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Is Pride exempt from public indecency rules?

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Libre2 · 05/07/2025 20:29

DD (aged 14) went into London today with a friend she is staying with. I can only assume friend’s parents didn’t realise it was pride weekend and we don’t live anywhere near London so had no idea.

Aside from the fact that it was a complete ballache getting back out because tube stations were closed, DD said she was shocked at some of the things she saw in terms of arses on display with men just wearing “thongs”.

How is it OK to have such sexualised stuff going on in view of young kids?

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SquishedMallow · 05/07/2025 22:10

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 22:08

Arses aren't sexual

Plenty of women are walking around showing their arse

It's pretty clear your issues are with the "men" part.

I don't see females parading their whole unknickered arse at pride. I've never ever seen it.

Branster · 05/07/2025 22:10

I know exactly what you mean OP!
I've stumbled across the London Pride event for a good few years, every year. Days out, often with the children in tow, middle of the day.
We don't go for days out in London during July anymore because the level of indecency was so, so bad.
I can understand if it was evening time or just one location. But no, middle of the day, obviously attendees spread around the areas because they need to travel, groups of people everywhere you turn.
I would point out the one positive thought, and that is I never felt in any way unsafe and there was a sense of they get on with having a good time and not actually bothering anyone. I'm guessing is dressing up because it is an event, people don't actually go around dressed like that in day to day life. Which is brilliant. Apart from, I don't want any of my children seeing the display of over sexualised attire.

JustSawJohnny · 05/07/2025 22:10

IButtleSir · 05/07/2025 22:09

Why isn't there an annual event to celebrate what other marginalised groups have achieved?

Personally, having equal rights is enough of a celebration for me.

Nobody's stopping any marginalised group having a parade if they want to.

Slimlampshady · 05/07/2025 22:10

I had exactly this issue last year when I was in London at the same time as Pride and accidentally found myself in the middle of it with my DCs. There was a group of people wearing fishnet stuff, things barely concealing anything, and leather gear. One woman’s vulva was plainly visible.

I would support any festival that was anti-prejudice / homophobia or whatever. But this was a no holds barred display of overt kink/raunchiness. It was about sex rather than sexuality. And whilst I’ve got no problem with people doing whatever they like with whomever they choose, I’d prefer them not to be acting it out in fetish wear down Oxford Street on a Saturday afternoon.

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:09

Libre2 · 05/07/2025 20:29

DD (aged 14) went into London today with a friend she is staying with. I can only assume friend’s parents didn’t realise it was pride weekend and we don’t live anywhere near London so had no idea.

Aside from the fact that it was a complete ballache getting back out because tube stations were closed, DD said she was shocked at some of the things she saw in terms of arses on display with men just wearing “thongs”.

How is it OK to have such sexualised stuff going on in view of young kids?

Seriously, chill. Your DD 14 went to central London alone with a friend or with them and their parents? If the former, men in thongs are the least of your worries.

Watermelonice · 05/07/2025 22:09

What do LGB think of it all? Are they embarrassed by TQ+ et al?

lifeturnsonadime · 05/07/2025 22:09

Jennps · 05/07/2025 22:08

There are just desperate for their ‘progressive’ and ‘inclusive’ brownie points. They’ll move into the new fad soon enough.

I'm not so sure, there are definitely activists on Mumsnet. It's all about normalising and getting women to lower boundaries around children.

IButtleSir · 05/07/2025 22:09

youreactinglikeafunmum · 05/07/2025 22:06

Its a celebration of all that the lgbt community has achieved 🏳️‍🌈

Why isn't there an annual event to celebrate what other marginalised groups have achieved?

Personally, having equal rights is enough of a celebration for me.

youreactinglikeafunmum · 05/07/2025 22:09

myplace · 05/07/2025 22:07

What have they achieved? Can you explain?

Freedom for the lgbt community to exist peacefully

Equal marriage

Alan carr being on tv 🥰

AzurePanda · 05/07/2025 22:09

I often think Pride Marches look exactly like a march by an evangelical Christian group wanting to depict gay people as sexual deviants and perverts. Most of my gay friends are appalled by the whole thing.

BloodandGlitter · 05/07/2025 22:09

flowertoday · 05/07/2025 21:47

Just in the spirit of devil's advocate .... if it was an event celebrating heterosexuality would it be OK to have skimpily clad in scanty clothing behaving in ways that were sexually suggestive. I think probably not tbh

Yes I know love island and all the other reality shows about sex But on the street.

