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Is Pride exempt from public indecency rules?

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Libre2 · 05/07/2025 20:29

DD (aged 14) went into London today with a friend she is staying with. I can only assume friend’s parents didn’t realise it was pride weekend and we don’t live anywhere near London so had no idea.

Aside from the fact that it was a complete ballache getting back out because tube stations were closed, DD said she was shocked at some of the things she saw in terms of arses on display with men just wearing “thongs”.

How is it OK to have such sexualised stuff going on in view of young kids?

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BundleBoogie · 05/07/2025 22:32

Hallehills · 05/07/2025 22:08

Erm, why are you coming for me? Get back in your box.

Have you ever even been to a Pride parade?! Do you live in London?! Have you ever taken the time to fully look up the history of Pride?! (And I mean really look it up, watch some documentaries, read some well-written texts - not just what you hear on here or the Daily Mail). You don't seem to have much of a clue to just be leaping to all these random assumptions. I didnt see a single furry butt plug. Just a couple of hairy cheeks, some fun outfits and a whole lot of love.

Anyone who doesn't understand what the Pride march is London is like and wants to go with their kids, should do their own homework. Pride London does not = Pride everywhere.

Charming.

You said I know, but quite frankly, all you have to do is use your eyeballs 😅 when I pointed out that Pride events generally promote themselves as being family friendly and gs r no 18+ earnings on their website.

Yes I’ve been to a Pride event.

I have no idea why I have to read some ‘well written texts’ on the history of Pride in order to point out that public nudity and fetish is nit ‘family friendly’.

Anyone who doesn't understand what the Pride march is London is like and wants to go with their kids,

Are you suggesting that despite their claims, we should assume that Pride is full of men displaying their sexual fetishes and is therefore utterly unsuitable for children? I

According to Pride history, gay men worked hard to dispel any links with paedophiles and inappropriate behaviour around children as a myth though??

Jennps · 05/07/2025 22:32

youreactinglikeafunmum · 05/07/2025 22:25

Do you live in london, or a big city?

Big cities are full of unique and weird happenings - thats what makes it so great

People wanna do away with the nightclubs, the events, the carnivals, the naked bike ride

Its just one day of the year 😄, its part of what makes london so cool

This is a perfect example of normalising inappropriate and frankly disturbing behaviour. Calling it weird and unique.

ProudCat · 05/07/2025 22:31

Libre2 · 05/07/2025 20:29

DD (aged 14) went into London today with a friend she is staying with. I can only assume friend’s parents didn’t realise it was pride weekend and we don’t live anywhere near London so had no idea.

Aside from the fact that it was a complete ballache getting back out because tube stations were closed, DD said she was shocked at some of the things she saw in terms of arses on display with men just wearing “thongs”.

How is it OK to have such sexualised stuff going on in view of young kids?

Probably best to have some idea of what's going on in an area you're sending your unaccompanied kid to.

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:31

IButtleSir · 05/07/2025 22:30

But I do have to see it, if it's happening right in front of me! Obviously I would then turn the other way, but I've already seen it!

I think people of both sexes should wear clothes which cover them from their nipples to upper thighs, at the very least, when in public. I also think people should refrain from wearing fetish gear in public. I cannot understand why this is a controversial opinion.

Who do you think you are? Just because YOU believe that is correct does not in any way make it so.

TheOriginalEmu · 05/07/2025 22:31

There are plenty of police around at Pride. Presumably if laws were being broken they would do something about it.

Slimlampshady · 05/07/2025 22:31

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:29

Gay people are weirdos, right. You've just shown who you are.

Weirdos and weirdos. You are mistaking the vast majority of the gay community for the sex-obsessed kink minority who have hijacked Pride and turned it from a celebration of sexuality during a time of repression into a celebration of sex itself.

IButtleSir · 05/07/2025 22:31

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:28

Do you constantly swerve when on beaches to avoid bikini bums and speedos? 😂😂😂

CENTRAL LONDON IS NOT A FUCKING BEACH.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 22:31

HundredMilesAnHour · 05/07/2025 22:25

We don't go for days out in London during July anymore because the level of indecency was so, so bad.

Am I living in a parallel universe? Honestly, I have no words.🙄

I live in London. I will be refusing to go into the office on Monday due to it being July and the levels of indecency being so very bad in July. I’m sure my boss will understand.

Maybe the weather reports can add this in now?

Pollen count: high
Humidity levels: 100%
Indecency levels: critical

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:30

youreactinglikeafunmum · 05/07/2025 22:25

Do you live in london, or a big city?

Big cities are full of unique and weird happenings - thats what makes it so great

People wanna do away with the nightclubs, the events, the carnivals, the naked bike ride

Its just one day of the year 😄, its part of what makes london so cool

Live and let live. 100%

SquishedMallow · 05/07/2025 22:30

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 22:30

Wearing a thong isn't celebrating anal sex 🤣🤣🤣

Also, you don't know anything about the posters here to be suggesting we are all white and straight...

Oooh I'd bet good money you are.

IButtleSir · 05/07/2025 22:30

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:25

You don't need to watch! What do you think should change? I'm curious.

But I do have to see it, if it's happening right in front of me! Obviously I would then turn the other way, but I've already seen it!

