To want to kill myself over bedtime

The title is a bit much.

He's only 2. He's still very young. Can you sit with him until he falls asleep even if it is an hour. It will get less in time.

Is he exhausted enough? I read on MN someone doing a dance party type thing before bedtime that guaranteed the kids slept straightaway. I try to get mine to do lots of exercise in the day by walking everywhere rather than using the pram and also long hours in the park. I also try to make sure the naps are not too long. When I do this bedtimes are great but on the days I forget I can see they are just not tired enough and stay awake for ages.

What he really wants is your attention. You know this.
Is he a bit over tired? Maybe bring bedtime forward 15 minutes.
Have a chat earlier in the day and say that the upset around bedtime isn't great and you're going to have a new start. Maybe a reward jar? Or sticker sheet and once there are 5? Stickers for good bedtime then he gets a small reward.
Tell him he gets to choose a toy before bedtime, but then no swaps, ditto all the other tactics..
I would never restrict affection or reassurance, but any other shenanigans were nipped in the bud (still felt like ages)
It will pass..

Have you considered a sleep consultant?
Does he have a father / other mother at home?

Been in this position with my 4yo for the last couple of years. I’ve just accepted that bedtime takes over an hour and it’s part of my evening now 🤣 we have a baby now too so we alternate nights. I actually prefer the bedtime with my 4yo now because the other person has to put baby to bed and then tidy downstairs 🤣

As everyone says, we’ll miss it one day!

Yep, hate bedtimes too with DS7.
mum, I need to tell you something
mum, I need a poo
mum, can you put my night light on
mum, see what I’ve drawn
mum, can we do reading
mum, can I give you a hug
arghhhhhhhhhh