her bedroom and offer to help organise it with her.

Lifeissodifficult · 06/07/2025 00:30

We hired a very small storage unit, you can get one perfect for students.

EmeraldRoulette · 06/07/2025 00:29

coffeegirl73 · 06/07/2025 00:24

Erm do you have any dc at uni 🤣there’s a tv, theres
multiple bags of what she calls “miscellaneous”, there’s all her winter clothes that she won’t unpack as she says there’s no point, there’s all the bedding like duvets and sheets and pillows, there’s a big rug, there’s cleaning stuff and laundry stuff, loads basically

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Well then, she better find somewhere to live where she can put all of this stuff

You say she's refusing to unpack her winter stuff. That suggests that there is unused wardrobe space available.

But it doesn't sound like you're motivated to actually deal with it in a sensible way so 🤷🏻‍♀️

i'm sure my mental health would benefit hugely from not being surrounded by stuff. But you know, I don't live in a mansion. I'm going to guess that she can't afford one either.

TheCurious0range · 06/07/2025 00:29

coffeegirl73 · 06/07/2025 00:24

Erm do you have any dc at uni 🤣there’s a tv, theres
multiple bags of what she calls “miscellaneous”, there’s all her winter clothes that she won’t unpack as she says there’s no point, there’s all the bedding like duvets and sheets and pillows, there’s a big rug, there’s cleaning stuff and laundry stuff, loads basically

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No but I was a student at uni. The laundry stuff can be used, she would have clothes wherever she was living, books on the bookcase (extra piled in the bottom of the wardrobe if needed), I used to take one of my duvets with me usually winter because I went to uni in the north the other one on my bed at home and then vacuum bagged and put away when I got home. Bedding you would have anyway so it just goes wherever you keep your linens, airing cupboard at my parents' house. I just had 4 pillows rather than 2 on the bed (double) The plastic box of kitchen stuff was lidded and would go in the loft for the summer. The TV I just used in my room at home over the summer. I have no idea why she needs a rug as a student, but I did come home with a BBQ once but that went in the shed.

BreakingBroken · 06/07/2025 00:29

@coffeegirl73 i would take all the cleaning liquids mix them with the household supply and use them up (clean the spay bottles and refill prior to her return send her with fresh). for winter clothing and the bedding the vacuum seal bags are great (be aware they do get heavy despite being compact and puff up slightly over time). buy all the same brand of tote bins so that they stack properly.

BreakingBroken · 06/07/2025 00:25

fairly large tupperware tote bins, used vacuum sealed bags AND also paid for a storage locker near campus. out of 3 kids who attended over a course of 7 years or so, good quality bins (no cardboard) and the shared storage locker worked the best. we also invested in good quality construction dollies. 3 kids each a year apart who attended 3 uni's/colleges in 3 different cities. it was a precision operation.

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coffeegirl73 · 06/07/2025 00:24

TheCurious0range · 06/07/2025 00:19

What did does she have at uni that she didn't have at home except maybe a small box of kitchen equipment?!

Erm do you have any dc at uni 🤣there’s a tv, theres
multiple bags of what she calls “miscellaneous”, there’s all her winter clothes that she won’t unpack as she says there’s no point, there’s all the bedding like duvets and sheets and pillows, there’s a big rug, there’s cleaning stuff and laundry stuff, loads basically

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coffeegirl73 · 06/07/2025 00:22

Her room has to be kept clear of stuff for her mental health 🙈

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outerspacepotato · 06/07/2025 00:20

In her room. She can't store her stuff all over the house and stairs and landings need to be clear. She doesn't like it? She can get a storage unit.

Says the mom who is storing some boxes for eldest in the attic.

TheCurious0range · 06/07/2025 00:19

What did does she have at uni that she didn't have at home except maybe a small box of kitchen equipment?!

MargaretThursday · 06/07/2025 00:18

Currently in her room, her sister's room, in the hallway, the living room, the dining room... aagh!