Termination of pregnancies - too willing to terminate, maybe there are other choices?

Have you forgotten the physical and mental impact of pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum? I am 5 months pp so it has been 14 months since I found out I was pregnant with a much wanted baby. I had a low risk pregnancy, some last minute minor complications resulting in c-section, and a very positive speedy recovery, yet I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. My organs have been rearranged and are putting themselves back together. It was over two months before I felt able to bend over to pick up anything because of the back ache. The mental impact of hormone fluctuations made me unrecognisable to myself and incapable of any rational thought or conversation. My hair is falling out in clumps, I went through sickness and pelvic pain and the list really does go on…and this is all for a low risk, uncomplicated pregnancy and postpartum recovery. It takes two years to recover from pregnancy and birth, at which point there may well be lasting, irreversible negative changes to physical or mental health. The idea that women should go through this unwillingly to then give a baby up for adoption into a care system which is underfunded and failing, especially knowing the negative impact of separating a baby from the woman who carried and birthed them? Madness.

Women are human beings, not incubators and fertile women are certainly not incubators for infertile women. Obviously infertility is awful for someone who badly wants a baby but someone else deciding to have an abortion has nothing to do with that.

I firmly agree with as early as possible, as late as necessary.

I agree. Pressuring women to give birth to babies in order to hand them over to an adoption market is vile.

No. I think it’s just me who said that. I have zero control. I don’t want it. I just can’t say I’m pro choice when I feel there’s a point it’s not an abortion.

As early as possible, as late as necessary. After 24 weeks, there has to be a significant risk to the health of the mother or the baby for an abortion to be authorised. Would I want to force a woman to give birth in those circumstances? Absolutely not. Would you?

It's just a regressive attempt to control women's bodies and, of course, shame their behaviour.

Nope I was answering a question regarding a cut off. There seems to be a difference for most people.

Random, baiting, click bait. There always one, usually from outside UK, popping along for a wind up

It’s really weird. There’s scarily loads of kids on tiktok with similar views. Yes British ones. You know it’s not ‘just’ the parenting. It’s only the trashing of a women’s health and body. Two years really written off. Risk of death and long term injury. And for a child who you want to abandoned at birth. It’s quite cruel really. To everyone involved.

So a person having multiple abortions on the NHS is not something that should ever be addressed? I actually know somebody who couldn't get an appointment until very late as they were so fully booked at which point she felt it had gone too far so continued the pregnancy

Indeed. There seems to be a concerted effort to make out that most women are having abortions at 35 weeks.🙄

“I find the issue of pregnancy termination difficult. For context, I’ve had five miscarriages and one baby born sleeping at 29 weeks.”

But the reason you’re free to keep trying to conceive after such heartbreaking losses is the same reason another woman should be free to have as many abortions as she chooses: bodily autonomy.

If the government ever tried to ban women with a history of miscarriage or stillbirth from trying to conceive—on the grounds that their pregnancies might end in the death of a foetus or a baby —I would fight just as fiercely for your right to make decisions about your body as I would for a woman choosing to end a pregnancy.

For the record, I had 3 miscarriages, an ectopic pregnancy and can no longer have babies due to a horrific and botched delivery, but my own experiences haven’t changed my views on bodily autonomy.

You cannot legally terminate a pregnancy after 24 weeks for ‘no reason’

However, if medical professionals have deemed there to be significant implication to either the life/mental health of the pregnant person or the fetus has a condition that would significantly impact its quality of life.

People aren’t deciding at 35 or 39 weeks to have an abortion just because they can’t be arsed.

Canvassing opinions for what? Are you writing an article about abortion? It's none of your business

Im pro choice so I have no limits, none.

Most abortions in the UK are carried out in the early stage, using pills.

Well both, I imagine. The point is that their perception is different. It’s perfectly possibly for someone to grieve their much wanted 20 week old foetus, and for someone else to be relieved that they no longer have to carry their 20 week old foetus. It’s still a foetus.

Do you really think there are hoards of women at 35 weeks pregnant deciding on a whim to have a termination because they've had enough? That they're fed up because their feet are too swollen for her shoes? Really?
Don't be daft.

I do not doubt for one second that the uptick in these threads recently has been in part a reaction to recent news articles, and also because there seems to be a concerted effort by certain groups to erode a woman’s right to choose. The state of things in America right now should give us all pause. It could easily happen in the UK.

OP, I’ve had abortions and I’ve had miscarriages. I feel much the same way about both sets of circumstances: they were not meant to be. If you don’t like abortions, don’t have one.

I don't think it's appropriate to make comment or judgement on the number or reason for a strangers (or anyone's) termination.

You should do what feels right for you and let others do the same.

Do you agree with an abortion at 35 weeks. No reason. Just because it’s suddenly not working out for mum? What about 39 weeks? Do you have a limit?

How often do you think these scenarios actually happen?

I do. Plus believe it or not I’m allowed an opinion. I said there were certain circumstances and the law allows this.

Do you agree with an abortion at 35 weeks. No reason. Just because it’s suddenly not working out for mum? What about 39 weeks? Do you have a limit?

So they are grieving the future they had imagined/dreamed of, not the loss of their child/baby/foetus?

Abortions did exist in the 1920s and 1960s.
Just not legal ones.
Abortions have always existed one way or another.
Personally I don't think I could ever have one unless it was for severe medical reasons - but there's no way I would stop another woman having one.
That's not my decision. It's theirs.

This. I hate the whole adoption of babies thing in America, it's like a baby market.