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Am I overthinking about another woman going after partner

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yippitu · 05/07/2025 22:28

My DP is meeting friends this evening for a few drinks, however I saw a message ping on his phone a few days ago from a younger woman of along the lines “I’m out this Saturday so you’d better be too, it’s been way too long xx”, I don’t know if I’m now overthinking things of her trying to “tempt” him away, I’m sure it’s given his ego a boost if it’s not just a friendly text, I’ve never had a reason to doubt him before but having been left in the past by ex for OW i wonder if I’m just being overly sensitive? Would you be worried?

Things have been a bit up and down at home - just bickering recently, not much time just for us and very little sex (I’m 37 weeks pg, uncomfortable and with a clingy 17 month old and the heatwave it’s been a bit hard at times).

I do trust him, but I know he’s only human and having been stung horribly in the past I know it does happen.

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WotsitsMadeIn1927 · 05/07/2025 22:38

Did you see how he responded?

Its been way too long from when and what?

How is he with his phone? Secretive? Open?

Usual mumsnet sayings ‘trust your gut’ and to be honest that text seems a little sussed to me.

Take care OP 💐

SpryCat · 05/07/2025 22:33

I would have asked about the message, it’s not like you were looking in his phone as the message came up on screen.