I think people of both sexes should wear clothes which cover them from their nipples to upper thighs, at the very least, when in public. I also think people should refrain from wearing fetish gear in public. I cannot understand why this is a controversial opinion.

SquishedMallow · 05/07/2025 22:30

Jennps · 05/07/2025 22:06

Still waiting for the ‘achingly cool crowd’ to explain why, if a straight person behaved the way described in this thread, they would be considered a risk or a fetishist, but it’s ok to do at Pride?

Why is it different?

Because, there's a two tier system that's been successfully achieved.

It's just the gullible #bekind shouties are too brainwashed to see it.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 22:30

SquishedMallow · 05/07/2025 22:22

I get where you're coming from. But, at a beach or a pool you are going there with the expectation that people will be in "underwear" like garments. That's what bikini and swim shorts kind of are. But at a so called public "family" event in the street: you wouldn't perhaps expect to see naked arses. I think context is everything. We're constantly shouted at by white straight women that gay males are about so much more than anal sex and promiscuity. because oh no, there's never any truth in stereotypes. It's all about love . And it's all just liked BBC dramas where they're just like a straight couple. So, naked arses at an "acceptance/'love is love ' festival is really helping the cause isn't it ? but now the straight white women are saying it's ok ?

Wearing a thong isn't celebrating anal sex 🤣🤣🤣

Also, you don't know anything about the posters here to be suggesting we are all white and straight...

Slimlampshady · 05/07/2025 22:30

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:27

It's their time to celebrate, ONE day.

Whose time to celebrate? I know many gay people, and none of them want to celebrate their sexuality in that way. In fact several of them have told me they hate Pride because it perpetuates the myth that gay people are sex-obsessed deviants.

It’s not Fetish Pride.

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:29

Jennps · 05/07/2025 22:28

That’s it everyone. Whip out your blindfold and cover your kids eyes as soon as you see fetishized behaviour at a public event like Pride. It’s you who must cover your eyes. It’s you who must go it of your way to protect children from it.

We mustn’t disturb the enjoyment of weirdos.

Gay people are weirdos, right. You've just shown who you are.

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:28

IButtleSir · 05/07/2025 22:26

Why should someone have to change their route to avoid seeing someone's arse? Or someone dressed in fetish gear? Surely it's reasonable to assume you wouldn't see these things in public?

Do you constantly swerve when on beaches to avoid bikini bums and speedos? 😂😂😂

Jennps · 05/07/2025 22:28

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:25

You don't need to watch! What do you think should change? I'm curious.

That’s it everyone. Whip out your blindfold and cover your kids eyes as soon as you see fetishized behaviour at a public event like Pride. It’s you who must cover your eyes. It’s you who must go it of your way to protect children from it.

We mustn’t disturb the enjoyment of weirdos.

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:27

IButtleSir · 05/07/2025 22:26

Why should someone have to change their route to avoid seeing someone's arse? Or someone dressed in fetish gear? Surely it's reasonable to assume you wouldn't see these things in public?

Again, WHY do you care?

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:27

Fundayout2025 · 05/07/2025 22:26

The point exactly. Teens live in London.

🙄 not my point.

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:27

Slimlampshady · 05/07/2025 22:26

Or alternatively, people could leave their overtly sexualised behaviour at home.

If you’re gay and proud of it, because homophobia is fucking disgusting, then good luck to you and you have my full support. But if you’re into fetish gear, whatever your sexuality, whilst that’s fine I think it’s reasonable to keep it the fuck off Oxford Street at 3pm on a Saturday.

It's their time to celebrate, ONE day.

Fundayout2025 · 05/07/2025 22:26

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:24

Many people live in London between those very ages....crazy.

The point exactly. Teens live in London.

IButtleSir · 05/07/2025 22:26

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:22

Walk the other way if it offends you sooo much.

Why should someone have to change their route to avoid seeing someone's arse? Or someone dressed in fetish gear? Surely it's reasonable to assume you wouldn't see these things in public?

SquishedMallow · 05/07/2025 22:26

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 05/07/2025 22:18

Barely and the thong is a thong

It's the same really

But it's not "the mens" so we can't attack them the same

Actually I'm the first person to call out man hating on here. It's more to do with the context of lack of consent of being subjected to nudity at an event advertised as 'family friendly '. I don't want to see men or women's arses. And if you really do regularly see women in thongs in public walking around in town, I'd expect them to be reported for public indecency. The same way a man jn Speedos on the beach is acceptable, but if he was walking round Tesco : same applies, public indecency.

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:26

Jennps · 05/07/2025 22:25

Haha, touché

Touché my ass. I saw a bum cheek, now I need therapy, my poor kids were traumatised.

Slimlampshady · 05/07/2025 22:26

JaneEyre40 · 05/07/2025 22:22

Walk the other way if it offends you sooo much.

Or alternatively, people could leave their overtly sexualised behaviour at home.

If you’re gay and proud of it, because homophobia is fucking disgusting, then good luck to you and you have my full support. But if you’re into fetish gear, whatever your sexuality, whilst that’s fine I think it’s reasonable to keep it the fuck off Oxford Street at 3pm on a Saturday.

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