I honestly don't understand why pride is so sexualised as obviously there is a hell of alot more to the lgbtq community than sex and odd blokes showing their bits and bobs off in women's clothes.
Just why ?

That's every friday and saturday night in the city centre.

SquishedMallow · 05/07/2025 22:08

IButtleSir · 05/07/2025 22:05

Sticking my head above the parapet here, but... is Pride actually an important event? Historically, it absolutely was, but now gay people in the UK have equal rights enshrined in law, I just don't see the point in it. I don't think any homophobic people are going to be convinced out of their homophobia by a Pride event, so what's the point?

I agree with this.

Most of the gay people I know (and this includes actual friends) feel embarrassed by the continued victim mentality of some minority of gay people (a very vocal minority I will say ). Gay people in Britain have all the same rights as straight people. They're equally as protected and opportuned as their neighbour.

But then we got the "micro aggressions" when the vocal minority were not happy with equality.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 22:08

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Arses aren't sexual

Plenty of women are walking around showing their arse

It's pretty clear your issues are with the "men" part.

Jennps · 05/07/2025 22:08

lifeturnsonadime · 05/07/2025 22:05

The men's sexual rights activists are out in force on here tonight...

There are just desperate for their ‘progressive’ and ‘inclusive’ brownie points. They’ll move into the new fad soon enough.

JustSawJohnny · 05/07/2025 22:08

Horseebooks · 05/07/2025 21:49

From ‘my daughter saw an arse’ to ‘theyre all pedos dontcha know’ in under three pages

Some mad throwback shit going on here.

Hallehills · 05/07/2025 22:08

BundleBoogie · 05/07/2025 21:56

So it’s ok to for Pride to encourage parents to take their kids as it’s ‘family friendly’, only to discover the ‘furry’ fetish stall and the men parading their butt plugs? Are you serious?

There are no warnings of explicit or 18+ behaviour on the website.

Erm, why are you coming for me? Get back in your box.

Have you ever even been to a Pride parade?! Do you live in London?! Have you ever taken the time to fully look up the history of Pride?! (And I mean really look it up, watch some documentaries, read some well-written texts - not just what you hear on here or the Daily Mail). You don't seem to have much of a clue to just be leaping to all these random assumptions. I didnt see a single furry butt plug. Just a couple of hairy cheeks, some fun outfits and a whole lot of love.

Anyone who doesn't understand what the Pride march is London is like and wants to go with their kids, should do their own homework. Pride London does not = Pride everywhere.

IButtleSir · 05/07/2025 22:07

Fundayout2025 · 05/07/2025 22:02

Maybe only in London. My local pride festival has nothing much more than a couple of drag queens , at least during daylight hours. In fact it's my DGS aim to become a drag queen when he's grown up.

But it is all family friendly during the day

I went to Brighton Pride 15 years ago and saw more male arse cheeks than I have ever seen before or since. It's not just London.

myplace · 05/07/2025 22:07

youreactinglikeafunmum · 05/07/2025 22:06

Its a celebration of all that the lgbt community has achieved 🏳️‍🌈

What have they achieved? Can you explain?

Jennps · 05/07/2025 22:06

Still waiting for the ‘achingly cool crowd’ to explain why, if a straight person behaved the way described in this thread, they would be considered a risk or a fetishist, but it’s ok to do at Pride?

Why is it different?

youreactinglikeafunmum · 05/07/2025 22:06

IButtleSir · 05/07/2025 22:05

Sticking my head above the parapet here, but... is Pride actually an important event? Historically, it absolutely was, but now gay people in the UK have equal rights enshrined in law, I just don't see the point in it. I don't think any homophobic people are going to be convinced out of their homophobia by a Pride event, so what's the point?

Its a celebration of all that the lgbt community has achieved 🏳️‍🌈

SquishedMallow · 05/07/2025 22:05

Fundayout2025 · 05/07/2025 22:03

An arse is an arse FFS

Ok, CBBC obviously didn't get the memo. Unless they are routinely showing naked arses on there now ?

SammyScrounge · 05/07/2025 22:05

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 20:41

Arses aren't inherently sexual

They are not generally on display either.

Libre2 · 05/07/2025 22:05

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Thanks for sharing that - interesting reading.

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lifeturnsonadime · 05/07/2025 22:05

The men's sexual rights activists are out in force on here tonight...

JustSawJohnny · 05/07/2025 22:05

Norma27 · 05/07/2025 20:54

you are completely right Op and the people on this thread thinking it is ok for men to act out their fetish and show their cock to young kids is just madness.

Who said anyone had their cock out?

Your'e making stuff up.